- expecting rain
- 9 years ago
- Wedding: June 2012
This is such a personal choice and decision, I wouldn’t dare pass judgment on anyone for when they decide to start a family. In My Humble Opinion, the decision is one that needs to be made between the couple and their doctors.
Like some have pointed out, TTC pretty much never works out the way that you planned or expected. I never thought it would take us 8 months to conceive but it did…also never thought I would have a miscarriage, but I did. I’m 31, will be almost 32 when baby is born. And now looking back, I feel like we were lucky that it didn’t take longer. You just never know the fertility issues that you can run into when you start trying (even if you are healthy and have no known issues).
Amongst our group of friends most people aren’t even considering having kids until they are mid-30s, and many of DH’s friends have been close to 40 with their first. I’m one of the main exceptions — pregnant w/ my first at 30 (although DH will be 35 when the baby is born). I know the risk of various birth defects goes up with age, and so do the chances of not being able to get pregnant. So far all of our older friends have had beautiful healthy babies though, and luckily all have been able to get pregnant without any major issues. I guess 45 sounds quite old to me personally, but if someone has a healthy baby at that stage in life (especially if they didn’t marry until later on), then who am I to judge?
I think early to mid 40’s. Anything over that just seems to be asking for trouble biologically.
I think it all depends on the person… I personally want to be done having children by 32 (I’m 28 now) only because I want to still be able to enjoy things with them when I am older plus we only want a small family anyway. Not to say that having them at 35-40 is wrong it just isn’t what I want plus with the health risk and complications I just wouldn’t want to chance it.
LOL Someone said 34 to 36?? Geez.
I say it varies because you never know how long it will take to GET pregnant. It took us a yr to get pregnant and I had Baby Bear at 30.
I’m screwed! I am pregnant now and someone thinks I am too old…lol. FWIW I just turned 33.
And this whole Grandma talk… it’s not what it used to be. You can have a child at 40 and not look like a grandma in 10 years. We on the bee even say…. I can’t believe you’re 38, I thought you were 28! Eat right, live a healthy lifestyle, be active, take care of yourself, you don’t have to grow old like people think.
Here’s Christi Brinkley @ 57:
I think it depends on the person really…My mom had my brother at 39 (he is the baby of 5 kids) and my Mother-In-Law had her last child at 45, my husband was a sophomore in college when he found out. she has 13 kids and a very devout catholic, in all honesty i think they continued to have children until she physically couldnt anymore. all healthy babies though!
I can’t vote in the poll because I don’t care when anyone else has a child. It doesn’t matter to me, although I would much prefer people wait until they’re ready.
Personally, for myself, though, I wouldn’t want to have a child over 35. I just don’t think I would be comfortable taking on a baby after that age. Now adopting an older child after that is a different story. I just can’t imagine having a baby after 35. Again, this is for me personally.
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