Post # 1
There are so many must have, must do things to obssess over during wedding planing but do you have something that you seriously go ‘whatever’ to?
For me it is the table linens and decorations, I just checked off some boxes on the planning form and figured that it will turn out fine.
Post # 2
I’ve done that with a few things that just don’t matter all that much to me.
For the bm dresses, we found a dress in black that was flattering for my largest girl [I have 1 girl who is stick thin, and one who is a little more meaty, the skinny one looks good in anything, so I wanted to make sure my bigger girl felt comfortable]. They picked out a dress they both felt secure in, and that was that.
Also, their shoes. I just had them pick out some silver flip flops and that’s that.
I’m paying for their hair & makeup, but I don’t care how they wear it. I told them I’ll be wearing mine down and curly, but they are free to wear theirs however, just let the stylist know the day of.
For the tuxes, we took my fi to try some on, he picked one that fit and was black. We’ll need to get it altered slightly. We plan to take his best man in a few weeks, as long as it’s the same color of black, I couldn’t care less if they match exactly.
I picked out a rough draft of what I want my cake to look like, [rosettes and ruffles], and I’ll let my baker dream something up. I just need to pick out flavors.
Honestly, I’ve tried not to get too caught up in the little details. On my wedding day, I won’t care what my bridesmaids hair looks like, or if my groomsmen match the groom. All I’ll care about is enjoying my beautiful day.
Post # 3
Ours were the typical traditions. We skipped bouquet toss, bridal party entrance, and garter toss. That’s how little we cared. 🙂
Post # 4
But seriously, people rarely seem to enjoy favors unless they are food favors and we are having SO MUCH FOOD at our wedding that we might just scrap favors all together. I can’t imagine even wanting to look at food when this thing is over.
Post # 5
springbride23: Oh yes! We are skipping these too! (But we are keeping the parent dances, and probably the cake cutting. But we aren’t going to make a big announcement of the cutting or anything like that.)
Post # 6
A specific flower. Our flowist starting naming off flowers that matched what I said I wanted (wild flower look) and I was like “yep, uh-hu, okay.”
Post # 7
jenilynevette: Totally with you on the BM hair, make up and shoes. I know her so I know that whatever she does will be fine. I’m just happy she’s there, the rest is … whatever.
Post # 8
bridesmaids’ attire, decor and flowers (i.e. together these were 3% of my budget), what guests wore, having attention/my time in the “spotlight,” gifts
Basically all I wanted was a fun party with friends and family, with good food and alcohol where no one was inconvenienced.
Post # 9
The printing of the menu and programs, both of which I didn’t see until day of. Meh!
Post # 10
Things I didn’t really care about: hair & makeup details for my bridesmaids
The exact dress or shoes my bridesmaids wore. They chose their own, and I got to have pass/fail opinion.
There were a number of details I just didn’t care about, and in the end, they didn’t matter that much. We all had fun, ate well, and drank well.
Post # 11
I also have many traditions that I don’t find important and am scrapping for our wedding. We won’t have any programs, my bridesmaids get to wear whatever dresses they want in green, and I am DIY’ing the bouquets. My save the dates were sent via PaperlessPost, and my invites were made by my fiance’s mother for 120$ (sans postage). We’re skipping the bouquet and garter toss, and I’m contemplating foregoing the bridal party entrance.
Post # 12
We didn’t do anything paper for the wedding: no printed save the dates or invites, and no programs. We also skipped the bouquet and garter toss (only one non married couple at our wedding aside from kids, and we all know they’re getting married).
We also didn’t do any flowers aside from my bouquet (which I only cared about colors and a few succulents) and the bridesmaids bouquets which were just babies breath. Only my husband had a bout and even then, he forgot to wear it until after the ceremony! We also didn’t care what the wedding party wore, just wanted them to wear certain colors.
Post # 13
Also flowers. All I care is that they are fresh, and have white or pink in them. I plan to order premade bouquets from costco. I really don’t want to put alot of effort into something that will die.
Post # 14
renwoman: decor is least important to me as well. My venue is providing nice white linens, prety LED uplighting and votive candles for all the tables, and I am thinking of buying some simple centerpieces and not even bothering with flowers.
Post # 15
Really anything decor- linens, flowers, centerpieces etc. I really don’t think guests care about them too much (I don’t as a guest), and I think it is pretty hard for flowers not to be pretty. My venue is providing ivory table cloths for free- works perfect as my dress is ivory too, and I’m letting my cousin design centerpieces- won’t even know what they look like until I walk in the room on my wedding day. For bouquets we picked all in season flowers that went with our colors- I wasn’t picky- just went with the first thing our florist suggested in my price range.
Wasn’t all that into invitations, or the DJ either (wasn’t going to have one until someone recommended one to us at a very reason price and it seemed less stressful not to have to worry about it ourselves).