(Closed) What Judgement / Stereotype Do You Have To Overcome Daily?

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Post # 137
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Buzzing Beekeeper

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@ANGELaaimt:  I am in the same boat. I made a thread about how much my colleagues pressure me into partaking in all their lunches, dinners, cake parties, etc. I am trying not to eat that stuff, not to struggle at work and home. “No” never seems to be an appropriate answer and you do get treated like anti-social troll if you don’t go, lol. What ever happened to going to work to…work?

Post # 138
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

that I’m just a “dumb, young, married girl” i live in a very “progressive” area and my lifestyle is looked down upon and seen as something that only un-educated have to do as a last resort because they’re not smart enough to “think for themselves” ack.

Post # 140
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Blushing bee

People assume that I am antisocial or mean because I’m shy, that I’m judgmental/hypocritical/naive/ignorant because I’m a Christian, and that I know nothing about cars (or any of a host of other topics) because I’m young and female. I always get mechanics trying to price gouge me or sell me unnecessary services because they don’t think I’ll know better. There are tons of other things that people assume because of my age, too–like that I sleep till noon every day, or that I am irresponsible, or that I don’t know any music that came out more than 10 years ago, etc. It doesn’t help that I look like I’m about 17.

Post # 141
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@Barbiestylez:  That I’m not a ‘real Australian’ even though I was born here and my parents and grandparents were born here, because I’m part Spanish. I don’t get it too often, but every now and then someone will be like “what nationality are you?” and when I say I’m an Aussie, they go “yeah, but what are you REALLY?”. Um, check my passport. 

That I must be an idiot because I’m a (soon to be) teacher and teachers aren’t smart, because if I did well in school, I would have gone to law school or studied medicine or something. 

My least favourite and most commonly heard – that I watch sport (Aussie Rules football mostly) to attract men or because my DH makes me. Fuuuuck no. I’ve been footy obsessed since I was six years old. I’m more into it than DH is and he PLAYS football. 

Post # 142
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

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@Artificial-Sweetener:  YES! This drives me insane! I am naturally very tiny and sometimes I get worried to use the bathroom after I eat because I don’t want people to think I’m vomiting or something.

Post # 143
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Blushing bee

@Artificial-Sweetener: This too.

I am only 20 and have a naturally fast metabolism, so literally NO MATTER how much I eat, even if I stuff my face with fattening foods all day for days on end until I can’t eat any more (I’ve only done this experimentally, not regularly), I WILL NOT gain weight. People (always females) are always telling me that I “should eat” or that “someone should give me a sandwich” or that I “need to get some meat on my bones.” Some have even accused me of having an eating disorder. However, I am toned and have a low body fat percentage, so it’s funny when people are amazed because I’m stronger than I look or because I weigh more than they expected.

Post # 144
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2014

I get judged because I’m the youngest member of my team at work, being a woman, having a physical disability doesn’t mean I am severely learning disabled. I get judged because I used to be Christian. My lastest one is because I’m divorced and I live with non Christian Fiance. 

Post # 145
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@Barbiestylez:  I’m an Aussie-born Asian. And I guess in public I “stereotypically” appear to be the more quiet, bookish type… Must be the clothes I wear as well or something!

That’s why I love it when people start talking to me, either really softly or slowly (thinking I can’t speak English), and I burst out with something like “F*CKIN’ OATH I’d love some sauce on me sausage roll. Cheers mate!”

Stereotypically Aussie thing to say/way to say something, I know… but I don’t put it on all the time… just when I think they don’t think I know what they’re saying to me/at me behind my back. It’s hilarious, especially when they don’t expect it!

I always go along with it for the laugh – FH even introduces me to friends/friends of friends as his Mail Order Bride – sometimes I even beat him to it and introduce myself that way – gets a laugh from everyone (as long as they themselves aren’t Asian, haha *nervous laughter*) and is usually a great ice breaker, believe it or not!

So, no offence taken unless I overhear someone making a generalising/racist comment or something, but thankfully that hasn’t happened yet!

Post # 146
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I get mistaken about my ethnicity a lot everywhere I go but I’m used to it so whatever. I don’t mind.

i actually don’t care a lot of things but maybe that’s because it’s not as bad as some of you get.

Post # 147
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

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@Barbiestylez:  I buy cosmetics off eBay! Woold you pm me the link to your store?

Post # 148
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

In the real world, people will say things like, “Is your husband in the service?” (especially old people) because I’m asian and my husband is white.  I personally find this hilarious.  I would say I get judged on weddingbee more than anywhere else because I’m a Stay-At-Home Wife and I have a moissanite.

Post # 149
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

This isn’t so much a judgement on me, but it drives me nuts when someone “like” me, (e.g. similar level of education, income, similar size, similar style of clothing etc)., thinks that because we’re similar with respect to appearance, socio-economic status, demographics etc., that it’s ok to make rude comments about other people who aren’t “like us”.
Eg I grew up without a lot of money, now I make a decent amount after putting myself through grad school, and it really bugs when people make snide comments about “poor people”.. just becuase I don’t look poor to you, doesn’t mean I want to hear your ignorant BS

Post # 150
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Worker bee

I have been judged by my SO’s family. I’m divorced with two kids, and my SO is 23 (I’m 27), so clearly he’s just a rebound and I’m clinging to him as such. Also, he wants to go to med school, but is still has one more college course to take. My SO told me they alternate between assuming I’m only trying to lock down a doctor (which is stupid, because my sister is ALREADY a doctor…if that were the case, I’d have her set me up instead of waiting 4+ years) or that I’m going to make him give up his dream of becoming a doctor to stay home and take care of my kids for me. WhatisthisIdonteven…

My own sister told me that there must be something wrong with him if he wants to date me. Thanks, sis. My father basically said the same thing–it’s weird that a guy his age would want to be with a divorced woman with kids. Thanks, Dad. I guess I’m not as amazing as you made me out to be while I was growing up. My self-esteem is skyrocketing. 

I’m just waiting for the judgements to pile on AFTER the proposal! He’s the first guy I dated after my ex, and he’s perfect. We love each other. That should be enough, right? Nope. I guarantee that I’ll hear more about how I should just date around (sleep around?) instead of “settling for the first guy I met after my divorce.” Nevermind that that’s not my way, and it’s never been my way of doing things. 

Fortunately, I’ve gotten my sister to admit ONCE that part of the reason she keeps pushing for me to be single and trying to convince me that he’ll dump me once he’s in med school is because she’s actually worried that I’ll get married again before she’s been married once. I love it when people close to me try to control me with their own insecurities. Don’t you?

Post # 151
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@Barbiestylez:  That i cant possibly be smart becuase im what some people might find attractive.. 

I get talked down to daily.

Stupid corporate male dominated environment… 

Post # 152
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

some of the humblebrags on here are hilarious. 

I don’t have to deal with judgmental stuff daily…but when it happens, it usually surrounds the fact that i’m a girl and therefore can’t handle hard liquor. Pshhh. I consider vodka a chaser, you asshat. 

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