- 7 years ago
- Wedding: March 2015
I had two must haves: venue and videographer. To get the videographer, I actually ended up going with a less expensive photographer and gave up on getting an album. We also decided to have my fiance’s cousin be our officiant–because I couldn’t justify $300-400 for a stranger to officiate a 30-min ceremony.
I also cut 20 people from our guest list to afford the venue–and changed our date to a Friday instead of a Saturday. I also opted to forgo transportation (our ceremony and reception are in the same place, so a limo seemed a waste of money). I’m also DIY-ing all floral centerpieces, and boutonniere’s…and we’re doing corsages and parasols instead of bouquets. That helped us get to a reasonable cost as well.
Even before we chose to elope, photography was my most important detail. Everything else would go away after that day, but the pictures will stay forever. We eloped and obviously there was no rentals, no buffet, etc, but we still paid $250 for the photography since she was only there for 2 hours and we wouldn’t have had it any other way. DH was super against spending that much on a photographer, but now he’s glad that I talked him into it.
My attire. Its been something I’ve dreamed of since I was young. Basically to get my dream dress I sold my car. Literally but I was already in the process of selling it anyway. It just worked out perfectly that the day before I was to go try on a sample of the dress my car FINALLY sold. After paying off the rest of my new car, the remaining amount was just enough to buy the sample at the sample sale they were having it was meant to be.
We both really want the party, we decided that that was the most important thing to us or we would have had a courthouse wedding/vegas elopment years ago. Food and Drink are #1 (with photography a close second). I’ve backed off my dream shoes ($900) and my backup dream shoes ($400) for a pair that are $60 and the same idea just don’t come with the designer price tag.
We’re working on negotiating with the caterer to get what we want without having to sacrifice too much but in the end that will likely be 60-70% of our total budget.
We’re doing the same thing except paying $1,500 for 2 hours. I’ve looked around at a lot of different photographers and they’re all around that price range. I’m thinking maybe it’s because it’s in San Francisco? I really do like our photographer though, and in the end it will be worth it.
For me I think the most important thing is our venue. We both knew we wanted to get married out of town and have it intimate, but every venue was too low-key. So I scoured online for venues and once I saw it I knew this was the place we would get married. I couldn’t see myself getting married anywhere else.
Can you guys shop around more? I know the Bay is more expensive (I lived in Livermore for 3 years), but $1500 for 2 hours seems NUTS!
My wedding must-have is… my future husband! 🙂
My cake topper. I got married in the 1980’s and I didn’t want a plastic topper. We made our own ceramic bride & groom, bought the glass part of the topper with 2 bells, and our cake had upside down wine glasses.
I’m sure I can find an amateur photographer, but I’m not wanting to take that gamble if it doesn’t come out good.
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