What Kind of Wedding Did Your SO want?

posted 2 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 2
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Sugar bee

My Darling Husband wanted a big, luxurious wedding and so did I…so that’s what we had! laughing

Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

greybee :  i really hate the gendered stereotype here, and the idea that “most” women have been dreaming their whole lives of their wedding. my be all and end all of my dreams did not include planning a wedding.

to answer your question, Darling Husband wanted a wedding that would make me happy. seriously, he just wanted to marry me and didn’t have any preferences otherwise (except that it was located within a reasonable drive of a major airport since we’d have family flying in). so meeting in the middle was easy, because we both love the mountains and so we found an outdoor venue in the mountains.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - Poppy Ridge Golf Course

Most women know this? News to me since only 1 in my circle of 5 ever expressed interest in wanting to be married. Neither of us had a vision and if Fiance didn’t place such importance on marriage this wouldn’t be happening. We dived in and started researching (mainly me) to figure out what might work. All I knew for certain was a large event would stress me out so we have a max of 50 attending. 

Post # 5
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Bumble bee

My husband wants a wedding. A party with his friends and family. I wanted nothing. We compromised by not having a ceremony and having the party be less than 20 people. Full on fancy, scaled down guest list. 

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

My Fiance wanted just a fun wedding with all our family and friends. This is what we are having! Our visions are pretty similar so I was lucky there.

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

greybee :  Mine was totally fine with eloping – he didn’t want any attention. However I did talk him into a pretty small wedding (34 guests in the end), which he chose to bbq for so that he could lose focus that way.  I don’t think he regrets it at all; he would have regretted not having his family there in the long run.  I didn’t want anything big either though, so this was easy enough for us to compromise on.

Post # 8
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

He wanted something small, intimate, and inexpensive haha which worked out perfectly because I wanted the same.

Post # 9
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

We had pretty much the same vision. Smallish, outdoors, more relaxed, good food and booze were a top priority. It made planning easy since neither of us felt like we had to compromise what we wanted.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2017 - Lake Louise Canada

He wanted a hot destination beach wedding but in the end caved to my snowy winter one.

Post # 11
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

Darling Husband wanted a 300+ person standard wedding.  i wanted a smaller wedding.

my mom paid for it, so our wedding was 120 people.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2019 - Chateau Lake Louise

greybee :  Fiance wanted to get married at his sister’s. She has a gorgeous house with some amazing property. He’s not keen on being center of attention (I’ve assured him everyone will be looking at me 😉) and thought a familiar location would be less stressful. 

His sister was all for it, but her husband nixed the idea. 

We started looking at a resort venue about a 2 hour drive from home for a winter wedding (both avid skiers) but ultimately decided on a Destination Wedding to Los Cabos which is where we had our first vacation as a couple. 

International travel will keep the guest list small and we’ll be able to roll the honeymoon into the trip, rather than trying to plan a wedding and honeymoon separately. 

My original vision was a medium sized (125 or so) event up on Mt Hood. What we’re doing is a tiny (30-40) on a beach in Mexico. Though it isn’t what I originally envisioned, I’m still excited and I know it will be beautiful. It was more important for Fiance to be comfortable than for me to get exactly what I imagined. 

Post # 13
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

greybee :  Agree with some PP that “most” women don’t necessarily know what they want, I certainly had no clue until he proposed! That being said, Fiance is a wedding photographer so HE had all the ideas figured out and I’ve been talking him down from the more elaborate ones ever since. 🙂

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2021 - City, State

I had no idea what I wanted, my Fiance was insistent he didn’t care until I started running ideas past him, then it was “nope, nope, nope”

he wanted a big wedding with friends and family, I want nice beer. We are having a big wedding

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

Darling Husband wanted a traditional big wedding. I wanted to elope. So we compromised on a smallish, relaxed wedding of 60 people of just immediate family and close friends in a quiet country manor house. However after my inlaws got hold of the guest list that quickly ballooned to 120 and our venue changed to a hotel ballroom to accommodate everyone.

Overall we had a great day, it definitely wasn’t what I would have organised, but my Darling Husband was very involved in the planning and absolutely loved the day. I’m happy that he was so happy.

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