Post # 1
I was thinking about this. It seems hard to separate out what I actually want and what I feel like I need to do for everyone else. So, that had me wondering, what would you ladies want to do if you weren’t trying to make other people happy? How is it different from what you are planning?
Post # 2
I would have gotten married in Hawaii just the two of us. But we are actually doing a 50 person wedding here locally. We are still going to Hawaii just after the wedding. But Fiance thought I would regret not having my family at my wedding and he wanted a wedding so we are having one.
Post # 3
I would have eloped or had a wedding with ten guests, on the beach.
Instead I am getting married locally, initially had the guest list at 35 but the in laws have pushed the guests up to more than 70 already and they haven’t stopped yet.
Post # 4
I don’t think there’s much I’d do differently – I think I’m pretty lucky like that with my own and Fis familys being very laid back. We could have easily have had a bbq at the beach without upseting people, and I thought this was what I wanted for a while before realising that I do want a little bit of a fuss made for my wedding day.
It’s hard to not succumb to external pressure though, from internet or other brides who are having this or that fancy thing. I just remind myself what’s important and what’s not. For example I’ve decided I want to decorate my hyundai getz and drive it to my wedding…so this is what I shall do haha (and not just to save money)
Post # 5
A small bbq in a field somewhere or in my back yard.
Post # 6
I would be having a wonderful outdoor wedding near an array of fountains with a fully blush dress
Post # 7
Under 100 people, by the water with an outdoor ceremony. I gave that idea up pretty quickly when I saw how sad my parents would be if they couldn’t invite more family.
Post # 8
- Wedding: May 2018 - City, State
I’d be eloping by an Elvis impersonator when we go to Vegas next month if I had my way 😉
Post # 9
I’ve been pretty lucky, so my answer is the one I’m having. Sure, we get weird looks when we tell people about our personal touches, but that’s their problem, not mine.
Post # 10
Eloping in the mountains, just the two of us. Makes me smile just thinking about it 🙂
Post # 11
Soph45: We probably would have either eloped or gotten married at the court house… or gotten married at the same spot we did (a local parks Gazebo), but had someone from the court house or the officiant we had marry us there… just us.
Post # 12
I didn’t take no shit from anyone including my father, stepmother, various friends with their demands. I did what I wanted to do, paid for it myself, don’t owe a cent to anyone, and had a wedding of my dreams. No regrets whatsoever!
Post # 13
The only person I tried to make happy with my wedding was my husband, and we were both happier for it.
Post # 14
the exact same wedding we had. our wedding was exactly what we wanted and we planned it that way.
why would you plan a wedding that would make others happy but not yourself?
Post # 15
Small ceremony with just immediate family, dinner at a nice restaurant, then a fabulous honeymoon to Ireland. Granted, our wedding will still be small at 50 people but I would have preferred smaller.