(Closed) What is/was the most stressful part of wedding planning for you?

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 17
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Family drama.  Their insistance on having everything a certain way and catering to SIL’s feelings.  It was brutal.

Thankfully we were both super easy-going about every other aspect or I may have had a nervous breakdown.

Post # 18
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

So far I’ve been pretty lucky, I’ve been most worried that my mom was gonna stress me out…but so far so good *knock on wood* Try not to stress over your Bridesmaid or Best Man possibly getting pregnant FI’s cousin is a groomsman and him and his wife have been trying to get pregnant for a while, and just found they are!  Everyone is super excited..her due date is mid april (Our wedding is beginning of may)…and she’s already told me she’s worried the baby will be late because she expects her husband (GM) and his parents (the uncle is going to be the officiant) to be there at the hospital with her and if if falls on the weddin then so be it. LOL So that might be an interesting twist! Everything will work out the way its supposed to…even if it does add some extra stress 😉

Post # 19
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Waldorf Astoria, Chicago

Picking out Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses, everyone has an opinion, and it really only matters what I want, LOL.  But seriously it’s the first time I thought I was going to be a bridezilla or say something mean.  Of course we all decided on a gown that was discontinued, so tracking down 5 dresses in the right sizes and colors was not easy, finally have them all!! 

Post # 20
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014 - Scottish Rite Cathedral (New Castle, PA)

By far other people’s opinions/feelings. It seems as though every single wedding decision someone takes personally. My parents and future IL’s have been totally cool and supportive but third party opinions are so stressful to me! 

Post # 21
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@LilySarah:  

my bridesmaids not wanting to choose a dress—that drove me insane.

the only other thing that drove me insane was flowers mainly because I felt very guilty spending 500 dollars on flowers…i know that’s low especially for Chicago, but I still was like that’s tires for our car!

 

so I really really cried a lot over that…silly now a week later.

Post # 22
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

For me ILs and planing from 400 miles away. It’s really hard to write that $1,100 check to book a venue you’ve never seen. For the most part it’s going pretty smoothly so far. I gave myself tons of time (20 month engagement) so I just focus on one thing at a time. I’m really happy with all of my vendors so far and since I’m early I’ve gotten my first choice of everything.

Post # 23
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

My mother is the most stressful thing going on in my wedding planning so far… I love her to death but her picking over every little detail is driving me crazy!!!! Also trying to stay within budget. Wedding stuff is so expensive and I am not trying to go broke. I am sure the closer my wedding date is the more stress I will feel…

Post # 24
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Picking an affordable venue. Our budget was tight but I wanted a traditional wedding. It took ALOT of researching, but i finally found something in my price range. Everything else has been a piece of cake. I am 7 months away from my wedding and pretty much done with all major items. I thought planning a wedding would be more stressful, but its not! well we will see how i am when its a month before the wedding LOL

Post # 25
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

So far, just having to please EVERYONE.

Although I am in a similar situation, my Maid/Matron of Honor is trying to get pregnant.. I wouldnt mind if she was pregnant, just sucks that we cant drink together for bachelorette and wedding, but I would only hope she would stop for the month that would make her due date fall on the same month as wedding. Selfish, I know. But it is what it is.

Post # 26
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

There are 3 really big things that make me ill just thinking about it for a second so i keep putting it off.

1. The bridal gown. – I just can’t with all the styles and silhouettes. I am so overwhelmed I just want to wear my snow white costume I already have and be done with it.

2. The Bridal Party and their dresses – I am having the WORST time trying to pick bridesmaids and trying to figure out dresses. It makes me want to cry.

3. The Seating Chart – I didn’t want to do a seating chart and let everyone decide for themselves where to sit but we got talked into doing one and when I think about who to sit where I get bummed out bc I want everyone to have a good time and sit with people they know or will get along with but it’s not possible to do that with everyone. Like there are a lot of people who are going that ONLY know my sister and I can’t have 25 people at a table with my sister though that would be great :/ So i will have to seat them with strangers and hope they all have a good time.

Post # 27
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I found the last 2 weeks the most stressful. I DIYed the centrepieces and had to finish those, get the numbers to the caterer and cake pop lady, pick up the cake pops, make the seating chart display, pick up my dress, make all the final payments, finish the programs, pick up the flowers, make our “Meet the Maids” and “Meet the Men” displays that we had on the guest book table, etc etc… And I worked until the Thursday before the wedding. But luckily everything was done by the Thursday before the wedding so I could just relax on the Friday at the rehearsal and the Saturday of the wedding!

 

Post # 28
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

So far, it’s definitely been having to deal with all the opinions and “advice” from every person in my life. As some other bees have said, it seems like some people take the decisions we are making for our wedding personally. Future Mother-In-Law hasn’t been the easiest to deal with because she has many opinions, especially about how I should be behaving as a bride. It’s annoying, but I can’t pretend to enjoy talking about the rehearsal dinner for THREE HOURS. Ain’t nobody got time for that!

A close to second for being most difficult is long distance planning everything. We live 450 miles from our wedding venue, and it’s not easy booking vendors who we haven’t met face to face. 

Post # 29
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

For me it was the day-of timeline. 

I had a timeline all set and when I gave it to various vendors (specifically our photographer & caterer) each had opinions and changes that they needed/wanted me to make.  On top of that we have a pretty large immediate family that was pretty much all involved in some way, shape or form and it was really difficult to organize things with them.  The timeline changed a few times, and the set-up, getting ready and rides all fell on my shoulders.  I really found organizing so many people to be hard.  I really tried to make it easy for everyone and please all parties but in the end it just stressed me out more.

Post # 30
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2000

my mom!

Post # 31
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

One of FI’s friends has been very opinionated in her thoughts on our wedding, and it annoys the hell out of me. She asks me about how plans are going and whatever and at first I’d answer her, but she’d only say something negative about what I’ve planned, berate me and then tell me what I should do. Like she asked how many people we were inviting, so I told her, she said we’re inviting way too many people and should have kept it small (guess what? If we kept it small, she wouldn’t be invited. Hey, maybe that advice wasn’t so bad after all!) Then she asked about our venue. When I told her where we were having our reception she was all “I went to an event there once. It was awful! The food was late and cold! And it’s so expensive! Anyone who would have their wedding there is stupid and wasting their money when you can do it cheaper somewhere else! You’d be better off saving your money and just eloping!”

Oh and then when Fiance and I told her her kid wasn’t invited she started crying and was all “But now I won’t be able to come! I was just going to bring her to the ceremony and reception, and have the sitter pick her up at 8! I can’t believe you didn’t put on the invitation that she can’t come!” Um we did. The invitation was addressed to you and hour husband only. Not you, your husband and your child, not to the family. Not my fault you couldn’t figure it out!

Then there’s the 7 people who declined and didn’t bother filling out their name, just checked off the ‘declined’ portion. Fortunately I had heard about that from wedding bee and was prepared. I wrote each guest’s name on the back in blacklight pen!

 

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