(Closed) What is/was the HARDEST part about planning your wedding?

posted 5 years ago in Beehive
  • poll: What is/was the HARDEST part about planning your wedding?

    Dealing with the Guests (ettiquette, seating, inviting etc.)

    Dealing with the Bridal Party (disagreements, dresses, hair, showers, etc)

    Disagreeing with your FI/DH on wedding plans

    Conflict with FI/DH family

    Conflict with your family


    Dealing with vendors

    The planning in general

    Other (feel free to explain!)

  • Post # 16
    9402 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2016

    Time management.. it’s too easy to get lost in my pinterest/DIY rabbit hole and forget to do my work… (I work from home)

    Post # 17
    126 posts
    Blushing bee

    I was really worried about the bridal party because I really wanted to make sure that they were all happy. I know from experience that being in a bridal party can be really hard financially and with trying to make everything work with your schedule. After all is said and done I think I worried about it way too much 😛

    Post # 18
    2803 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2016

    We are ten months out, but the hardest thing so far has been cutting the guest list. Our venue cap is 130 and we both have big families. First we cut kids thinking it would be enough (23 kids in the families), but then we had to cut all second cousins ( old and the young) which really pissed our parents off, but it was either cut people we rarely see and barely know or cut our friends. I’ve also knocked out two first cousins, but I’m not telling my mom– I’m playing forgetful bride or lost in the mail if she find out ( which is unlikely as these people rarely talk to anyone).

    Post # 19
    1219 posts
    Bumble bee

    Guest list, In-laws, Budget.  In that order.

    Post # 20
    2239 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    Crafting the guest list and the seating chart!

    Post # 21
    1711 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    Dealing with my Future Mother-In-Law has been the most stressful part!  I had several meltdowns with tears over the rehearsal dinner – my sister finally had my flower girl niece call me and sing “Let it Go.”  haha

    And I have let it go – our rehearsal dinner might be stupid but our wedding will be beautiful and it’s only a few days until our honeymoon!  🙂

    Post # 22
    514 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2014

    I answered dealing with guests/etiquette etc. The most stressful part was dealing with having an adults-only wedding, closely followed by deciding on a guestlist (we had a smallish wedding so I only invited a handful of my closest cousins), wording for the registry, chasing up RSVPs, doing the seating chart and dealing with last minute attendance changes. 

    Luckily everything else was a breeze – I just hate upsetting (or even potentially upsetting) people.

    Post # 23
    1257 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    It all actually went very smoothly. The biggest issue we had was that neither of us have living mothers and that made things sad/emotional while planning. 

    Post # 25
    552 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2016

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    Gaea:  I think Fiance stress is the worst part of wedding planning. I’m at the beginning stages & making my guest list so I can get an idea of who I want to invite. Bride side: 114, with my parents’ friends all included. Groom’s side: 102. I already have 20 of his mom’s friends on the list. Not family friends, literally just her friends that he’s met like one time. When she asked how many people she can have on her list I said “there’s room for 20 more” bc that will make it more even between bride guests & groom guests. She scoffed & said “I have a LOT more than that.” & I said “20 is what you get sorry” 

    Post # 26
    3164 posts
    Sugar bee

    Not having the wedding I want and dealing with passive aggressive requests from Future Mother-In-Law (“I thought you should know XYZ said this”, “have you thought of this”, “speak to Fiance about doing this. We will support you either way….”, “sometimes you just have to do this/invite this random”, “I don’t think I saw this person on the guest list [which she’s seen 3 fricking times, probably has saved, and given LOTS of input into]”).

    If it was up to me we would either elope or get married in a registry office but apparently that won’t fly with his family.



    Post # 27
    113 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2017

    currently, my fiance and I live with his parents, and dealing with his mother is our biggest problem.  He was raised catholic, but he doesn’t agree with a lot of their beliefs.  I was raised lutheran, and currently am not very religious at all.  his mom is dead set on us having a catholic wedding, but we’re not getting married in a church.  she is also trying to tell us that we HAVE to do certain things, such as invite cousins of cousins who we don’t even know, and go to catholic marriage classes.  she also keeps talking about me becoming catholic which is never, ever gonna happen.

    my parents, on the other hand, don’t really care at all and they support me and my fiance’s descisions 110% (other than they keep suggesting we elope like they did because it’s cheaper lol)  but i’ve talked with my mom about how my future mother in law keeps telling us what we “have” to do and my mom said to tell her “if you don’t like it, then you don’t have to come”  as soon as fiance and I aren’t living under his parent’s roof, we plan on doing just that.  it’s OUR wedding, not hers.  we’ll invite who we want, have it when we want, be married by who we want, and live OUR lives together

    Post # 28
    839 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: Church

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    Gaea:   The hardest part for me is not having my Mom here to share my special day with me. She passed away 4 yrs ago. We had a lot of things in common so I think she would  be happy with the plans I’m making.  Besides that, I’m having a hard time deciding what kind of theme I want for my wedding or if any. Another problem finding wedding related items in a small town. Thank goodness, for the internet. Other than that, it’s been fun. Especially the DIY projects 😃 

    Post # 29
    3164 posts
    Sugar bee

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    AutumnFlower:  I’m sorry about your Mum and can relate. I think the stresses of dealing with FIs family would be water off a ducks back if I had mine

    Post # 30
    211 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

    One one vendor stress has been caterers.  We are three months out and still do not have anyone.  Seems every caterer we try to contact either takes two weeks between every response to calls/emails, or else gives no response at all.

    The biggest stress, though, has been how at every turn, there are a LOT more decisions to make than I anticipated.  I never thought I’d marry so I never had a dream wedding planned out.  I’m doing everything from scratch, which is completely fine.  But simple things, like addressing invitations – which etiquette rules to follow, what font to use, whether to hire a calligrapher or print them out, which style of stamps to use, etc. – things that probably, no guest will even pay attention to, but suddenly there are a million decisions that need to be made and I had no idea going into it.

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