What made you decide "yup.. this person is for me"?

posted 2 years ago in Relationships
Post # 2
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Bumble bee

When I saw how he took care of me when I wasn’t feeling well. Total game changer. I have gotten bad migraines my whole life. I knew I wanted a partner who would be as sweet to me as my mom was when I had a bad headache. The first time I got a headache he was incredibly kind and sweet. I realized that support was what I wanted in my life for forever. Also with him I get the whole package. His family is amazing, fun, and supportive. I realized that while our parents are different they raised him and I the same way with many of the same basic morals and values. Every day I see how alike his mom and my mom are. He gets along with everyone in my life and I in his. I never tire of spending time with him. He loves me even with no makeup, no matter what. We can be ourselves. Most of all I can see what an amazing father and husband he will be. And the relationship is just easy with him. It’s not hard, we don’t fight, or yell, it just works. 

 

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Post # 3
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Helper bee

When I opened up about the extent of my mental health issues to a guy who knew nothing about mental health issues. His response was so kind and supportive and it totally floored me because I thought for sure he wouldn’t know what to do with it. He became an expert fast and turned out to be my biggest support because he cared about me and wanted to help as best he could. It was the moment I knew he was a keeper.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2021

For me it was his compassion. If I was ever having a bad day he knew exactly how to cheer me up.  The way he was able to connect with me and know whether I needed an impromptu sushi date, or just to cuddle on the couch and watch a movie was unlike any other guy I had ever known. The same thoughtfulness he shows to me he shows to everyone in his life, and that’s how I knew it was a genuine part of how he was.   He is so kind, and once I realized this I was his. 

Post # 5
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763 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2019

There were no games, no tricks, no fighting, no walking on eggshells, no jealousy, no anxiety (like my prior very bad relationship and dating in my past before that). It was real, honest, and easy. Showed me what a relationship is supposed to be. 

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2019

When he drove 500 miles in a severe snowstorm to meet my mom and aunt for the first time. And then he put on skis for the first time in 15 years so he could ski with them (skier only mountain, he’s a snowboarder). That was about 3-4 months in. It just showed how serious he actually was about me and so willing to meeting the people who were important to me.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

He is 7inches taller than me. No joke. I’m 6ft tall so a I wasn’t going to let a tall man escape. 

Post # 9
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891 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2019

He loves me for me. I have nerdy interests and dont follow typical “woman” hobbies/topics even though Im conventionally attractive. Id meet guys who thought I was hot, but were totally bored by me. Was so annoying!

Hes conventionally hot (body builder,etc) but grew up a skinny nerdy kid so hes not bored by me.

I feel like I can just be myself with him and he loves me for who I am. That kind of peace is a wonderful thing.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2019

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mermaidbride79 :  This and this.

I could be myself and never feel criticized by him with anything superficial whereas most everyone I knew (either friends or exes) often talked about superficial things. 

Post # 11
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1507 posts
Bumble bee

He’s been the only person I have ever been able to tell about me being sexually assaulted. Do drop that sort of bomb on someone and have them just love on you and be patient, and that I felt totally comfortable and safe in sharing that info was a game changer.

Also, he’s the hardest working man I know. From the beginning he’s been willing to support my emotionally, and financially in pursing my career dreams. I’m so blessed to have a spouse that supports me through everything, whatever we have to do to make it happen, he makes sure it gets done. Not every man would be willing to live separately from their wife the first 3 years of marriage! But he didn’t head for the hills when he knew this was a reality from the beginning. 

Post # 12
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Helper bee

When I saw how he loved and cared for his niece who has disability. We talked about it and I could hear how much he cares, which drew me in, in the first place. But when I saw his interaction with her and how patient and compassionate he is, I knew he was for me. It’s one thing to talk the talk, but he walks it too.

Post # 13
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200 posts
Helper bee

I’m going to echo the mental health thing. He has never had anxiety and is the most level headed person I know. Where Ihon the other hand have always been an anxious person (first panic attack at 9). So when I experienced my first major panic attack in front of him I was seriously so impressed with how he dealt with it and it just really proved how great he is for me and how much he cares 

He also balances out my shyness with his ability to talk to almost anyone about anything lol

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2019

Zero judgment or criticism from him. This is really huge for me because I was emotionally abused for a good chunk of my life and have received a lot of judgment from my parents. I have cPTSD, depression, and panic disorder – he has always been completely supportive and compassionate when I am going through a rough time, and I have never questioned his unwavering support and love for me. He does understand the mental health thing, as he suffers from depression too. We are able to mutually support and encourage each other, and we bring out the best version of each other. Lastly, he always treats me with love and respect.

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