(Closed) What Judgement / Stereotype Do You Have To Overcome Daily?

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Post # 153
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

my age. I’m 22 but look a lot younger and sometimes I get mistaken for 16, in my job I work with a lot of older people as their boss and a lot of the time I get ‘so where’s the manager then?’, ‘you’re the manager? you look so young though!’ and it’s kinda annoying. I’m a retail manager for a leading cancer charity in the UK and my job is to manage stores in the absent of a manager (holiday/sick etc..) or failing stores. people are very surprised when they meet me in my job, I get a comment about it every time I go into a new store about it. 

Post # 154
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473 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Now that I’m growing my hair, people assume I’m straight. This is a judgement that comes from b

Post # 155
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473 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Now that I’m growing my hair and I wear an engagement ring, people assume I’m straight. This is a judgement that comes from both straight and queer people. I miss people being able to identify me immediately like they did when my hair was short. 

Post # 156
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I’ve been in a small, manual wheelchair since I was 13. I had nerve damage in one of my legs and I’m unable to walk at all. My daily judgment is that people always assume that because I can’t walk I’m also mentally challenged. People talk to me in a baby voice and treat me like I’m 5-years-old. I’ve actually been handed a children’s menu a couple of times (I’m 27). I’m always “sweetheart, honey, sweety” to everyone, even if I’m 10 years older than them! Its SO freakin’ annoying. A few months ago I had a guy ask me if I live in the group home down the street. Seriously?

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@housebee:  “is your husband in the service?” haha! Who on earth would say that?! What is wrong with people?!

Post # 157
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2015

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@Barbiestylez:  I often get judged by my tattoos.  I have them on both arms, both legs, my stomach, and a full size back piece that covers my entire back.  I’ve been out and overheard people talking about me and how I look.  A lot of older people assume that I’m not educated or seem surprised when I am polite to them (if I overhear someone talking about me I always make the effort to be extra nice and polite).  I’ve had my tattoos for so long that I don’t think about them anymore so it always surprises me when I get dirty looks or overhear snide comments directed at me.

Post # 158
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2015

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@lillyhere:  Right on, sister bee!

Post # 159
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1009 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Things I get judged on regularly:

Being overweight (apparently I’m lazy, eat bon-bons all day and watch soaps on TV)

Having big boobs & blonde hair (therefore I must automatically be slutty, with fake boobs, and stupid)

Wearing glasses (assumed I’m some kind of genius, which conflicts with boobs, which cracks me up simply because I can practically see their brain fry trying to figure out which I am haha)

Being engaged to a guy who is overweight (so its assumed that I’m just ‘settling’)

Having been divorced (therefore I was taking the so-called easy way out rather than working through my problems)

Being an atheist (ohboy I eat babies and small children! must be why I’m fat!) Laughing

Extreme shyness (which is often mistaken for being stuck-up, snobby, or rude in some way)

There’s more but I can’t think of them right now.

 

Post # 160
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

i get that i should bee mean / scary coz i have tattoos … an old lady tould me she was shocked at how nice i am when i helped her at work and that normaly tattooed people are horible..

my fi is the pastors first born so we get looks like why is he with her!! 

Post # 161
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445 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

That I’m thick – Boobs and blonde hair (and look like an actual woman) is not a common thing in my business

That I’m harsh and mean – It is great that national stereotypes still exist

Most people dont see my tattoos so I dont tend to get judged on them

Post # 162
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395 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2022

people assuming I’ve had plastic surgery/or wear butt pads lol

and they get even more judgemental when they find out my age lol (I look quite older)

it really makes me laugh lol, they’re called GENES ppl

Post # 163
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4650 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@Barbiestylez:  Well, I live in a country where I am the extreme minority, common stereotypes about people who look like me in this country:

1. We are fat and lazy

2. We are rude and loud

3. We are unqualified for our jobs and just here for a holiday

4. We are promiscuous/morally bereft

Post # 164
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232 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I try to be serious and professional at work so some people assume I am no fun.  Um, thanks.

Post # 165
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292 posts
Helper bee

I have a real baby face, so when I’m with my daughter I do occasionally get comments about teenage parents, dirty looks etc. I had her at 19, so comparatively young for round here but I was hardly 13 either! the other thing I get is people assuming that I’m her sister or babysitter. 

I don’t really take offense, I’ve always looked a lot younger than I am. I still get ID’d almost evey time I buy alcohol, and people are almost always surprised when I tell them how old I am. It’s a curse! 

Post # 166
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561 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

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@deetroitwhat:  LOL! My mom gets spanish language Cosmo in the mail because she kept my dad’s last name after the divorce!! She doesn’t speak or read Spanish, but she keeps the magazines around. Because they were free.

Assumptions people make about me include:

A) that I can’t be half Hispanic because I have pale skin. I get this from other Hispanic people just as much as white people.  People ask me if my last name is my married name alllllll theeeee timmmmmeee. I hate it. 

B) My first name is very much the “fad” name of my generation. Girls with my name are stereotyped as the idiot ditz type (doesn’t help that a famous pop star shares the name). When I start practicing as a PA, I’m sure as hell going by a nickname.

C) That I am conservative or narrow minded because of the way that I dress. I love skirts. I love dresses. I love cardigans, scarves, pea coats, blazers, button ups. My style is very classic and I love it. My Future Mother-In-Law was my teacher in high school, her first week teaching someone complained that she was teaching witch craft (I think we read Macbeth or something?). She told me years later that she assumed it was me, because I wore a skirt, blazer, knee highs, and had long hair!! 

Post # 167
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Honey bee

My skin color/features and the fact that I speak Spanish fluently often makes people believe I am hispanic (I am actually black and white). As a result, I have encountered people being blatantly racist toward me. 

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