Post # 1
I am curious to know in what order life events have happened to you. I am talking about big events such as:
- graduating college
- starting your career
- buying a home
I want to know the events from YOUR perspective (i.e. not necessarily when your SO graduated or started their career)
I just find it kind of funny that my FH and I have not followed the “normal” or “suggested” plan, and we are still making it/going to make it. I think the order that I listed them above is what most people would suggest; hence “get married before you have a baby” or “start your career before settling down with someone.”
So far here’s my order:
- baby (due Nov 2011)
- graduating college (Dec 2011)
- buying a home (Jan/Feb 2012- we actually got approved yesterday but want to save more $ for our dream house’s down payment)
- wedding (July 2012)
- starting my career (Aug 2012- I’m going to be a teacher, and I don’t want to start teaching in the middle of the school year, so I’m waiting til the beginning of the next school year)
I’m not saying any order is better than the other, I’m just saying I think any order could work for any couple.
What’s your “blueprint of life?”
Post # 3
Stop the madness one post in one category, that’s it!
Post # 4
@Atalanta: Calm down I posted twice in Beehive by accident sheesh!
Don’t have a heart attack, I attempted to “fix” it for you.
Post # 5
- Moved out on my own (2007 age 20)
- Moved in with Fiance (2008 age 20)
- Got laid off from a job I loved (a piviotal moment for me lol 2008 age 21)
- Got married (2011 age 23)
- Started taking photos and earning money for it (thus starting my business 2011 age 23)
Future timeline (hopefully)
- Buy a house (Fall of 2012)
- Start college (Fall of 2012)
- Quit my corporate job and become a full time photog (Summer of 2013)
- Have a baby (2014)
Just looking at this, the first half of my timeline looks super lame! eek.
Post # 6
Education came first for me. There didn’t even seem to be any other option there..
- College (17-21)
- Graduate Schoo (21-22)
- Got estblished in career (22-26)
(This is the point when i actually figured out who the heck I am…it happened through a lot of travel, exploration, dropping of friends who wanted me to be the person I was in college for the rest of my life, and meeting new, more open minded people.)
- Move to Virginia (this was a big “break” from my old, close minded life) (26)
- Bought my condo (27, my mom actually said “why would a single girl own a home?)
- Become better known in my industry (28-33)
- Got engaged (33)
- Get married (34)
- Buy house (34-35)
The current plan is the be child-free.
Post # 7
Education was first for me too. I would have loved to been married and have kids before now, but that’s not how it worked out for me.
- College Graduation (22)
- Establish my career (22-26), although I will say that my career has had several twists and turns
- Buy a house (32)
- Lose job and move to a different state (37)–this is important because I met Darling Husband when I moved to that state
- Moved in with Darling Husband and moved to yet another state (40)
- Get married (41)
- TTC (42)–we’ll see how that one goes. If it doesn’t work out on it’s own, we might adopt or we might just say we aren’t meant to have kids.
@kate169: Your timeline does not look lame! Life is a journey, not a destination. You can’t always control what happens to you, you can only control how you deal with it.
Post # 8
Let’s see…college (18 – 22), started working full-time at the company I had interned at (22), got engaged (22), broke off engagement (23), left job (23), decided to drive across the country with an old love (23)…haha, and that’s where I am right now, in transit. Next up will be getting a new job, settling in to being with a Military Man, and hopefully having kids!
Post # 9
- graduated college (21)
- was lame/needed to find myself for a few years (21-24)
- back to school/met Fiance (24)
- graduated/started my career (26)
- engaged (29–but basically 30)
This is where I am now. I’ll be married at 31. I hope to have at least one child by 33. A house would be nice too but babies are my priority.
Post # 10
I did mine ALL backwards;
Age 24 had my first son (still lived at home wtih parents)
Went to college
jobs in my field weren’t working with the long hours and a son so I found a local job which has now become my career
Bought my first house when he was 7
a year and a half later, bought my second house
decided it was time to make room for dating
met my now fiance- a few months later he moved in
about a year and a half later I became pregnant and had a beautiful son!
another year and a half later we got engaged
I’ve been at my job for almost 8 yrs, now have a 16yr old and a 2yr old and will be married next May
Post # 11
2001, age 18 – graduated high school, moved out on my own, got married
2004, age 21 – got divorced
2006, age 23 – graduated college, moved in with my now-husband and moved to a different city, got my first “career-type” job
2007, age 24 – got laid off (no surprise, the turn-over at the company was mindblowing, less than 30 employees and at least 1-2 people PER MONTH got laid-off, I was there a year and half the employees were different than when I started)
2008, age 25 – got my current job, 1000x better than the previous!
2009, age 26 – now-husband and I bought house (in his name, I didn’t want my name on it since we weren’t married yet)
2010, age 27 – got engaged
2011, age 28 – got married
Post # 12
Other than moving in with Darling Husband before getting engaged I’m on a pretty traditional path.
2006 (21) Graduated College, Moved to NYC, Started working, Met Darling Husband
2008 (23) Moved in with Darling Husband (he already owned)
2009 (25) Got Engaged
2011 (26) Got Married
The plan is to start my MBA and buy a new place in 2012 (27) and to start trying in 2014 (29/30)
Post # 13
I would not necessarily say it’s blueprint as you have no control over some of it.
The way things happened for me:
- graduate college
- started career
- purchased home
- got engaged
- got married
- hopefully start family next!
Post # 14
For me, it’s pretty much how I expected it to be…
- Graduated college at the end of 2006 (23)
- Started Career in 2007 (24)
- Got engaged 2007
- Moved across the country and moved in together 2008
- Got married in 2009 (26)
- Hopefully pregnant in the next year or so (will be 28)
- Buy a house in a few years when we move back to the east coast.
Would have been nice to buy a house by now but, ehh, it wasn’t in the cards to do it.
Post # 15
I think mine is fairly traditional! I graduated university, then we moved in together, then got engaged, then bought a house, then got married, and a baby will be next 🙂
Post # 16
2006 – graduated high school
2010 – graduated undergrad
later 2010 – got married
2010-2012 – postbac advancement in my research field
2012 (hopefully!) – acceptance to graduate school, which means a big move
It won’t be until after I graduate with my PhD that we’ll start thinking about a more permanent house and kids – We really like being young and free to move as we please 🙂