Post # 1
It is cold and flu season so inevitably the little ones especially get cold after cold, and thus sick days from school.
Speaking for myself the decision to send them to school or not is one I fret about every. single. time. Firstly, and most importantly if rest is what is needed to get better sooner, than rest is what is best. Secdonly, no need to torture every other parent in the school by spreading whatever it is even though more than likely their is plenty exposed to the same cold regardless by another student. Annnnnnd not to mention that phone call from the nurse halfway through the day that they need to go home and feeling like “BAD MOM.”
However, with that it is not realistic to stay home for sniffle and sore throat as my little one any way would end up being home just as much as at school during cold and flu season.
I know this can be somewhat of a hot topic, but what is your line? (hopefully this stays civil haha) My child’s elementary school goes based on a fever, as in if there is a fever of 100.4 or above, they are sent home. So I use the same line for sending in the first place plus the basic sense of “are they going to get anything done if they go.” Naturally, if she is saying she needs to stay home I usually honor that. However, this is starting to get tricker as she gets older and there is a certain allure to “staying home sick” and getting to watch tv all day.
Post # 2
freshflowers: After watching a loved one’s kids barely pass school due to so many “sick days” I was firm with mine. If you’re puking or have a fever, you can stay home. Otherwise, you can tough it out. Once they got older, I was ok with 1 or 2 free days a year as long as their grades were good and they asked straight up rather than trying to play sick.
Post # 3
I agree with the pp. I have been a mom for a LONG time! Lol …..my middle child tries to play sick a lot while my oldest will literally go to school with a full blown cold and keep saying she feels fine. Fever and throwing up are definite reasons for staying home from school! 😉
Post # 4
True. My sister let her oldest stay home when she was “sick”all the time. Later on as an older child her grades suffered also attendance and now hasn’t even graduate high school. Had to go get her ged now. ( nothing wrong with that) what I am saying is that the pattern was established at ann early age. Send them kids to school! Of course not if they have a fever or are throwing up.
Post # 5
Daisy_Mae: That was like my mom. One time everyone else in my house had the stomach flu and she didn’t believe me that I wasn’t feeling well and made me start getting ready for school. I was so upset that she didn’t believe me
I still remember 20+ years later the feeling of vindication when I started puking everywhere. LOL!
That being said, I will probably be like my mom when I have kids. I survived just fine.
Post # 6
I think that there is certainly a lesson to be learned in knowing how to tough it out from time to time. Growing up one of my friends got to stay home “sick” every time it was the first days of her period through all of middle school and high school. I always remember thinking that was silly because it is not like your period is going away any time soon and as an adult its not like we can check out for 1 out of 4 weeks of the month. Gotta learn how to deal with having the body of a human being from time to time.
Post # 7
Mine is not in school just daycare. We have to have them stay home with a fever (100+). I will probably follow the same rules for older kids. If you have a fever or are puking you can stay home but no one is staying home for a sore throat, cough, or runny nose on its own. I send mine to daycare with a runny nose or little cough because she would never go if I didn’t! They have a runny nose all winter!
Post # 8
Fever or vomit= stay home. Most everything else=tough it out.
My daughter is in middle school and the way things are set up, it ends up being such a big hassle to make up all the work- it’s really not worth it to stay home unless you are really ill. For example- even for PE, you need to exercise 30 minutes independently at home and do a page write up about it and submit it within X amount of days. And that is PE! Just easier to go to school!
Post # 9
I don’t have kids yet but I have an idea of what my limits will be much like everyone else.
Fever or vomit, they will be staying home. I would also keep them home if they were having issues in the bathroom or had a really awful cough (can be disruptive to others and hard to concentrate). If they just have a cold, they can go to school.
Post # 10
My mom did not want us to stay home sick – this was before the cell phone era…
If we had a fever, she would give us some motrin and then put us on the bus so she could go golfing for the day with her girlfriend lol when the school would call to send us home, she wouldn’t be there to pick up! Sounds evil, but mom needed that 6 hour break from her three girls!
So yeah, we never really had sick days unless we were puking our brains out
Post # 11
At least with me and my mom, there were some times where she could just tell I was sick and needed to stay home without a fever or puking. It would almost always turn into fever or puking within 4 hours of her making that call. I didn’t miss much school still, but I typically ended up with something particularly nasty (Pnemonia, Influenzia) that would keep me out for a week. Thanks to my mom making me stay home a few times, I never ended up in the hospital. So I’m calling wiggle room, but not overly agresive wiggle room. I don’t have kids yet, but I’m hoping for the “mom” instinct my mom had to allow me to make some calls like that.
Post # 12
I don’t have children, but when I was a child, I just used to tell my mother if I felt well enough, and she listened to me. It worked fine for us 🙂
ETA: I should add that I was an extremely honest child, and so that is probably why she always took my word for it!
Post # 13
My mom never let us stay home unless we were really sick, fever and/or vomiting and it will be the same for my kids. Darling Husband was allowed to stay home all the time and it led to him thinking he could call in to work all the time without repercussions. He learned quickly that’s not the case! Our kids will go to school unless they really need to stay home, vomit, fever, or obviously not able to function well enough to go to school.
Post # 14
jny1179: this is a great point (something for me to think about when it comes to dd).
Post # 15
Fever or vomiting obviously stay home. If they complain of nausea or pain around the belly button and esp anyone else in the house has been vomiting I also keep them home because I know they’d be mortified if they vomited in school lol . Sore throat they usually tough it out unless it’s accompanied by body aches or feeling “heavy” or “weak”. I have two who rarely stay home and one who is very prone to chest infections who has missed a bit more school than the others. Luckily these days everything is online so he can do work from home right off the computer and rest when he needs. It has not really affected his grades. When I was in high school I also had to miss the first day or two of my period every month because I bled so heavy it was almost impossible to contain lol (TMI I know). I have endometriosis and adenomyosis and I pray my daughter doesn’t inherit this condition but if she does I will understand as it’s pretty difficult to concentrate on school when you’re in terrible pain and worried about leaking! I remember distinctly the first few times my mother tried to send me to school to tough it out and due to the policy of restroom breaks between classes only I had to resort to embarrassing one of my male teachers!. He insisted I should wait till the end of class for my restroom break until I finally said “you know it’s kind of a girl thing and it really won’t wait for the sake of your convenience”. He turned bright red lol