Post # 1
What does it feel like when you meet the one who is right for you? I understand that there is chemistry but I’ve had this with my Fiance who I am leaving so he obviously isn’t the right one. So what other feelings did you have when you met the one?
Post # 3
I feel like I can share anything and everything with him. We talk to eeach other so easily and we have the same sense of humor. I see myself growing old with him and watching our kids and grand kids grow up.
Post # 4
I felt like I didn’t have to change who I was or how I acted, he just fit so easily into my life (and I fit right into his). I can talk to him about anything and everything and feel like I’ve found someone who will always be on my side. It’s just…easy.
Post # 6
I felt like he really knows, understands, and appreciates who I am. I didn’t have to hide any aspect of myself or be embarassed that he wouldn’t like something about me. I felt like I knew him better than anyone else. We have the same values and goals in life. We never have a dull moment together, no matter what we’re doing. We would both rather spend time with each other than anyone else.
Post # 7
@jellybean80: +10! 🙂 Exactly this.
I described it to my sister as like finding your favorite pair of jeans and having them fit perfectly.
Post # 8
For me, it was just easy from the moment we met. There was questioning if he liked me or if he was going to call – I just knew. Our relationship is easy and effortless. I think it is because our foundation is build on we put each other first and treat each other with kindness and respect.
Post # 9
Well, our story is a bit different – we met through a mutual friend who spent a few months talking each of us up to the other person. He knew he wanted me as his wife before he actually met me. I knew I wanted a guy like him before I met him. When we met, there was immediate chemistry and butterflies – something I never had immediately with any other guy. But aside from that – it was easy, we both knew what we wanted out of a relationship and we both knew the other person was that. I think the key is knowing what you want and finding it, not forcing the guy to be what you want (or the girl, etc). And – we never let outside forces affect our relationship. We do things the way we want and when we want to do them, regardless of what other people think. So there’s less pressure on us. But the key is knowing what you want in a man and finding that. Sorry to hear your relationship didn’t work out *hugs*
Post # 10
my story is a little different, Fiance made a really awful first impression on me. I thought he was arrogant, obnoxious and just generally rude. It took me a while to move past that. He was a friend of a friend. I disliked him immensely for the first five months i knew him, dislike then turned to pity, because his girlfriend was a violent, and drunk, and demmanding. They broke up two months later, by which time i considered him my friend.
Two months after that i realised there was something between us, another month and i was in love…. but going 11,000 miles away with the boyfriend i had at the time.
I was away for 3 months on the other side of the world.
(this is where my story linked into yours)
I spoke to Fiance every day, getting to know who he was more and more, and the trust between us was insane. It felt like i had known him forever, and he was always there for me. I had never felt that way before.
Post # 11
@esplanfreedom: There is no magiacl spark or sign telling you you are meeting ‘the one’. Also there is no such thing as only one person for everyone. When you are already with the person you want to spend your life with, you will just know, but you won’t know until you actually give them a chance and have dated for at least a few months.
Post # 12
I don’t believe in “the one”. I believe you meet someone, fall in love, have compatible morals/goals/aspirations, and decide you want to make it work. I believe it’s a choice you make.
Ive chosen to spend the rest of my life with my Fiance, and I will continue to make thst choice every day for as many days as I have left. Do I think he’s the only man in the world who could make me happy? Probably not. But do I love him and do I have a strong friendship and mutual respect and a bond with him that I think will carry us through all the good and bad times?Absolutely.
Post # 13
@drummerbride: I agree about the magic spark crap. When I met hubby, there was chemistry, but that doesn’t mean much. I’ve felt MORE initial chemistry/attraction/lust whatever for other people the first time I met them, and sometimes that ended disasterously.
The important things for me are shared values and goals, loyalty/fidelity, trust, generousity, desire to be together and improve together… real things. Not Disney fairytale crap.
Post # 14
I’ve totally had the “this guy is the one!” feeling with other people, and those relationships ended very early on despite awesome chemistry and attraction.
My Fiance and i started as friends and have the most comfortable, dependable, and stable relationship I’ve ever had and that’s why I think he’s the one. Sure we didn’t have the fireworks but I wouldn’t trade our companionship for anything.
Post # 15
I had been badly burned before and was so not ready for a realtionship when we met.
We exchanged numbers. And he called me every day until I agreen to go on a date with him(three months later!)
And although I was scared…..petrified to let him in, I slowly did. I can remember the exact moment when I knew he was the one. We were on a trip to Baltimore. And I knew it. I felt it. 🙂
We have been through some pretty tough times and I know that he will be there~no matter what.
I know he’s the one because he is my best friend. We share the same interests and love just being together. And when we’re not able to see each other~we are on the phone for hours. We never run out of things to say.I can tell him anything. Share anything with him. And I can count on him to be there. He is the polar opposite of my ex!
Post # 16
@esplanfreedom: I agree with the PP. I would only add one thing. For us it is not just about being in love with each other. We really like each other, I know most don’t understand that. But, having the ability to like each other is very important. My fiance and I can pick up where the other left off, we can finish each others sentences, and yes after 5 years being together, I still can see in his eyes the way I did when our relationship was new. That is a difficult question, because each of us is different. I just knew, that he was the one. And friendship is also very important, you need to be friends not just lovers.