Ok, I have been stalking the hive for months now. It took me this post to sign-up as a user.
He picks his nose and then feeds it to the dog. He makes the dog do tricks for them and then says the dog likes it because how excited he gets and he wags his tail. No. no. all wrong! The dog eats the boogers because he likes disgusting things like cat poop and dead animals. He wags his tail and gets excited because SO is commending the dog by petting him and saying “Good doggy” afterwords.
The sock thing. Everywhere. Then he blames the booger-eating dog for moving his socks.
Clothes on the bathroom floor, including dirty work boots. I have to push the dirty (like, chunks of dried mud falling off) work boots out of my way to use the bathroom. there are hooks on the back of the door, boots belong in the garage, or the Made-Up Drama room.
Dishes (and empty beer bottles). Everywhere. His side of the bed, under the bed, his car, out in the garage, ON THE BATHROOM SINK! I do not want to see beer bottles/empty drinking glasses on the sink when i brush my teeth (oh yeah, after i push his dirty boots out of the way).
Whines about everything, we had an argument a few weeks ago. He told me I whined, i told him he whines more than me, and he didn’t talk to me for 12 hours (absolutely no communication) like, i’m not six anymore, come on.
Farts as soon as he gets into bed, farts right before he gets out of bed. like, they are stinky, and it makes all the blankets smell like farts. I hate it.
Does not pay any of his bills on time, he waits until the service gets cut off (phone, car ins.), all the important bills (house, elec, h2o) are in my name. Does not even give one iota of when bills are due, or how much. I have resulted to him paying me once a month for everything – which he is always 2-3 WEEKS late getting it to me. i have to bug him over and over about it, and sometimes i wonder why he thinks i’m a “nag”… (not to mention down payment for house, +appliances, and down payment for old rental he NEVER pitched in on, or offered)
He refuses to do any sort of dishes, or clean anything (bath, floors, keg-a-rator parts from my dad i got him for valentines day, ANYTHING), or take out the trash (unless i “nag” of course) he never even remembers to buy garbage bags (been living together for 2.5 years now) and garbage nite is on the same night every week, not like it changes or anything.) he refuses to feed the dog in the morning or let him out (he has excuses for all of these, such as “i can’t feed the dog, i will be late for work” well then, maybe he should have never have gotten us our booger-eating dog? or maybe trying to wake up 5 minutes earlier, giving him10 minutes in the morning instead of just 5 – time enough to chug all the milk straight out of the jug, oh and leave the empty in the fridge). Out of 9 present buying holidays (i don’t care if he buys it or makes it, just get me something and estimating 9, give or take – birthday, christmas, v-day) he only got me things for half of them (missed my birthday 2 years in a row…whole nother story)
He smokes waaaay too much. like over a pack a day and he doesn’t see anything wrong with it. he never throws his empty packs (just like beer bottles..bottle caps..etc..) anything away. He leaves it on the ISLAND or on top of the TV in the bedroom, or on the bathroom sink, or in the tray on the ottomon. I have a pile of over 20+packs gathering in the garage but if i don’t throw them out, then they don’t get thrown out.
We have been together 3.5 years, living together for 2.5 years. He never farted in front of me before we moved in together. Half of me is saying to give up and end the relationship because to me (and my girlfriends) it doesn’t seem like he’s “manning up” and “pulling his own weight”. He says he doesnt’ want to get married for 10+ years (which is probably means never according to some posts i read on here, cuz he’ll just keep pushing back the date). i’m 27, he’s 26. I teach at the college level at one job, run a product development management position at another job, teach workshops, and freelance and he just doesn’t seem to get the fact that I am trying to invest in our lives together, build a home together to one day live completely and truely together with no doubts (marriage) and build a family (he says he doesn’t need marrige to have kids). We need a place to live, we need food to eat. I’m definitly afraid to talk to him about the “small things” (all the stuff mentioned in my rant above). If I go to talk to him and tell him he’s making me upset he will get mad back at me and litterally shut down, for hours…and i’m always the one to break the ice again and apologize. I just don’t know what to do anymore. Logical thinking tells me to take a break until he can give more effort, but my heart will not budge, not one iota.
He really is the most sweetest thing, minus all the above. We have a wonderful time together and can laugh until we cry. He does have more good things about him than just the little annoyances listed above. He did sign up & take a test for union elec. apprenticeship program (same union that my dad, uncles and grandpa does) so he is thinking about the log term, and hopefully with me and that side of my family. And i like to think he has been working on a lot of the issues, i have seen some improvement (boots, bills, etc…) I just don’t know what his deal is…other than just saying “he’s a guy”.
I do apologize for the length of this rant, and for the fact it might need moved over to the “emotional” section.