Post # 1
Since many say you’ll never truely be “ready” to TTC, what made you decide that you and your SO were “ready” enough?
I ask because while neither Darling Husband or I feel “ready” right now, I feel like I’m getting there (like I could be okay with TTC at the end of the year, around our 10th dating anniversary), but Darling Husband is waiting until he feels ready “organically” (his words). I think he’s waiting for the baby rabies to set in? IDK. But it’d be great to hear what made everyone else here decide to pull the TTC trigger.
Post # 3
@UsagiTsukino: We dated for 4 years and were engaged for 1 before we got married. We knew we wanted to start a family right after getting married. If we had it our way we’d be giving birth right now, but we are still TTC for the 10th cycle now. It was the right time in our life. We are financially stable, have good jobs, and have traveled and gotten the life without kids out of our system.
Post # 4
We wanted to wait until marriage and until we had a house. We are financially stable, have good jobs, and our house is way too quiet now, lol. We are going to get a dog to tie us over until fall, when we actually plan to start trying. We have two weddings to go this summer, one of which I am Maid/Matron of Honor, and I didn’t want to get pregnant before that. Otherwise, we are ready to share our life with someone together 🙂
Post # 5
We wanted to wait until we had any and all debts paid, which we have been for the past year and a half. We are on our 7th cycle TTC.
Post # 6
For us, we finally got married and aren’t getting any younger. I already have children from my first marriage, which are 8, 6, and 6. Darling Husband is a great father and is adopting them. We’re in the right place to have a baby together. It helps that he has friends and family with young kids and my SIL is finally pregnant with her first.
We like to stay home and spend time together. Going out at night and traveling a lot is not our idea of fun. I thik the key to knowing is that having more children won’t take away from our life together – it will only add to it.
Post # 7
Our friends are having babies and it has given us the “baby rabies” (LOL at that term!)
Post # 8
We just feel ready for the next chapter….we are ready financially, we are happy, healthy and in love….we have had an amazing 9 years of travelling and making the most of married life. We are now eagerly awaiting the next challenge!
Post # 9
We decided we are ready to TTC because of a few things. We have been married since August and originally wanted to wait 2 ish years but decided for me to go off the pill last month. We are financially ready, we have been homeowners since before we got married, own a 4 bedroom home with plenty of room for a baby or 3 🙂 my sister also has a 15 month old and I LOVE being an aunt, Darling Husband is soo amazing with him, same sister is now PG again and DHs sister is PG too! Lots and lots of baby fever all around. My grandfather recently passed away and it was so hard for me to think that our children will never know their great grandpa. Darling Husband and I both agree 100% that family is the most important thing and we feel ready and want our kids to grow up having their grandparents around for as long as possible!
We are so excited TTC this is our first cycle trying and I am super hopeful it will happen this month! We will see 🙂 GL to all other bees TTC! What an awesome and exciting time!
Post # 10
Thanks for the responses.
The thing is, financially we are pretty sound. Darling Husband wants to switch jobs, but everything he’s looking at is an income boost, and we can already live on his income alone. Also, we’re very likely going to own a house by the end of the year, and by own, I mean with no mortgage. This will give us quadruple what we have leftover each month after bills.
We’ve done some international travelling, but we still have 2 more destinations on our list, 1 I’m willing to push back till later in life, but the other I’d like to do while I’m still young (Tokyo night life!) and we’re semi-considering doing that one within the year, given that the Yen is dropping in strength to the dollar right now so it’ll be cheaper.
Really, we’re just not sure if we should leap into kids just because we can afford it right now, but if we have nothing left to work on, why put it off? Darling Husband wants to wait until he lands a new job, but we don’t know how much longer that will take. I don’t mind right now; I’ve decided that I’m going to relish in my freedom at least for the rest of this year. But I’m turning 28 this year and worry about waiting too long and not being a young mom.
Ugh, I wish we could’ve gotten into this financial situation at 25 instead of 27 so we could enjoy it for longer!
Post # 11
Our original plan was to be married for a year before TTC. We already had a house and stable jobs. We also got married at 26 & 29, so we certainly felt “old” enough to have kids. Of course right after the wedding the baby rabies hit and we were pretty much ready to start trying. However, I didn’t realize I had to sign up for short term disability to get paid maternity leave at my job and I had missed the sign up window for that year, so I had to wait until our actual 1 yr. anniversary before we could safely start TTC and have my maternity leave covered. So we followed our initial plan after all. Seven months later we’re still trying.
Post # 12
@UsagiTsukino: So far we have been CBC but we are not sure if we want to stay that way. We have prioritised travel and enjoying our 20s (and now most of our 30s as I am 36 years old), and also have not yet been financially ready. I want to be married (will be this month) and buy a house first. I am still undecided when it is a good time for us but as I will be 37 this year I think we will need to decide soon. Japan is awesome by the way and you will enjoy it no matter what age 🙂
Post # 13
We are waiting for 1.5 years after marriage, which is also 10 months after we go to Europe on our big trip… we wanted to pay off some more of our mortgage before we go onto 1 income.
If I had my way we’d be TTC’ing in the 2nd half of next year but FH is 100% against it. It’s the biggest source of argument in our household…