What just happened? Am I engaged? Did I propose?

posted 2 years ago in Waiting
Post # 16
2518 posts
Sugar bee

It’s great that you’re on the same page, but I wouldn’t say you’re engaged unless you’ve mutually decided that you are. My SO and I have convos exactly like this all the time, but I wouldn’t say we are officially engaged. Sure, some might consider us engaged in the sense that we know we want to get married and we have discussed timelines of when we’d like that to happen by and are on the same page. But he still wants to propose officially and I’m not wearing a ring yet, nor are we announcing to friends and family that we’re engaged until those things happen. I’d say you’ve established a timeline more than you’ve become engaged. However, if you both agree to skip the formal proposal and just start planning the wedding, then you are engaged. Either way, it sounds good! 

Post # 17
3796 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2019 - City, State

identicallists :  Ha! I love your relationship! Congratulations bee! Enjoy ring shopping and happy planning!

Post # 18
1973 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

You sound like you have a great and healthy relationship with your Fiance. Congrats and good luck to your future!

Post # 19
1284 posts
Bumble bee

Exactly how my parents got “engaged.”  And they’ve been married over 40 years and are the happiest couple I know.  Congrats!

Post # 21
266 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: St. petersburg, FL

Congrats, bee! You and your SO/FI sound like you have a wonderful respect for each other – lovely!

Post # 22
164 posts
Blushing bee

identicallists :  This seems like a conversation about getting married more than an engagement. I would maybe wait for the ring or ask him if he was serious and if he plans on proposing etc.  Congrats though it sounds like you are going to get married!

Post # 23
31 posts
  • Wedding: October 2018

I agree with some of the other bees, just ask him what your status is now.  My boyfriend and I talk openly about our plans and future.  We know when we will get married, and we know when we’re going to buy a house.  Right now, we are still dating and not engaged bc we are saving together for rings.  We plan to buy them on Black Friday (to get a good deal) and to get engaged sometime around Christmas (that part is a secret from me).  For us, we are as committed now as if we are already married.  But, we won’t consider ourselves engaged until I have a ring.  But it’s different for everyone.

It sounds like you’re in a wonderful relationship with open communication and a very bright future!  Congrats!

Post # 24
2471 posts
Buzzing bee

Old fashioned, perfect, romantic, and beautiful.

From my mother’s diary entry- “R asked me to marry him and I said ‘Yes’.” Most romantic proposal I ever heard’


Post # 26
116 posts
Blushing bee

Congrats! That’s very much how it happened for me. We’ve known since very early on we will be spending the rest of our lives together, but one night we were talking timelines about kids and when we’d be buying our next house, and the discussion just naturally moved toward when we would get married, and we set a month and year, where we would get married and what we will be doing for the honeymoon. He still plans on doing a surprise proposal with a ring and all, and wavers on whether he wants to consider us engaged. But pretty sure that when you’ve booked lodging and have started contacting wedding photographers, it means you’re engaged 😉

Post # 27
745 posts
Busy bee

I’m so excited for you! Yes, it sounds like you’re engaged! Any thoughts on what you’ll wear?

Post # 28
545 posts
Busy bee

Sounds like you guys just “fit” super cute. Congrats!

Post # 29
1309 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: City, State

omg i love this!!! Congratulations 🙂 this is the best thing Iʻve read all day

Post # 30
2660 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

identicallists :  lol I think you might have, you might want to mention to him that you want a ring (assuming you do) and that it would be best if you were wearing it when you visit his parents to tell them.

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