(Closed) What is your relationship like with your (F)MIL?

posted 9 years ago in Family
  • poll: What is your relationship like with your (future) mother in law?

    She is like a mother to me!

    I care deeply for her and enjoy being a part of her life.

    I really like her but we haven't had a lot of time to get to know each other.

    Didn't like her at first and/or she didn't like me but we are slowly growing closer.

    She has mental health issues and I feel bad for her/pity her.

    We get along well enough but have very different personalities

    She's not very involved in our lives so I'm neutral.

    I tolerate her for the sake of my SO although I'm not a fan.

    She annoys the crap out of me and constantly meddles in our lives, although she has good intentions

  • Post # 3
    Member
    6571 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 2010

    She’d def. like a second mother to me. Always there when I need her, and welcomed me into the family the second I met her.

    Post # 4
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    515 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2011 - Clark Gardens

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    @artbee Same.

    Post # 5
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    5089 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    She’s a lovely person and has been very welcoming to me, but we have VERY different personalities. So I care about her and value her very much, and feel lucky to have such a sweet Mother-In-Law, but it’s still draining for me to spend a lot of time with her. 

    Post # 6
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    2699 posts
    Sugar bee

    She is insane, very opinionated, a little over-bearing at times, and would literally do anything for my Fiance and I. She has supported us every step of the way in our relationship which is more than I can say for my family. I love her dearly but that doesn’t mean she doesn’t drive me up the wall haha.

    Post # 7
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    5654 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2011

    We’ve had a really rocky relationship and now I do my best to constantly forgive the things that’s have come up and just love her despite her actions towards/about me. sigh…

    I really hope and am praying that one day she can love & accept me totally =)

    Post # 8
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    275 posts
    Helper bee

    I love the relationship I have with my Future Mother-In-Law.

    Post # 9
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    10283 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011

    She’s phenomenal and I love her to death. I definitely lucked out in the Mother-In-Law department. I have friends with terrible MIL’s and they always ask me to trade, lol. In all seriousness though, she’s really all I can ask for. She considers me to be her daughter and she’s like a mother to me but also a really good friend.

    Post # 10
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    1551 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I love my Mother-In-Law.  She has been nothing but kind and welcoming to me.  She lives about half an hour away, so I only see her about once a month or so, but I do enjoy the time I get to spend with her.

    Post # 11
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    2088 posts
    Buzzing bee

    I have never met her.

    Post # 12
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    6891 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2012

    She’s not very involved at all. She wasn’t before we started dating and it doesn’t appear that will change. Fiance doesn’t want it to, either. I’m fine with that, it’s his choice. I’ve got to admit, I find his reasons very justified.

    Post # 12
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    1363 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    She is the devil incarnate with mental health issues. But if you become just like her and kiss her a$$, and tell her that her little boy is stil at her beck and call, she loves you. (YIKES! WISH ME LUCK!)

    To all of you with a wonderful Mother-In-Law: I’m happy for you!!

    Post # 13
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    5654 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 2012

    I like my Future Mother-In-Law a lot, and I think over time she will become like a mother to me. We are already pretty close. 🙂

    Post # 14
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    2373 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2008

    I can almost say my Mother-In-Law is a sociopath- not the torturing of animals or anything, but I feel like she lacks a certain genuine trait.

    She is manipulative, controlling, and passive (all at the same time). It’s a lot of subtle emotional manipulation. “You need to do this because it would mean the world to this person” (when the person really doesn’t care, it’s what she wants). If you gently tell her “no” and stand your ground she turns on crocodile tears. The minute she gets her way the tears stop and she’s “cheery.” She’s also a very jealous woman- she needs to be the center of attention. There are more, but I’ll leave it at that.

     I don’t think I’m the only one who feels this way either. my SIL’s husband is usually “working” on the days of family gatherings. And I know Brother-In-Law isn’t fond if his mother.

    Post # 15
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    7691 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I know she loves me and cares for me and I do too, but we have VERY different personalities.

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