Post # 1
I have kind of an issue brewing.. . My father has all of a sudden decided that he must wear a bow tie to the wedding. From the beginning he has told me that he doesn’t trust my opinion in picking out what he wears..(ouch).. (he and the FOTG are renting tuxes). I am pretty laid back when it comes to what he can wear – I want him to like it and feel comfortable but I hate the look of bow ties!!! He is telling people that I don’t have a say in the matter and he is getting one. (and convincing my Future Father-In-Law to do the same).. To me it just seems like a totaly different look than what our Groomsmen will be wearing.. (thin collar, modern look). I know the dads should look different but I was thinking more with a different colour vest, tie and style of jacket.
Everyone is telling me that I should let them wear the bow ties.. but I really really don’t like them and my Fiance doesn’t either. Maybe I am being stubborn but it bugs me so much that he is saying that I don’t get an opinion about it.
What do you guys think?
Post # 3
All in all I really don’t care for bow-ties. However in the long run what’s the big deal if it makes your dad happy. One thing I didn’t want that my fiance did,w as to get daddy (yes I’m 21 and still call my dad “daddy”) to wear his dress uniform. However when my fiance brought it up he turned it down *thankfully*. I love dad and I respect what he’s done for our country with 30+yrs in the military & 3 deployments overseas, I just thought it would be distracting from my hubs to be. However with the bow ties it’s such a tiny detail that won’t be distracting at all.
Post # 4
We are doing bow-ties and I actually love them. We’ve been to (and in) so many weddings that are neck ties and while they look very nice too, we wanted to do something different than our friends. BUT I do have to say, bowties only look good if they are tied properly!
Post # 5
I chose other. I don’t love ’em or hate ’em. I was definitely relieved when my Fiance said he didn’t want on for his tux though. They look fine with a tux, I just couldn’t see one on my Fiance. A bow tie on a baby is the cutest thing. I can’t stand when men wear them in an office setting. I work with a lot of attorneys and there are a few that wear a bold colored bow tie everyday, with an equally bold shirt, what’s that about?
Post # 6
i am not a fan, but i say let your dad wear one! let him be himself and don’t worry too much about “the look”.
Post # 7
I am fine with bow ties. They look great with vests. My husband wears them regularly and wore one at our wedding, and I think my dad wore one too.
That said, no one’s opinion on bowties matters except your dad’s. Let your dad wear what he wants. It may be your wedding, but the only people whose wardrobe you get say over are your own and that of your wedding party. The parents of the bride are one step removed from wedding party, and given that they are your parents should be given some extra concessions. Trust me, your dad’s choice of neckwear will be the last thing on your mind that day!
Post # 8
I think I am starting to think that my anger towards the bow ties is really just about his attitude towards me … the fact that he doesn’t want my opinion at all and treating me like a child (which isn’t new) is driving me nuts. We will see.. cause really, I think if he would have asked me what I thought and suggested it in a nice way.. I probably wouldn’t have cared as much as I do now.
Post # 9
I think bow ties are classic. It’s a style that’s been around forever and will never really go out and hey, James Bond wears one. I dunno, I love the look of colored ties for grooms, but I can’t help but think 20 years from now it might just be a huge fad. My fiance is wearing a tux with a bow tie…he’s going for the James Bond look.
Post # 10
I’m not a fan of bow ties, but hey if your dad wants one I say why not!
Post # 11
I personally don’t like them but to each his own.
Post # 12
Personally, I don’t care for them but if your dad wants to wear one, I think it’s not that big of a deal. My Fiance is obsessed with bow ties for some reason and really wants to wear one for the wedding and he’s probably going to even though I absolutely hate bow ties.
Post # 13
It never occured to me to tell my dad what he can and can’t wear–I would let him dress himself.
Post # 14
Bow ties are fine, if:
they are not pre-tied
they are either white (with formal tails) or black (with tuxedo)
They can be a classic look if done right. If your dad feels comfortable in what he is wearing, he will be happier, easier to deal with, and will look better in pictures. I understand that it’s frustrating to be treated like a child, but the best way to deal with that is to act totally grownup, and tell him you trust him to pick something that will harmonize with the rest of the wedding.
Post # 15
we’re doing them bc i love the classic look
Post # 16
i don’t like them, but if he’s happy than i’d let him wear it. it could be worse, my dad wants to wear an ugly blue polo (which won’t be happening!).