Post # 1
I have just spent a good thirty minutes reading posts about lessons learned while dres shopping, things learned from being in weddings that brides will never do . . .. . and it has really helped me remember what I want to focus on while planning my wedding over the next year and change.
Just curious if anyone had anything else to contribute/keep in mind? It’s so easy to get lost in the details!
Post # 3
it helped me a lot to keep the “big picture” in mind. my motto became “the goal of the day is marrying the man i love – everything else is just details”
things will go wrong, but you can’t let that stop a second of your happiness because the day goes by too fast as it is, without wasting it pouting about the wrong song or a wilting flower
enjoy planning your wedding as much as you can, but don’t forget that you have a “real life” going on at the same time – dont abandon your normal day to day life
Post # 4
I’m not married yet, but will be soon. What I learned is that no prices with your vendors are set in stone. EVERYTHING IS NEGOTIABLE!
Post # 5
Don’t wait till the last minute for your projects.
Order all your paper pre-cut already! It saves HOURS! I ordered all mine from achorpaper.com <—love these people!
ASK for help &
Delegate! take your Bridesmaid or Best Man and their talents to get things done.. ie. I have a very administrative friend… just made needed phone calls.
Don’t get caught up in the “have to have” b/c well.. you don’t and you won’t miss it the Day of b/c well, you’ll be preoccupied with being HAPPY!
Make your day of timelines as soon as possible… try and not wait till the week of.
DO DO DO make a list of must have photos… your photog can’t read your mind and you’ll be too busy in the blur of the day to think about it then.
Spend your time wisely… Write down your priority.. invite, decor, gifts, etc and use the hours you have accordingly…
AND…. most important.. remember that you’re marrying the man of your dreams and everything else is really not THAT important. 😉
Post # 6
Keep a backup of that insane excel spreadsheet you’ve created with everything on it, so that when your computer crashes you aren’t trying to regather address’, redo seating charts, trust that your vendors tell you how much you really owe, and hunting for all of the rsvp’s to gather meal choices 3 weeks before the wedding. (that might have just been me)
You’re wedding will be the best wedding you’ve ever been too even if none of it works the way you thought it would and on that day none of those things will even matter.
Post # 7
Make a list of all the areas of a wedding. Then make a top ten. From that list make a top 5. From that list a top 3 and rank them. When it comes time to make decisions (about time or money), refer back to that list. It’s funny how suddenly you must have or need to make the small little detail that in the beginning of planning wasn’t important. The list will help you stay with your priorities!
Don’t do DIY with the hope that everyone will notice and say great things. Most of the stuff is never noticed or mentioned to you. Make sure you are doing DIY because *you* love it. The act of doing it should be enough. If you do with the expectation of everyone else complimenting you, you’ll be disappointed!
Post # 8
Expect that right before the wedding you will likely be stressed to no end and on edge all the time, even though you always planned to be the mellow bride who doesn’t care about details. Just anticipate it and try to deal with it. The weeks before the wedding, you won’t be yourself.
Expect that people will tell you “But it’s YOUR day!!!! You should do whatever YOU want!” and then proceed to tell you how you should do things (i.e. the way they would do it). Try to tune it out.
Don’t worry too much about what your guests will think about your DIY decorations or if they will like your favors. If you want your guests to be happy, you will need 1. good food and plenty of it, 2. a short ceremony, 3. not too much idle time between the ceremony and reception, 4. good music. We had an open bar, which seemed to help too.