(Closed) What level of 'waiting' are you at?

posted 8 years ago in Waiting
  • poll: What stage of waiting are you at?

    Just started dating, but I already know

    Long term relationship, but no talk of marriage yet

    Long term relationship, with abstract discussions of marriage

    Discussed the fact that you WILL be getting married someday, but no details on when

    Talked about a timeline for proposal

    Talked about a timeline for proposal, and it's SOON

    He has the ring!

    Other (explain below)

  • Post # 47
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    I picked “Have a timeline and it’s SOON” – he’s said it will definitely happen before my birthday in Sep and I was with him when he put a deposit it (lucky enough to be offered half price on THE ring!)

    I have an inkling he’s saying August to throw me off and that he’s actually planning it for June after I finish exams. 18 months officially this Sunday is too soon for it to be the day he proposes 

    Post # 49
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    277 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    I’m in the exact same boat as @laughs-  The “date” so to speak will be once I’ve finished my degree and we’ve settled comfortably in our own place, so although there’s kind-of-sort-of a timeline (after convocation in the winter), it will vary anywhere from a month to a year depending on how long it takes us to relocate.  

     

    I’m not overly concerned that there’s no specific timeline, SO and I both know it’s coming and that he’ll probably pop the question the first chance he gets!!

    Post # 50
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    Worker bee

    I’m at long term relationship, with abstract discussions. This makes me sad because we’ve been together for 3 1/2 years and he always talks about marriage and kids but never really mentions me in these plans ๐Ÿ™

    Post # 51
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    441 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    We only started seriously talking about marriage 6 or 7 months ago, but everything has come together quickly. For many years, I was against the idea of a wedding and since I don’t plan on having children, I felt no need for official documentation of my marriage. However, I had a change of heart this past summer hence the beginning of some serious discussions.

    Once I started talking about it with SO, the plans quickly went into motion and he started saving for the ring. He says he’s almost there and hopes to have the ring by the end of the summer!

    Post # 52
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    113 posts
    Blushing bee

    I am over waiting … but should have a proposal before the end of the year. It feels like forever away. BUT my ring and jeweller have been chosen, we just need to save for a couple more months until we can order the diamond!

    Post # 53
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    774 posts
    Busy bee

    I love this thread! And the poll results are super interesting. We have discussed marriage abstractly and discussed what “our wedding” will be like, but no mention of a date or a timeline. (of course I would prefer sooner rather than later!)

    Post # 54
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    1608 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    Talked about timeline for a proposal and its SOON :)! Our timeline is by our 9th anniversary (June 17!!), but he may make it a little afthat that so who knows. He won’t give me any details about if he’s talked to his parents, looked at a ring, bough a ring, etc. So soon though ๐Ÿ˜€

    Post # 55
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    447 posts
    Helper bee

    I picked we will marry but that the line is loosely laid out at the moment. My SO and I have been in an official relationship for 13 months now. 3 months in we said I love you and talked of marriage often.  He speaks of marriage every other day and we are on the same page in terms of values and lifestyle. I would like him to propose this summer but this is a very big deal to him and I know he will take hus time. I know he won’t be sitting on a ring as he mentioned how he thinks the lady should choose the ring. I know I need to discuss an actual timeline but I don’t quite know how.

    Post # 56
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    77 posts
    Worker bee

    I checked ‘HE HAS THE RING!’ because it came in the mail two days ago! I am oddly calm about it being somewhere in this house. I did already attempt to hunt it down but had no luck. I told BF this and he just laughed at me and told me that he put it somewhere that would brake if I found it, not sure what that means!

     

    As for the time line I think it will be sometime this summer. When he propsoed to his ex wife he just got off the couch, got down on one knee, and handed her the ring. (She threatened with leaving him and told him that there were tons of other guys that wanted to marry her if he didnt, she is crazy! So he didnt put my thought into the proposal for her) Anyways, since the first time was such a lack luster proposal he said that this one is going to be BIG. I have no idea what that means, all I asked is that it is before my birthday, September 6th. He said ‘No way!’ but I dont believe a word that comes out of his mouth when it comes to getting engaged, he has been a little trckster this whole time!

    Oh, and we have been together roughly 3 and a half years. We said ‘I love you’ one month after meeting and already have a insta-family since we have his kids 5 days a week. Needless to say I am ready!

     

    Post # 57
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    98 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    I picked talked about a timeline for proposal, but (of course) it’s sort of complicated. ๐Ÿ™‚ If it were up to SO, we’d be engaged already! I prefer that his career is a little more stable (ie he gets a job in his field instead of just working for his aunt b/c it’s an available job, etc) before we make it official. But we know it’ll happen eventually, it’s just that the details are a little fuzzy for now. ๐Ÿ™‚ We’ve been dating for almost 6 years!

    Post # 58
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    116 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    I said other because Im actually no longer in a relationship at all so waiting to meet mr. right!

    Post # 59
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    198 posts
    Blushing bee

    Great thread! SO and I have been together for 2 1/2 years. We have definitely talked about getting married, and we have a timeline in mind. We are both still in school for another year and he basically has his dream job already lined up for after he graduates. We’ve talked about getting engaged almost immediately after we graduate, but we’ll see if it happens that quickly. He had a really good (but overly physical) job before going back to school. He had told me that if he hadn’t gone back to school (which I pushed him to do because I was worried about him injuring himself or getting older and not being able to do it anymore and  then being completely out of work) he would have proposed to me this past Christmas, so I could have been engaged already, but alas, I am still just a lady in waiting. 

    Post # 60
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    50 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: August 2017

    I chose the “Talked about a timeline for a proposal and its soon” but I don’t know how accurate that is. He has my ring picked out, and he starts his new job in a couple of weeks, so basically once he saves up enough money to buy the ring, we will be engaged. I am guessing in the next year, which I guess some wouldn’t consider soon.

    We aren’t planning on getting married until I am done with school (2017) so I am not in a supreme rush for a proposal but it is exciting!

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