(Closed) What is/was the HARDEST part about planning your wedding?

posted 5 years ago in Beehive
  • poll: What is/was the HARDEST part about planning your wedding?
    Dealing with the Guests (ettiquette, seating, inviting etc.) : (29 votes)
    25 %
    Dealing with the Bridal Party (disagreements, dresses, hair, showers, etc) : (4 votes)
    3 %
    Disagreeing with your FI/DH on wedding plans : (4 votes)
    3 %
    Conflict with FI/DH family : (18 votes)
    16 %
    Conflict with your family : (12 votes)
    10 %
    Money/Budget : (32 votes)
    28 %
    Dealing with vendors : (2 votes)
    2 %
    The planning in general : (10 votes)
    9 %
    Other (feel free to explain!) : (5 votes)
    4 %
  • Post # 2
    1316 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    DEFINITELY conflict with DH’s family, specifically DH’s parents. There were general planning disagreements with mine, but his had the power to make everything downright miserable and stressful. We learned early on that they shouldn’t been involved in wedding planning.

    Post # 3
    1210 posts
    Bumble bee

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    Gaea:  Trying to make our parents happy while staying true to ourselves. Its really hard to make 4 separate people happy, especially when they all can have different opinions on things. 

    Especially with the guest list and bridal parties. We told each set of parents they could invite 20 friends each, and my Mother-In-Law sent me a list of 70 people. Our venue only held 150. Ha. There was a lot of crying.

    Post # 4
    267 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2016 - Cellar 222

    All of my cousins and my sister have had really large weddings that probably wind up costing somewhere in the triple digit range. I really don’t want that because I don’t like being the center of attention for long periods of time and my Fiance doesn’t either.


    But my family says that it just wouldn’t be proper to have a small wedding. Thanks to the fam, I’ll likely wind up with a guest list of around 400. I’m not happy about it, but I also don’t want to deal with the pursed lips and raised eyebrows that would come with telling guests I’m thinning out my wedding list. I would literally never hear the end of it.

    So dealing with my family…

    • This reply was modified 5 years, 2 months ago by  rainpeliever.
    Post # 5
    1460 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

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    Gaea:  I think the hardest part for me was picking a bridesmaids dress—which seemed to take FOREVER!!   Everyone would agree on one and then someone would change their mind, or it didn’t come in their size.  I got to the point where I almost told them to just pick out any grey dress and call it good. 

    After that the worst part has been making sure I have all the decorations and finishing touches.  I have started a list to make sure that everything is together and labeled since we wont be doing the decorating.  I tend to over think and know that I am going to forget something!!

    Post # 6
    1727 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    I would say letting people have a say in things they were paying for. 

    Post # 7
    336 posts
    Helper bee

    I totally understand the stressors PP have laid out… me personally? I haven’t had any stress throughout the planning process. But then again, we are having a very intimate destination wedding (4-7 guests).

    Post # 8
    7892 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    DH’s family is incredibly easygoing. My mom tends to like to be overinvolved in my life, so that was frustrating for me during the wedding planning. That’s her way, though, so it was expected. I know she means well. 

    Post # 9
    789 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2015

    We are lucky that both of our families have been pretty easygoing (as they should, since Fiance and I are paying 😉 ). I would say the most difficult part has been trying to stay within budget with a pretty large guest list. Besides this, figuring out how to trim said guest list with a huge extended family. 

    Post # 10
    948 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    Overall I have had very little stress–a couple tough decisions because it’s just hard to know what will make everyone (including us) the happiest–but overall everything has come together nicely and we’re nearing the home stretch. The only thing I do find stressful is that I don’t live near my family or any of our bridal party, which feels really lonely sometimes when I want to share things or ask for opinions!

    Post # 11
    5187 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 2013

    The hardest part was trying to get him to care. He did the proposing and chose the liquor. Any time I’d bring up something else he’d tell me he didn’t want to hear it. If I could do it all over I’d throw a surprise party instead of asking for his input. 

    Post # 12
    551 posts
    Busy bee

    Finding a venue is definitely the most stressful thing for me so far. I have a pretty low budget and  a certain vision, but haven’t seemed to be able to match them up just yet. Still working on it though! Haha. 

    Post # 13
    2307 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2015 - Ruby Princess

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    LovingLife89:  sounds like me! I called my theme: Snob on a budget.

    Post # 14
    10 posts
    • Wedding: March 2016

    Hardest part for me has been dealing with my mum. She is contributing a lot to the wedding and is incredibly supportive of everything we want to do. Unfortunately because when she married my dad it was his second marriage and he already had three kids, as catholics, they weren’t able to marry in a church. She felt she couldn’t have the kind of wedding she wanted and they had something really low key, so she is really trying to live out her dream wedding through me. I can’t complain too much because she hasn’t actually stopped me from doing anything, but things that shouldn’t be up to her, eg. whether I’ll wear a veil or not, have turned into fights.

    I just try and remember that it comes from a good place and not to get mad at her when she gets pushy! 

    Post # 15
    9520 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    Knock on wood, so far it has been pretty easy. We agree on almost everything. I just had his ring designed this afternoon. We had a little trouble with vendors calling back and a misunderstanding with a bridesmaid about her dress. I am waiting for the ax to drop. The biggest issue has been money. He makes bank and I have been out of work due to a self sustained injury. So he is paying the bulk. I feel bad about that but he is the one who wanted the big wedding so it is fair he gets to pay for it. 

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