(Closed) What is your wedding MUST HAVE… and what would you sacrifice to get it?

posted 7 years ago in Logistics
  • poll: Which is most important?

    Photography

    Food/drinks

    Florals/decor

    Attire

    Date/time

    Location

    Rings

    Music

    Other (explain in comments)

  • Post # 18
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

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    @BruinBeeMPH:  Haha…well if you ever want to go, send me a message. If nothing else, I should be a full fledged Irish travel agent after planning our wedding and trying to plan all the vacations for my friends/family members who are going over. There isn’t much i dont know at this point…haha. Seriously, any time in the future, let me know! And i feel you about the pale skin. Ugh…i have two colors…sunburnt red or white. Even my fiance who actually is legit irish tans more than me…WTF? hehe. 

    Post # 19
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    I had two must haves: venue and videographer. To get the videographer, I actually ended up going with a less expensive photographer and gave up on getting an album. We also decided to have my fiance’s cousin be our officiant–because I couldn’t justify $300-400 for a stranger to officiate a 30-min ceremony.

    I also cut 20 people from our guest list to afford the venue–and changed our date to a Friday instead of a Saturday. I also opted to forgo transportation (our ceremony and reception are in the same place, so a limo seemed a waste of money).  I’m also DIY-ing all floral centerpieces, and boutonniere’s…and we’re doing corsages and parasols instead of bouquets. That helped us get to a reasonable cost as well. 

    Post # 20
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

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    @BruinBeeMPH:  YOU HAVE TO GO. Ireland is AMAZING. Seriously. One of the best places in the world. I’m Irish American and I go back to Ireland to visit friends and family as often as I can. Keep an eye on Aer Lingus (the Irish airline). They run really AMAZING sales twice per year (usually Aug/Sept….and January).  You can get a great deal if you have some flexibility. 

    Post # 22
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

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    @HappinessIsInDaisies:  Im Irish and Fiance is Indian but lived in Ireland for years, and considers himself partly Irish. I moved over to Australia about 18 months ago to work, but both our families are still there as are many of our friends. So it’s not really a destination wedding, but it is in some ways! As for the hen night, it depends what you’re after. Temple bar (the area, not actually a bar) is pretty popular, but it can get a bit messy on a Saturday night.

    Post # 23
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

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    @aliciaspinnet:  Yeah, thats what i told my friends that we’d stick to the templebar area. I’ve heard it gets messy too, but i spose thats fine for a hen night haha. 😛 I totally feel you about the whole “destination” but not. It’s not really a destination for us either, because its just a “normal” wedding in his hometownarea. But its destination as in you have to still plan yours from austraila and i have to plan my from the states/canada. It’s like double the work without all the cost perks of a true destination wedding! haha I hope yours is going alright!

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    @CelticBeachBride:  Haha…all too true!

    Post # 24
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    Even before we chose to elope, photography was my most important detail. Everything else would go away after that day, but the pictures will stay forever. We eloped and obviously there was no rentals, no buffet, etc, but we still paid $250 for the photography since she was only there for 2 hours and we wouldn’t have had it any other way. DH was super against spending that much on a photographer, but now he’s glad that I talked him into it. 

     

    Post # 25
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2014 - Lodge

    My attire.  Its been something I’ve dreamed of since I was young.  Basically to get my dream dress I sold my car.  Literally but I was already in the process of selling it anyway.  It just worked out perfectly that the day before I was to go try on a sample of the dress my car FINALLY sold.  After paying off the rest of my new car, the remaining amount was just enough to buy the sample at the sample sale they were having Laughing it was meant to be.

    Post # 26
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2014

    We both really want the party, we decided that that was the most important thing to us or we would have had a courthouse wedding/vegas elopment years ago.  Food and Drink are #1 (with photography a close second).  I’ve backed off my dream shoes ($900) and my backup dream shoes ($400) for a pair that are $60 and the same idea just don’t come with the designer price tag. 

    We’re working on negotiating with the caterer to get what we want without having to sacrifice too much but in the end that will likely be 60-70% of our total budget.

    Post # 27
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    Helper bee

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    @PacificMrs:  Oh my gosh. Now I feel like I’m getting ripped off.

    We’re doing the same thing except paying $1,500 for 2 hours.  I’ve looked around at a lot of different photographers and they’re all around that price range. I’m thinking maybe it’s because it’s in San Francisco? I really do like our photographer though, and in the end it will be worth it. 

    For me I think the most important thing is our venue. We both knew we wanted to get married out of town and have it intimate, but every venue was too low-key. So I scoured online for venues and once I saw it I knew this was the place we would get married. I couldn’t see myself getting married anywhere else. 

    Post # 28
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

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    @petalpetal:  Well we didn’t have a reception or anything so that helped a lot. The girl that we used is actually pretty new (She’s only 20) but she did a bunch of weddings before. If you want, I can PM you the link to the photos. 

    Can you guys shop around more? I know the Bay is more expensive (I lived in Livermore for 3 years), but $1500 for 2 hours seems NUTS! 

    Post # 29
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    My wedding must-have is… my future husband! 🙂

    Post # 30
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    Bumble Beekeeper

    My cake topper.  I got married in the 1980’s and I didn’t want a plastic topper.  We made our own ceramic bride & groom, bought the glass part of the topper with 2 bells, and our cake had upside down wine glasses. 

    Post # 31
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    Helper bee

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    @PacificMrs:  Maybe it’s my own fault. A great photographer is really important to me, so I’ve been looking into top photographers in the area. The pricings I’ve seen so far are usually $1,000 – $1,500. That’s for one hour at the ceremony and another hour at our pick of a second location. 

    I’m sure I can find an amateur photographer, but I’m not wanting to take that gamble if it doesn’t come out good.

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