Post # 1
What timeframe did your SO give you for a proposal? And what is keeping you busy until then?
My SO has been very clear that he won’t be proposing until around May. My custom engagement ring will be finished and in the house by the end of this month. I’m so excited and so happy to have a timeframe given to look forward to.
Post # 2
- Wedding: March 2021 - Kauai, HI
We decided “anytime in 2019”. Kept the mystery while still having a plan. We got engaged on 03/17/19. Obviously we’re great at waiting!
Post # 3
My SO told me he’s waiting til after he gets a new car (which is after he gets his tax return) and I told him I want it before my birthday (in May) so it should be in a couple months!
Post # 4
theglambee : When we were dating, I let my husband know that I wouldn’t date for longer than 1-1.5 years for a proposal. He had already brought up marriage 3 months in, so we were already on the same page anyway. At 6 months we started looking at rings, and he ordered a ring a couple months after that, and proposed a couple months after that (the ring got delayed and delayed his timeline).
Post # 5
I told my fiancée that I would propose to her within 2 years. I had a really hard time waiting.
I began working on her custom ring 1 year before the end of my timeline, and proposed 7 months before the timeline end: it just felt right.
A combination of advice from Bees, and then weeks where I avoided weddingbee entirely helped me wait.
Post # 6
My ring is in the house. I gave him a three day window every month for my brows to settle down after their wax, and post period so I don’t have PMS or bloating. I counted out the 28 days, being on the pill can certainly be handy!
I then also realised I need to let work know my leave so he gave me the month. We booked for April. Now I know he’s going to propose on the 22nd of April, as we’ve booked a professional photographer for the 23rd.
As you can see, I have no control issues and am clearly excellent at letting him dictate the timeline.
Post # 7
I asked him to buy me the engagement last year–we picked it up in December. I told him I’d like a proposal by Valentine’s, and he agreed.
Honestly, I keep busy by just living and not obsessing over the eventual proposal and engagement. I guess it helps that I know when it’s coming. He also teased me by telling me that I don’t get to make a deadline and then keep badgering him about it.
Post # 8
The timeline is really May-August. Now that a ring is chosen on, I feel calmer really. I make jokes all the time, like if we are going to his mom’s I’ll say “oh this is the proposal right?” And he plays along. He knows I want to be involved in it all and have been up to this point, and he wants to surprise me. I’m more anxious of the fuss and planning that comes after the engagement, and honestly if we decided to stay unmarried forever I’d be ok just having this support and closeness. So I’m just very content and savoring these moments!
Post # 9
I told him I want to be engaged sometime during 2020. Since we’ve discussed it, and neither of us want a big wedding AT ALL, we’ve discussed wedding dates in the fall and beginning of 2021. I told him I’d preferred a ring on my finger for minimum of 6 months before we do get married. But I’m not going to mention it a lot. We live together. I have two kids- their dad is not involved. I don’t work. Which I LOVE staying home and caring for my family. He’s added me to a few Amex accounts etc. but if I’m going to not work or make sure I have a career to fall back on, I want a ring and marriage. So I told him a few months ago, if we are doing this, we are doing this! I want to get married, I want to get engaged by the end of this year. We talk about it. And I’m happy with where things are. Could be this week.. could be December 31st.. but I’m happy and content yet still I’m lurking around the bee. 🙂
Post # 10
My fiancé and I moved in together in July of 2019, and he and I had discussed that moving in together meant taking a next step toward engagement, as well. He started designing my ring in June, and we agreed to be engaged by the end of 2019. He proposed in late October, and it was perfect.
Post # 11
In July of 2018 we agreed before Valentines Day of 2019. FH proposed on January 25th 2019. It would have been sooner… but it took him longer than expected because he was having trouble finding the perfect shade of peach sapphire for my ring.
Post # 12
We agreed to be engaged by the end of this year. I’m not expecting a proposal before his sisters October wedding. So that really just leaves November or December! I’m keeing busy by focusing on work and saving money!
Post # 13
We bought the ring and it’s already in our house. We didn’t discuss a timeline for the proposal but we set our wedding month to Juanuary 2021.
I hope he proposes soon, I’m terrible at waiting!
Post # 14
Our original timeline has shifted some (his car needed major work and delayed it 😩). We originally were talking about Valentine’s day.
He’s planning on buying my ring after he gets his first check in March. Which means I’ll hopefully be engaged by the end of march. 🙏🏼 It’s hard to wait. I have really bad issues with handing over control. Because of this, he let me pick out my ring and promised me he’d give me warning to do my nails. I spent the first couple months planning my wedding top to bottom on pinterest and watching say yes to the dress. After I got that out of my system, it’s mostly just been about keeping myself busy. I’ve been crafting a lot. Going out with friends. Working a lot. Keeping yourself busy won’t make it go much faster, but it will stop you from obsessing
Post # 15
When we were dating we mutually decided to forgo the traditional proposal. We had talked about marriage so much and both agreed we wanted to take that step, so it seemed silly (to each their own, this is just what made sense for us). I think it was around February 2019 that we decided on no proposal. In March 2019 we talked again and agreed to make it “official” by announcing sometime in the spring. He told me in April he had reached out to his Grandmother for her ring and then we officially announced in mid-June.
I posted here once about feeling anxious waiting for us to officially announce and many of the bees responded by telling me he was obviously stalling and I should set a walk date/ultimatum or just flat out break up with him. Ridiculous. So glad I didn’t take any of that seriously. I deleted that post because the advice I got was obnoxious.