What is your relationship with social media?

posted 2 weeks ago in Not Wedding Related
  • poll: How do you use social media?

    I’ve never used it

    I used to but do not anymore

    I’m a regular user

    Something else...

  • Post # 16
    398 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2019

    I’ve always been fairly private on social media and never posted much. I actually loved MySpace the most because I made my profile so pretty and customized and had music I liked playing, etc. I also thought it was really fun to see other people’s pages as it was such a reflection of their personalities, likes, and dislikes. I also really liked Twitter because it felt fairly anonymous- I could just scream into the void lol. Facebook I was always pretty self-conscious about, and every few years I tend to purge my friend list just because I feel weird that people I’m not close to anymore could see all my posts (that I… barely ever posted lol). I’m 30 weeks pregnant now and the only post I shared was an announcement post at maybe 14 weeks. My husband shared some stuff from our gender reveal as well. I do like to scroll it but wish it was more major updates and less memes now. I also like to see when my husband posts and what people say. Never really used Instagram much at all!

    These days I like to check Facebook, browse the top news stories, lurk on Reddit for politics news, scan the weddingbee boards on and off, play a couple mobile games and check covid stats (vaccine rates and case rates). So pretty boring! I also enjoy reading articles about anything that piques my curiosity. In short, I am not very social at all on social media.

    Post # 17
    7900 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 1997

    I’ve never been on any of it. I don’t have and have never had a Facebook, Instagram, MySpace or any other social media account. I don’t feel the need to share random bits of my life that way, and I never wanted pictures of my children posted online. I email, snail mail, or telephone the people I am friends with, and I don’t pretend to be friends with hundreds of people I barely know.

    Post # 18
    639 posts
    Busy bee

    I’m a fairly active reader, not so much poster. I actually admin 2 FB groups (1 is for my community fb page) but dont post my own stuff. I actually use it to report fake news alot of the time haha. I also love instagram, and love keeping up with my friends and fam that way. I post ocassional stories, but definitely use it as more of a mindless scroll. 

    Post # 19
    9562 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    I’m only on FB and rarely post. Mainly use it to try to keep up with what friends are doing. I’m just not into any of it tbh, which is probably ironic since I’m in tech. 🙈

    Post # 20
    6123 posts
    Bee Keeper

    In a pretty regular user and I have a lot of anxiety and depression.. I’m considering taking a break but I have family out of the country and its a good way to get updates but I really could use the mental break.  

    Post # 21
    1854 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2019

    I deactivated Facebook and Instagram end of 2019. Best decision I ever made for my mental health.

    I still have an active IG for my dog and cat (lame I know) – but only follow other dog accounts – no friends/celebrities.

    I reactivated my Facebook about 7 months ago but i’m never on it. Don’t have notifications, don’t post anything, never logged in. Removed about 50% of my friends list. I’ll post when my baby’s born in a few weeks, but that’s about it. I have a throwaway account that I use to chat to my WeddingBee Facebook Mum’s group (July Mamas) which has been AWESOME – but it’s not linked to my regular account.

    Not having an active social media account for personal use has been so liberating. I recommend it to anyone. There’s nothing social about social media In My Humble Opinion

    Post # 22
    1221 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: February 2018 - UK

    I have an FB account, but I can’t remember the last time I posted. I’ll occasionally look through it, but I literally only use it for two things: cat pictures, and a support group for a language I’m learning, where people share vocab, tips, etc.

    I’ve never had accounts on Twitter, Instagram, etc. I have some friends who regularly post, but I don’t really keep up with it. I can’t figure out what I’d have to even post about! I hate selfies and I don’t really think a lot of people are interested in what I’ve done each day!

    Post # 23
    301 posts
    Helper bee

     I have deactivated my accounts for months at a time, and can honestly say that when I don’t have social media I am SIGNIFICANTLY happier and more productive.  I absolutely think it plays a huge role in adolescent depression and suicide too.  People were happier before it came around IMO.  I still have it, but I only post big events and its more in support of my friends (weddings, birthdays, etc).  

    Post # 24
    46 posts

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    @motogal:  I still have Facebook as I can’t bring myself to delete it but I rarely go on it.  I deleted the app from my phone and probably browse a few times a month.  I still use Instagram and I really do enjoy it. I’ve pared down a lot of my followings and it’s much more enjoyable. No more stupid meme accounts posting the same stuff and no more influencers living fabulous lives just making me jealous or buy things I can’t afford. I mostly now follow just people I know, cool photography accounts I enjoy, and local news accounts. I live in a city and it’s helpful to get updates on local events in the area.  I also got quite a bit of local covid updates via instagram, when things were opening, vaccine availability etc.

    Post # 25
    4894 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I have Instagram and Twitter to view posts I write for work and to see my sister’s and friend’s photos. I rarely look at either.

    I was an avid Facebook user for years, but I stopped going on it years ago when the baby announcements were becoming too painful (infertility), but even now, I don’t miss it. My account technically still exists and I used Marketplace the other day to find cloth diapers, but that’s the first time in years and I didn’t even both checking my account or posts.

    Post # 26
    673 posts
    Busy bee

    I just use forums now. I never had an instagram, twitter, or anything but Facebook. I don’t log onto Facebook anymore though. I struggle with anxiety, and I feel better just staying offline and enjoying my life as much as possible.

    Post # 27
    1283 posts
    Bumble bee

    I broke up with Facebook and it was totally freeing for me. I didn’t even use it much, but not having it just feels better.

    Post # 28
    2570 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: City, State

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    @floridagirlblue:  I like phrasing it as a breakup. Facebook and I also had a toxic relationship. I ended it and my anxiety and depression incidences are way down. 

    I still have my Instagram, but it’s all dog and gardening photos with the rare one of my husband and I or my friends and I mixed in. 

    Post # 29
    183 posts
    Blushing bee

    Fb has always been for keeping in touch with my family/friends in other states/countries plus marketplace & I’ll post 1-2 times/year.

    Never saw the point of Twitter/never signed up. Way, way much enthusiastic toxicity.

    Created first Instagram acct when we adopted our first dog together a few years ago & just use it as a photo/video album.

    If wedding bee counts, I’ve posted quite a bit after creating an acct this spring but have been stuck in a flare requiring a ton of rest & browsing this site is a fun distraction.

    Nothing beats in-person visits, video/voice phone calls, & mailed written letters😊

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    Post # 30
    72 posts
    Worker bee

    After the last 2 elections with friends on both sides badgering me I gave up looking at FB. Remember, whatever you post will be there for the rest of your life for someone to exploit.

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