(Closed) What is your opinion about sibling weddings close together?

posted 10 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Do you think its rude for a sibling to choose a wedding date one month after yours?
    Yes : (35 votes)
    41 %
    No : (42 votes)
    49 %
    Other (please comment) : (9 votes)
    10 %
  • Post # 17
    809 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    My sister got married 6 weeks after I did.  Her and her husband had been together for a couple years before us.  They got engaged at Christmas (we did in the summer).  I knew my sister didn’t want a long engagement, and wanted a summer/fall wedding.  I told my sister to pick whenever she wanted to get married, and not to think about when we were getting married.  She is my sister, and having the wedding she wanted after waiting so long to get engaged and married was really important to me.  I think that since your fiance’s sister has waited so long, she probably doesn’t want to have to wait even LONGER to finally get married (I know that’s how my sister felt).  And your wedding’s first, it’s not like they tried to ‘beat you’ to the altar.  I guess just try your best to put yourself in her shoes.

    Post # 18
    191 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    @pinkshoes- I completely agree with what you said. I know my Fiance and I started to plan our wedding before we were even engaged. Heck, our venue had to be booked before we were “officially engaged” due to the length of time it took to get the venue.

    @OP- Now this may not be the case with your Future Sister-In-Law, but it is possible that she was planning her own wedding knowing that her bf was planning to ask her soon. I am sure your engagement just suprised her, as you said you were not dating very long.

    Post # 19
    391 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I voted for ‘other’. I don’t think it’s rude; it’s just a bit inconsiderate towards the guests. I assume both weddings would have a similar guest list, at least in terms of family, and sometimes people can’t take that much time off within such a limited time frame, or they need to save money to travel again, or they need to save money for the gift, etc.

    Post # 20
    96 posts
    Worker bee

    I think it’s rude if they don’t discuss it with you first but I think it would also be rude if they asked and you said it wasn’t ok,

    Post # 21
    2152 posts
    Buzzing bee

    We say it on here often, you only get one day.  Yes it is possibly inconvinient for family members, but you can’t claim any period of time. 

    They have violated no etiquette rule.

    Post # 21
    10 posts
    • Wedding: September 2010

    Hi Bees


    I think it is rude and I think it is rude to ask too. That puts the original bride in a very difficult position. Who is she to say it is ok or it isn’t ok, even if you’re close.

    Post # 22
    27 posts

    Im failing to see how a wedding date a month after yours is a problem for you. You mention its rude because you plan to honeymoon in Europe. Well postpone your honeymoon or cut it short or don’t and miss the wedding. Its your perogative. 

    It will be interesting to see which members of the your FI’s family attend just one wedding. Some members may like him or her more and decide that way. And some members may find your date or her date more convenient. 

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