Post # 1
I’ve just started trying on dresses and have 2 absolute favourites so far, both completely different styles. I was trying to talk about them with my Fiance yesterday (without giving too much away) and the best reason I could give for preferring one over the other is that it feels more “bridal” and “wedding-y”. The other is a beautiful dress, but might not obviously be a wedding dress if it weren’t white (I think, anyway).
This raised the question from Fiance, “what makes it a wedding dress?” In western culture there’s the white, perhaps combining it with a veil etc. But I just wondered what other bees might think. Is it just that feeling you get when you try it on? Is there a particular shape you always imagined? What about THE dress makes it your wedding dress?
Post # 3
Maybe its when you find your style and personality in an extravigant, special dress you can only wear once
Post # 4
I’m over 50… so in my lifetime I’ve owned / worn a ton of clothes.
I would have to say that what sets a Wedding Dress apart, is certainly the pure luxury of it… be it a gown that is simple or elaborate, it has to do with the luxury of the fabrics, the cut, the style, perhaps the craftsmanship & handiwork … it just isn’t your average dress
Then of course there is the “signficance” of the dress… it is the one you’ll wear on one of the most important days in your life.
One you probably won’t wear ever again (only a few of us ever put it on for a Vow Renewal)
As an Encore Bride, I do have to say, that there is indeed the moment that you put on THE ONE… you KNOW it the second it happens. There really and truly is a particular awe (or aaaah) that it inspires (and perhaps a few tears)
If you haven’t found that in a dress yet… then you haven’t found THE ONE
Don’t be a Bride-2-B with “Dress Regret”… wait and find / buy the dress that makes you feel all that and sooo much more. It will happen.
Post # 5
Great insights, ladies. I guess I tend to think more about the style than how it is made, quality etc.
Maybe I’m being a bit philosophical, but I’m just interested since it’s such an important part of the wedding and we spend so much time making it perfect. Anyone else have any thoughts?
Post # 6
I don’t think I would feel bridal without a train. It doesn’t have to be long, but it does have to be there. I also wouldn’t feel like I was wearing a wedding dress if it wasn’t floor length. I know plenty of brides wear dresses without trains or that are short and thats fine for them. It just wouldn’t feel special enough to be a wedding gown for me.
Post # 7
I did pageants when I was younger and have had several formal occasions as an adult and for me I wanted a dress that did not feel like it could be worn for either of those. I wanted a dress that expressed how exuberant and extravagantly in love i felt. So for me I wanted something that had a significant bridal feel – so for me I went with two very elaborate princess ballgowns that honestly would be out of place anywhere but on a bride.
The litmus test though. We are doing a rock the frock shoot for our 1 year anniversary and I have lost weight and am afraid my dress might be a size or 2 too big for me. I looked to see if there was a different dress that I wanted and NOPE my dress is my dress – if I have to pay to have it taken in again so be it or if it is a bit big in pictures I can live with that too.
You develop a bizarre but very emotional attachment to THE dress. Hard to explain. But it becomes very personal.
Post # 8
I told my consultant that a train was a must.
Also I think I knew it was my dress when I realized it was everything I wanted in a dress – classy, a little glitzy, a little ethereal (yay organza!), in my price range (important! haha I wouldn’t try on any that weren’t), and then of course, as soon as she pulled the laces in on the corset and I saw what I looked like, I couldn’t throw my money at her fast enough.
Post # 9
Looks great on me, liked the style of it, it seemed right for the feel of our wedding, and within my price range. And then I tried on a whole bunch more and didn’t like it as well as mine.