(Closed) What level of 'waiting' are you at?

posted 5 years ago in Waiting
  • poll: What stage of waiting are you at?
    Just started dating, but I already know : (7 votes)
    3 %
    Long term relationship, but no talk of marriage yet : (4 votes)
    2 %
    Long term relationship, with abstract discussions of marriage : (20 votes)
    10 %
    Discussed the fact that you WILL be getting married someday, but no details on when : (34 votes)
    17 %
    Talked about a timeline for proposal : (45 votes)
    22 %
    Talked about a timeline for proposal, and it's SOON : (52 votes)
    25 %
    He has the ring! : (28 votes)
    14 %
    Other (explain below) : (16 votes)
    8 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    380 posts
    Helper bee

    @winstonchurchill:  Great thread!! We’ve been together 4 years and have been discussing marriage for maybe the last year or so… My SO brought it up the other day so I asked him if he had a timeline in mind, he said sometime mid to late next year ๐Ÿ™‚ I couldn’t be happier!!

    Post # 4
    Member
    352 posts
    Helper bee

    I picked “talked about a timeline for proposal” but sometimes I feel like “Discussed the fact that you WILL be getting married someday, but no details on when” is more accurate.

    He told me he was very serious about getting married in “less than 700 days” on March 31st. That would mean being married by March 1st, 2015 (OF COURSE I did the math, lol). But, as I’ve said in numerous threads, my guy is always saying things like “could be next month, could be next year” as far as engagement, so I really feel like I have no idea!

    Right now I’m trying to be in the mindset that it’ll happen one day, who cares when, and I’m just trying not to talk about it EVER.

    Post # 5
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    1459 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2017 - Bristol zoo

    I selected long term with abstract discussions. I’m sure there are people who might say 2 years isn’t long term (? I’m only 21 but we just started living together and he’s 27).

     

    i trust that he will propose at some point, though our discussions have mostly been in the hypothetical so far. I’d like to dig a bit deeper but right now I’m happy enough to keep stum.

    Post # 6
    Member
    2854 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    We’ve been together for 7 years, living together 2.5 years, but we’ve only recently (like within the past 2 months) really been discussing marriage/timeline. I offered the idea of us getting married on our 10th anniversary (happens to be a Saturday!), which is in three years, and requested at least 1.5 years to plan. That gives him until next October to propose.

    Last week we ended up filing for domestic partnership for insurance purposes. It sorta came out of the blue, I didn’t know we would have to file something official. It lead to a discussion about marriage, engagement, and a serious discussion about rings! So now it seems like he might be moving things up for himself to sometime this year! Excited!!

    Post # 7
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    849 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

    I voted for “Discussed that you will be getting married but no idea when” because Boyfriend or Best Friend and I have only been together for about 8 months but we know that this is it for us. He is the one for me and vice versa ๐Ÿ™‚

    But when I asked him for a timeline, he refused to give me one. He thinks the whole thing should be a surprise. So I really have no idea when we’ll get engaged. It could be this year, next year or even two years from now! Who knows but you know, it’s okay. I can wait. 

    We are moving in together in January so I think that will help make the wait much easier to deal with ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 8
    Member
    131 posts
    Blushing bee

    I am at the stage of waiting thst I no longer feel it can be romantic, I feel like the long wait has sucked the fun out of it.

    Post # 9
    Member
    141 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2015

    SO and I just started seriously discussing rings…he asked me to come look with him, as he would have no idea what to get for me. We’ll be checking out stores later this week. ๐Ÿ™‚ Heading to Europe for a week in July so…we’ll see!

     

    Post # 10
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    1669 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    We’ve already set a date, so we’re engaged for all practical purposes, but we’re going ring shopping this fall and announcing our engagement this christmas. I picked “other” but before this turn of events, we had a really detailed timeline that we’d set up together.

    Post # 11
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    806 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    we have already set a date and planned the wedding (in our heads), looked at rings, but he hasnt bought it yet. he wants the proposal and timeline to be a surprise.

     

    Post # 12
    Member
    7208 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2015

    We’ve had one, single conversation about the timeline. I’m lucky in that my SO REALLY pays attention to everything I say… it’s a blessing and a curse (or as I like to say to my geeky man “it’s a feature and a bug” :P). So I know it will be sometime after my friend’s wedding in June and sometime before February of next year. I actually really like that length of time. I would prefer to be somewhat surprised. I hope I don’t know when the ring is purchased either!

    Post # 13
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    799 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I picked ‘talked about a timeline, and it’s soon’! SO and I have decided that it’ll be before mid-August this year as we’ll be visiting family in Australia then and we’d like to surprise them with the news. We’ll probably let our family here know just before we leave for Australia. We went this past weekend and ordered the ring and it’ll be ready on approx 2 weeks!!! Aaargggh I’m so excited and anxious..its all I can think about!! So proposal timeframe is between end-May and mid-August and leaving all of that up to SO!

    Post # 14
    Member
    46 posts
    Newbee

    I have no idea when it’s coming.  I chose “Long term relationship, with abstract discussions of marriage.”  While discussing marriage, I told him I’m not going to date him indefinitely and if we get past a year and a half of dating with no movement toward the future, I might start feeling resentful.  Now, I’m not going to bring it up and hope for the best!  I’ve successfully been in the SIUP for THREE MONTHS! 

    Post # 15
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    629 posts
    Busy bee

    I chose discussed a timeline, but it’s more of a conditional timeline than a guaranteed timeline. Basically, it only exists IF the place he started working a few weeks ago decides to keep him on after the first 14 weeks (they get government funding for those weeks only).

    Post # 16
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    2297 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    last night right before bed my SO said out of the blue ‘it will be exciting to be engaged’ and then asked how i’d like to celebrate. i said ‘with an engagement party at christmas…or you know, whenever’. he said christmas sounded like a good time for the party ๐Ÿ™‚

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