Post # 1
I’ve been away from the boards for awhile, since I’ve been busy with other things. I lost my job and went back to school and my partner got a new job and we’ve started the process of buying a house. A and I have now been living together for 4 years like an old married couple and plan to do so forever. We were talking last night about our plans for the next few months and budgets for buying a house and replacing one of our cars, etc. I said, “Let’s get married next spring.” And he said, “I was thinking before the end of the year, after I finish training and go visit my parents to tell them. We should get married before we move.” And then we kissed and just went back to what we were doing.
Am I engaged? Did I just propose? Well, if I did, he said yes.
Post # 2
Congratulations!!! I love that you proposed and it was….. just so normal 🙂
Post # 4
identicallists : sure sounds like it! Congratulations!!! 😊😊
Post # 5
This is a conversation that you should have with him. Lots of people have hypothetical talks like this, but just ask him, are we engaged now that we know when we want to be married?
He might want to do a proposal, it could have been a hypothetical talk, or you could be engaged.
The only person who can tell you that is him.
Post # 6
Yeah. I surprised myself by just blurting it out like that, definetly not something I planned. So this morning he asked what kind of ring I’d like and said he’d like to have a civil ceremony with just the two of us first week in December. So I guess that’s that!
Post # 7
- Wedding: April 2017 - City, State
Congratulations! I got engaged in a similar way where we were talking about getting married and when I asked a few days later when he wanted to get engaged, he said “I thought we were engaged now”. Happy planning!
Post # 8
Love this. Two people agreeeing to get married. No drama! Hurrah! Come back and show us what ring you’ve picked.
Post # 9
This is such a cute story – love it more than any regular proposal. Congrats.
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Post # 11
That’s very similar to my story! It was a discussion, not the big romantic proposal like some people have, but just as real and just as lovely and just as exciting. Congratulations!
Post # 12
This may be my favourite proposal story ever….so genuine, so beautiful! Congratulations!
Post # 13
Thanks everybody. It seems like that’s just how he is.
“Do you want to be a couple?” ” Well yeah, of course, we already are.”
“Should we move in together?” “Don’t be silly. You know my apartment is your apartment. Let’s go pick up your dresser and the rest of your clothes and bring them over.”
Post # 14
Congratulations! I’m not sure if you’re engaged but I think it’s great anyway. I agree with Sansa85 though that you should discuss with him whether you both consider this an engagement or just a hypothetical talk leading to it.
I remember my now-husband asking me one day something like, “Maybe…if everything works out in the future…perhaps…would you consider marrying me?” I thought it was so cute and said of course.
Like you, I was also confused as to whether we were engaged or not. Later, we discussed our plans even more. It wasn’t until he had bought a ring and we had a date in mind and I was contacting possible officiants and we were making other concrete plans that I realized that maybe we were already engaged. We were LDR at the time and he insisted on proposing with the ring, so that happened later.
In all, I don’t know when we crossed that threshold between hypothetical discussions to a mutual agreement (engagement). But the proposal is still a special memory to me. I just don’t care much for the technicalities anymore.
Again, congratulations to whatever this may be!
Post # 15
- Wedding: Cathedral of the Immaculate Conception/The Gallery
Congrats! Two adults making an intelligent, mutually beneficial decision. Hurrah!