Post # 1
We found this one venue that’s pretty nice, it’s basically a big empty hall, but it has a kitchen in it, which means we could really easily self-cater an apetizers and deserts type thing. So I want to do that, have both the ceremony and a more coctail-style reception in the same place (although weather permitting the ceremony will be outside and the food inside)
FI wants to have the ceremony there, but go to a resteraunt for the reception. (Sushi was what he mentioned) I’m not totally opposed to this, but I feel like it’d be so restrictive to be sitting down for dinner the whole time, I think it’d be boring and not as special, just like going out to dinner. I also think it’s lame to make people drive there, then leave probably less than an hour later to go somewhere else (this place is a bit out of the way from town, probably at least 20 minutes)
Cost is a big factor too, and I’m not really sure which would be more expensive. The hall is $65/hour to rent, and I figure having people stay for that type of reception we’d probably get 3-4 hours more than for a ceremony-only. Food couldn’t be more than $50 (breads, spreads, home baked deserts). We’d also have to make more decorations. We might have to do a dry reception here because an alcohol permit is $200 and you can only bring wine, beer, and champagne (all of which we both dislike)
At the resteraunt, we’re figuring rolls are about $9, and some people will get 1 and some will get 2, most people will get a soft drink (we have 21 guests so maybe ~$250 for food) Then there’s alcohol and I have nooooo clue how much that costs because I don’t really drink. I’m think it’d be best to just order shared sake for the tables though rather than letting people order unlimited whatevers that could cost a lot.
So my questions are- which type of wedding would you rather be a guest at? Which one would you rather host? What’s less cost and what’s less hassle? (And is less cost worth more hassle?) Opinions are very much appreciated!
Post # 3
I didn’t vote, but I do have a few points you may want to consider regarding the restaurant reception. It seems like you are planning on having everyone order what they want, and that everyone will eat sushi, and only drink soda. Is everyone on your list a sushi eater? If you choose to go that route, I would preplan on certain foods to be available, and have an option for the non sushi eaters – maybe teriyaki or tempura?
Post # 4
@nyscpa2be: That’s a good point, the resteraunts do have rice bowls and other dishes available, and they fall in the same price range as 1-2 rolls, so the estimate works out the same.
Post # 5
I didn’t vote. I like both options (love sushi and the restaurant idea.) To have the ceremony at the hall and then to have dinner at a restaurant is a good option. Then you wouldn’t have the stress of self catering. However, having the ceremony and reception at the same place while doing all the catering yourself will save you money. Also, since you’re only thinking of cocktail type foods, it should be a lot less work than having a full course menu.
Post # 6
If you are going to do the restaurant thing, I would suggest calling ahead and maybe talking with a manager of the restaurant and setting a limited menu. We did this at an Olive Garden once for my college graduation. Guests were able to pick from 4 different meals and order any non-alcoholic drink and it was all a set price. Maybe the sushi place could set something similiar up where the guests have a choice of 3-4 rolls to choose from and then maybe 2 or 3 grill items.
However, I also agree with you that a restaurant reception may be a little more restrictive and it will be harder for you to socialize with your guests. Especially if you plan on having more than 40 or 50 people.
Post # 7
I voted for option 1 – I think being able to mingle and eat as you please is much more appealing if I think of it from a guest’s point of view, but that’s just me!
Post # 8
I voted other because I like the idea of more food at a sit-down dinner, but I don’t like sushi. Obviously since I’m not attending, my tastes don’t matter but I would make sure everyone likes sushi before you decide on the restaurant. I also think a restaurant would be less stress on you guys, getting food together is just one more thing to worry about.
Post # 9
While I love sushi I know that my dad refuses to eat it. And I think it would be nice to be able to get up and socialize with everyone. So I voted for a heavy appetizer reception. Check out Sams Club/Costco for easy apps, both hot and cold!
Post # 10
I am afraid to try sushi..lol.I voted for heavy appetizers