Post # 1
I’ve read a bunch of posts from bees that have deadlines to look forward to. Or they know their SO has already bought a ring. Basically they see it coming from a mile away.
Not me. My SO is doing everything he can to not give me any clues. I know he wants to marry me. But I haven’t the slightest clue as to a proposal. I don’t know when, where, how, what ring he’s getting. He really wants to do it in a traditional surprise way. But the not knowing is killing me.
Anyone else in the same boat? Which kind of waiting do you think is worse/better?
Post # 3
Mine is going to be a total surprise. Aside from the fact that it WILL happen and it won’t be in the near future, I won’t know anything about it (and I like it that way).
Meanwhile, I am quietly adding things to my “Future Wedding” file so I can have some fun and get a jump start on the planning. Think of the waiting period as extra time to perfect the details!
Post # 4
Mine is a semi-surprise. I know he has a ring, and which ring it is, but I dont know anything at all about the proposal or when it will be (except for our timeline which is sometime before June). Eventhough I know what ring it is (aka. my dream ring) I haven’t seen the stone that will be in it. Also, we don’t have any special dates or anything between now and June so really I have no idea when it might happen! Although its not quite the surprise I always hoped it would be, its special and exciting nonetheless and I can’t wait!
Post # 5
Back in February, we set a timeline of 1 year. He knows my ring size and wants my “final answer” on the ring this week (we picked out the setting/design together but I’ve been really indecisive about the stone and metal, haha). The day I give him my final answer will also be the day he gives me a “heads up” that he will propose sometime within the next few months.
I haaaaate surprises, so I’m okay with this compromise. 😀
Post # 6
I know in December I will be officially engaged – before Christmas, but after the 12th. My engagement ring is sealed up in a box about five feet away from me.
We’re all in different circumstances. I am in an LDR and we only see each other every few months, so we don’t have a lot of options for a proposal. I picked out my ring and we had it shipped to me in order to save on customs tax.
While I LOVE being so involved in the process and honestly feel unofficially engaged now, part of me wishes I had the surprise factor that you will. If I wake up on Christmas Eve unengaged, I will be on edge all day waiting for him to propose. While I find that exciting, I also love the idea of a proposal coming completely out of nowhere. It’s sweet.
To each their own! As long as you and your guy are on the same page and general timeline, who cares if you know exactly what to expect or if it will hit you out of nowhere one day. Each has its pros!
Post # 7
He is super excited about getting married and reminds me often “I can’t wait to make you my wife.” For that reason, I assume that he’ll propose the next time we see each other (we’re going on a Caribbean vacay over Xmas/NYE). If not, I’ll be surprised, but not disappointed. I’m sure he has everything under control and will do it in the perfect way at the perfect time.
Im not anxious about it, but I eagerly look forward to my proposal!
Post # 8
Me too!! I have ABSOLUTELY NO IDEA…. I did ask “look, can I get kind of an idea about time? Is it at least close enough that I’m allowed to be excited about it?” – “Yes”.
That, and I know that he won’t be proposing on any other day when I am supposed to get presents. Because he said I shouldn’t waste an opportunity to get presents (cross off xmas, my birthday…)
And I know he has “a plan” because he gets annoyed when his parents hound him about asking me. Apparently he has a great plan that is a couple of years old.
And one more thing – he was having a good rant about his sister and her husband, and then he mentioned something about our 6 year mark. I turned around – “what?!?”, his reply “Nothing”. Soooo maybe our anniversary, but I’m not convinced because we only “figured out” when our anniversary was for the 5 year mark in march this year haha.
It is driving me insane!!
I agree – I was totally surprised at how many waiting bees have timelines / ideas about when it will happen!! I think that I would be too scared to give him a timeline, I figure if he has an amazing plan that he has kept secret for this long, I would hate to ruin it! But at the same time, I’m desperate to be able to call him something more than my “boyfriend”. It just sounds so silly AND like any kid before xmas… curiosity is killing me!
If he had a ring – I would be the last to know. He has gotten clever over the years and can hide anything from me, even a 90cm soft toy!
Post # 9
I chose the rings (heck one was delivered to my house!) and I know that he’ll be proposing during a particular week in February. I don’t know which exact day or how he’ll be proposing however and this arrangement works for me. This way, I don’t have to wonder if he’ll be doing it on my birthday, Christmas, etc. because that would drive me nuts! And he’ll still be able to surprise me since I’m happily in the dark about how he will actually propose.
Post # 10
All I know is that there will be a proposal between now and summer… He wants it to be as much as a surprise as possible (unfortunately :P)
Post # 11
He told me a couple of months ago that a proposal was coming before Thanksgiving…and he got one of the 3 rings I liked while shopping. I don’t know when or how things will unfold and it messes with my head! The other day he bent down to pick up something in front of me and I almost passed out! What a drama queen. 🙂
Post # 12
Mine is a semi-surprise, I know it’s coming as he’s asked for permission from my dad, but I don’t know when it’s coming, althought I have a few ideas 😉
Post # 13
he said he found the ring he likes for me not too long ago, but i dont know if hes paying it off or if he has it in his possession. i have no idea. he doesnt even have my ring size.
he did agree to a timeline of the end of the year for a proposal, but he could very well wait until jan or feb, so in that regard i really have no idea when he will ask. im just as clueless as you are.
i think if i knew a definite timeline and that he for sure had the ring i wouldnt be as much as a waiting mess as i am now, bees who KNOW their SO has the ring and will propose soon got it better IMO.
i only hope he paid attention to the rings i like back when i was in nagging mode a year ago, showing him rings online. but we’ll see.
Post # 14
The SO wants to surprise me with the ring and proposal so I have no idea about either except that he has looked at rings and has said that he may purchase in Winter. He’s said recently that he does still intend to ask me, so I shouldn’t be sad about not being engaged yet, but I don’t get to plan or worry about anything until I have a ring, so I’m a waiting bee. 😛
I think the folks without rings yet or who can’t plan have it worse than those who can, but I’m on that side of the fence. 🙂
Post # 15
@NotablySidedJP: It’s not a bad thing to not know. Sometimes knowing too much ruins the surprise and a lot of bees have wished they’d known less about the how, when and where.
I know my SO has the ring as I accidentally opened his email account (he hadn’t logged out of our shared computer) and saw a message from the jeweller confirming the purchase. But other than that, the details and exact date will be a surprise to me and that’s exactly how I want it. I’m not 100% on the ring either, as I’d only sent him a photo of the one I liked. That’s not to say he went with something else. Our anniversary is next month and I’m hoping he proposes then but again I really have no clue when it will happen. As much as I hate not knowing, as I’m the planner in our relationship, I definitely want this to be a surprise.
Post # 16
I know that it will be one of 2 rings we looked at. I liked one more and he liked the other more. Both gorgeous. The one he likes is more flashy than my liking. I told him surprise me – pick the ring he wants to see me in the rest of our lives.
As far as the proposal it is going to be a total surprise and that’s what he is excited most about. He even said the other day that I will know its coming because he will become very emotional. I think it will happen before Christmas.