Post # 1
My biggest wedding fear is that people will leave my reception early. My friend recently attended a wedding where every guest except the wedding party had left by 9pm. The poor couple had paid to have the venue until midnight. She said they ended up having a nice time, but the bride was so disapointed and all of their pictures are just 10 people dancing in a huge banquet hall intended for 200 people.
So… what keeps you at a wedding longest?
I think I’m most encouraged by my relationship to the couple and a good party atmosphere. If there’s dancing and people are having a good time, I’ll close the house down!
Post # 3
I think the most important things are the music and being able to dance, and alcohol to get tipsy enough to not care about one’s terrible dance skills when dancing. lol
Post # 4
If the music sucks and no alcohol, I’d probably wanna get out of there as soon as possible, and even more so if the food sucks. A wedding of a family member I had went to about 3 or so years ago was like that. Food sucked, music sucked, and no alcohol. I think almost everybody wanted to leave early.
Post # 5
Good party atmosphere, and as your list mentions, not having to work the next day. A few years ago FI was best man in a wedding that we had to leave early because it was on a Sunday night and we both had to work Monday morning. We lived 3 hours away from the wedding, on top of that. We got home well past midnight (because we did stay for part of the reception), and would have had much more fun if we hadn’t had work the next day. I’m pretty sure that’s the only wedding we ever left early (of between 15-20 in the past 5 years).
Post # 6
- Wedding: August 2013 - An amazing non-profit retreat
Having the wedding all at one venue where people are staying the night. That, and a hot tub. My husband and I finally ditched the hot tub party at 2 am cuz we were exhausted.
Post # 7
What keeps me all night at a wedding? A sitter who can sleep over!
Post # 8
#1 for me, open bar.. Followed by fun atmosphere!
Post # 9
The only wedding I’ve ever left super early was the wedding of our neighbor. It was in their backyard and they worked very hard on it. However, they had a TON of alcohol (kegs, mostly) and no area to dance in. Plus, it was a hot summer day and the only space was outside. So couple in lots of beer + no dancing (so just standing around talking) + hot sun + my bed only a few steps away = MsMonkey passing out 3 hours before the reception ended.
Post # 10
@sherryberry: Haha, a hot tub would be awesome!! I do think staying all in one place (like a hotel) helps encourage people to stay!
Post # 11
@MsMonkey: For me, it mostly comes down to a good band/DJ and a good atmosphere. Also, staggering the night right.
My SO is a smoker, and a lot of weddings, he has no issues staying outside smoking, hanging out the whole night. If the DJ/band is good, playing a lot of dance music, and he’s willing to come inside and dance (which he can) then I call it a success.
We also would not stay at a wedding past like 10 if the wedding is not on a Friday/Saturday/Holiday weekend. Sorry, but if I have work the next day, I’m not going to be partying all night.
*Most* of our friends have had Saturday weddings. We (friends too) usually get a hotel room, and continue our partying at the hotel.
Post # 12
@MsMonkey: The timing of the event! I was at a wedding that started at 2, we were supposed to be at the reception at 3:30 for the “cocktail hour”–but it was TWO hours with NO drinks OR food! EVERYONE left after the cake cutting at 7pm! There were maybe 10 people left at 8!
I voted an open bar (but I drink before dancing, not while I’m dancing… So I wouldn’t need it ALL night) and a KILLER DJ. Though if there’s ANY music playing, I WILL be dancing to it!
Post # 13
If the music’s good and people are dancing, I’m there.
Post # 14
Most people I talk to leave because they get hungry or because the music is so loud they start to get an ear/headache. I left one yesterday far earlier than I wanted to because the music was pumping so loud. The room mostly cleared because no one could tolerate the level of the noise.
Post # 15
- Wedding: May 2013 - Pavilion overlooking golf course scenery, reception at banquet hall
A fun atmosphere and not having to be at work the next day will guarantee I’ll be there, regardless of how close I am to the couple or how far away it is from home. That said, if I am close to the couple I’ll stay longer regardless. Open bar is nice, but not necessary for me.
Post # 16
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
Friends, Saturday night, and booze.