(Closed) What Judgement / Stereotype Do You Have To Overcome Daily?

posted 6 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 62
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5950 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

@Barbiestylez:  …huh…I always marvel at people who automatically go with a negative assumption because of a lack of information….I’m quite the opposite about people who seem reserved or shy, figuring that they could be having a bad day, be out of their element and need a buddy or unsure of how to break into the social situation we might be in…

I used to be kind of shy, but I’ve had to talk to all kinds of people in all kinds of situations for my job and circumstances are not always stellar, so I’ve found that running in with a goofy, “Hey, I don’t know what the hell I’m doing, can you supervise me?” approach, wins me an advocate every time….I’ve gotten people to help me out in a lot of different circumstances when they certainly didn’t have to and I applied that to my every day life, it works.

Post # 63
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3570 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

People always think i’m a teenager, not actually a lawyer in my 30s. Very annoying.  Last week another lawyer told me, “well don’t you just look about 12 years old!”

Post # 64
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2267 posts
Buzzing bee

@bowsergirl:  That’s enraging!! You’re teaching kids about different paths, LIKE ENGINEERING!

Post # 66
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109 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Mine is being fat. People have this idea that all fat people are lazy, eat all the time, lack self control. I do constantly feel like I have to work harder to disprove people’s preconceived notions about me because of my dress size, both personally and professionally. 

Post # 69
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2831 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@musician32992:  I used to be much thinner, so I was more aware of it. But now, I still am thin but the comments are much less mean. My nickname around the office is “LT” (Little Tiny) but that’s coming from friends. While it still probably isn’t right that people are commenting on my smallness, I can’t say that it hurts my feelings.

As if we (maybe you don’t feel this way) don’t feel bad about being thin enough as it is. We don’t need someone stating the obvious that yes we are petite.

What really pisses me off though. That “Real Women” thing that’s happening. Well I am not curvy and I don’t have huge boobs, I guess I’m not a woman. I am a little prepubescent girl.

Oh and don’t ever eat a salad in front of anyone!

Post # 70
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3552 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I think the most common assumption that people make about me is that I am a student or a grad student. Sorry, I’m actually staff at the University. It’s an easy mistake to make though because my work environment is super casual and I carry a backpack to work. I also do plan to go back to school for my PhD hopefully next year, so I am in the general student age range. People are suprised when I tell them, but I don’t mind them guessing wrong because I am aware of the image that I project.

Post # 71
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104 posts
Blushing bee

probably that I’m not smart/don’t know what I’m doing because I’m not a guy. I’m studying math, and whenever somebody asks me something math-related I feel pressured to always give the right answer before if I don’t people will see me as a “stupid girl who has no idea what she’s talking about” : and people always ask me if I want to teach…

there was this guy who I met in an engineering class I took and he was always offering to help me do things like change my resume, go over the homework with me, fix my bike, fix my phone. as if I couldn’t do those things myself. ugh.

Post # 72
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4047 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

@Barbiestylez:  Yeah, I absolutely believe he had that attitude because of his background. He’s an engineer, his son is an engineer, and his granddaughter (my roommate) is preparing for med school. Obviously it’s good hard work, and you have to be well educated for that. But really, he can work well with numbers because he had a good first grade teacher who didn’t let him get behind!

@Chrysoberyl:  Exactly!

Post # 73
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5188 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

People assume I’m young because I look young and talk to me like I’m an inexperienced teenager. I don’t have to go into detail about the tattoos… you other gals with visible tattoos know what I’m talking about. And on multiple occasions I’ve been called white trash because I drive an old pickup truck. 

Post # 74
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258 posts
Helper bee

When someone finds out I dont have a degree and my age they assume that I am marrying my Fiance for his money. While I make half what he makes I still have anice office job and make more than enough to support myself. 

Post # 75
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2831 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@BrandNewBride:  Ahh I see… Just wondering, I live in the melting pot that is Southern California. Didn’t really click.

Post # 76
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1926 posts
Buzzing bee

@Artificial-Sweetener:  I weighed myself this morning and I’m 98 pounds, 5’2″. I get a lot of nasty comments from heavier women about how I’m not a real woman because I’m not curvy (which I am, actually- 28-23-29 is hourglass). I also get ridiculed about being anorexic, which I was at a point in my life. I don’t understand why it’s okay to verbally abuse smaller women, but the second you try to retort back, you’re bashing someone’s weight. 

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