- 9 years ago
- Wedding: October 2009
So hive, what’s your biggest secret wedding-related wish — the one that you feel so guilty/selfish about that you might not even admit it to your FH or dearest friends?
For me, it’s hoping that my Future Sister-In-Law — FH’s sister — doesn’t come to my bachelorette party. I did two posts some time ago about the drama surrounding my shower that centered on Future Sister-In-Law and my Maid/Matron of Honor. I’ve "kissed and made up" with everyone now — really, I’m glad that anyone even wants to host a shower for me — though the shower definitely is more to FSIL’s taste than my own.
Even though we’re nice-nice again (kinda), things really aren’t the same. Of course, I’m likely hypersensitive because of what’s happened, and I realize I’m probably unfairly critical. But she doesn’t go out of her way to talk to me. A couple of months ago, I had to have my kitty put to sleep. He was my baby and had been with me for a long time, but he had cancer and was really suffering. The next day, I saw Future Sister-In-Law (and her husband and kid) at FH’s mom’s house. While FSIL’s hubby said he was sorry about what happened, Future Sister-In-Law didn’t say a single word about it to me. A few weeks later, her reason was: "If somebody had asked me about something like that so soon, I would’ve totally lost it." I guess everyone deals with stuff differently but in a way, it came off like, "I don’t want to deal with your emotions, so I’m not going to ask if you’re OK." You know? Like I said, I know I’m being hypercritical.
So anyway. My bachelorette party is in NYC and I know it’s going to be an AWESOME time whether she’s there or not. But since she doesn’t get along with Maid/Matron of Honor (and told me that she is "scared" of her — wtf?), and I know she’s not crazy about one of my other good friends, I really wish she’d just not go.
There! I said it! I feel better now