(Closed) What is your opinion on how old is too old?

posted 9 years ago in Babies
  • poll: How old is too old?

    28-30

    31-33

    34-36

    37-40

    40-42

    42+

  • Post # 17
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

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    @heathaah: Did I say anywhere that people were selfish in trying after 37? No. I did not. My PERSONAL opinion and views are that 37 is too old to START having children due to the medical complications, especially if you do want to have more than one. I would honestly be concerned for the health of the mother and child, rather than having thoughts on how selfish the mother is. 

    Post # 18
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2010

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    @heathaah: “So if I had started trying at say, 32, and it had taken me more than 5 years to concieve (entirely possible even with treatments), would I be selfish for continuing to try after age 37?”  Exactly!!

    Post # 20
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2009

    This is such a personal choice and decision, I wouldn’t dare pass judgment on anyone for when they decide to start a family.  In My Humble Opinion, the decision is one that needs to be made between the couple and their doctors. 

    Like some have pointed out, TTC pretty much never works out the way that you planned or expected.  I never thought it would take us 8 months to conceive but it did…also never thought I would have a miscarriage, but I did.  I’m 31, will be almost 32 when baby is born.  And now looking back, I feel like we were lucky that it didn’t take longer.  You just never know the fertility issues that you can run into when you start trying (even if you are healthy and have no known issues).

    Post # 21
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    Amongst our group of friends most people aren’t even considering having kids until they are mid-30s, and many of DH’s friends have been close to 40 with their first.  I’m one of the main exceptions — pregnant w/ my first at 30 (although DH will be 35 when the baby is born).  I know the risk of various birth defects goes up with age, and so do the chances of not being able to get pregnant.  So far all of our older friends have had beautiful healthy babies though, and luckily all have been able to get pregnant without any major issues.  I guess 45 sounds quite old to me personally, but if someone has a healthy baby at that stage in life (especially if they didn’t marry until later on), then who am I to judge? 

    Post # 22
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    Bee Keeper

    I think early to mid 40’s. Anything over that just seems to be asking for trouble biologically.

    Post # 23
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: August 2011 - Blossom Heath

    I think it all depends on the person… I personally want to be done having children by 32 (I’m 28 now) only because I want to still be able to enjoy things with them when I am older plus we only want a small family anyway. Not to say that having them at 35-40 is wrong it just isn’t what I want plus with the health risk and complications I just wouldn’t want to chance it.

    Post # 24
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    Sugar bee

    LOL Someone said 34 to 36?? Geez.

    I say it varies because you never know how long it will take to GET pregnant. It took us a yr to get pregnant and I had Baby Bear at 30.

    Post # 25
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

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    @greenmint: Amen. Alleluia.

    OP- is it possible to add another poll option like “it doesn’t matter to me”.

    Post # 27
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I’m screwed! I am pregnant now and someone thinks I am too old…lol. FWIW I just turned 33.

    Post # 28
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    And this whole Grandma talk… it’s not what it used to be. You can have a child at 40 and not look like a grandma in 10 years. We on the bee even say…. I can’t believe you’re 38, I thought you were 28! Eat right, live a healthy lifestyle, be active, take care of yourself, you don’t have to grow old like people think.

    Here’s Christi Brinkley @ 57:

     

    Post # 29
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    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2011

    I think it depends on the person really…My mom had my brother at 39 (he is the baby of 5 kids) and my Mother-In-Law had her last child at 45, my husband was a sophomore in college when he found out. she has 13 kids and a very devout catholic,  in all honesty i think they continued to have children until she physically couldnt anymore. all healthy babies though!

    Post # 30
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

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    @Mrs.Firefly1: hah, if I have her money, I better look like that at her age!!!! Smile

    Post # 31
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I can’t vote in the poll because I don’t care when anyone else has a child. It doesn’t matter to me, although I would much prefer people wait until they’re ready. 

    Personally, for myself, though, I wouldn’t want to have a child over 35. I just don’t think I would be comfortable taking on a baby after that age. Now adopting an older child after that is a different story. I just can’t imagine having a baby after 35. Again, this is for me personally. 

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