- 4 years ago
- Wedding: January 2016
I wouldn’t have done anything differently. It was me and DH’s wedding, so we did what we wanted. My parents gave us a budget and said to do what we want. Mother-In-Law wanted us to have a reception in her hometown park, about 30 minutes from our ceremony, and we told her no.
Elopement in Vegas.
The kind where we elope with just immediate family and BFFs around.
I had a brunch/lunch wedding with about 54 people……it was nice. But I would have rather a cruise ship wedding with immediate family and close friends or elope to some romantic destination
We are planning the exact wedding we want. It’s our wedding, we are not trying to make other people happy – why would you do that?
The same as I am having now, I am an adult who can say no to meddling family and friends, you only live once do what you want and what makes you happy!
I would have done exactly what we are doing now. We are having a tiny, 12 guest, wedding in Hawaii with our immediate family and best friends. I honestly wouldn’t change a thing, besides the fact my parents, FI’s mom and our grandfathers, who have all passed could be there. We never tried to make others happy and our loved ones never imposed on us. We were originally going to elope, so they are very happy to be included now and go to Hawaii.
I’m having the wedding I want. That’s how it works when you pay for it yourself and are a grown up.
Before Fiance and I got engaged, we had talked extensively about eloping to Hawaii (the island of Molokai to be precise) and doing a wedding-moon there. We would have had his sister and Brother-In-Law fly out with us to be our witnesses….it would have been fabulous. But, of course, when we did get engaged our families wanted us to get married and have an actual wedding….plus his sister got pregnant, too, and is due in January so she definitely wouldn’t have been able to come to Hawaii next summer (we were originally planning to elope in June 2016).
It’s amazing how plans can change.
To all the bees in this thread who wished they had eloped, my husband and I did the big wedding in our hometown, and then “eloped” on the beach in Jamaica during our honeymoon: http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/iberostar-grand-rose-hall-wedding-pic-heavy/
And, it was under $1,000 to do our elopement-style ceremony! I am so happy we did it.
Because we were able to do our Jamaica ceremony and dinner, there is nothing I would change about anything 🙂
Yea, maybe it’s a benefit of being older, but we’re not pleasing anyone but ourselves. I’m having exactly the wedding I want, with the exception that I would add a few more “perks” if only I had all the money I want. lol
I want to get married on a cliff overlooking the ocean, in the winter, maybe when it’s a little rainy, in a simple dress with flowers in my hair. I don’t care if anyone else is there….just me and my man.
My only concern is that my parents may feel left out if they aren’t included. But they are very supportive, and I think they’ll be happy for us regardless. I don’t plan to compromise what I want for anyone else!
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