Post # 1
I don’t have children so I constantly have to deal with people trying to shove their kids down my throat. They’re always telling me how wonderful it is to have kids and yada, yada, yada. One person in particular went as far as to say that me and DH are not a family because we don’t have children and if that wasn’t enough even cited the dictionary’s definition of Family, like that’s being objective.
It just irks me when people try to parade their perfect life in front of others like everyone’s dream is to have 2.5 kids, a 9-5 job and a house with a white picket fence.
Excuse my rant!
I consider me and DH to be a family. My single friend raising her child alone, they are a family too. People in al realms of life who live under the same roof and and or share and build memories together… that’s a family!! They come in all shapes and sizes!!!
Post # 3
@amoret11: I totally agree with you. What a horribly rude comment! FWIW, Webster’s definition of a family doesn’t specifically mention children until the fifth entry. Ugh.
Post # 4
My FH and I are family, & we’re not even married yet 🙂 Family is your nearest & dearest, no matter what relations they are! Sorry you’re dealing with that 🙁
Post # 5
@amoret11: I have kids, but really, that person is a disgrace! Of course you and your husband are a family. (And it’s one of the dictionary definitions).
So this woman’s got nothing better to with her life than look in the dictionary so she can brand people as deficient? What a sad life.
Post # 6
That bystander sounds so rude! However, I’ve always struggled with the definition of family. Since I never gained much exposure to my extended family (the only aunt or uncle I was raised around was my dad’s divorced sister who never had kids), I usually think that family has a lot to do with blood and less with choice.
My personal views aside, the only real qualification for a family is that a group of people considers themself to be family. As with most things, self-identification is key.
Post # 7
Mutual love, respect, loyalty and validation, and the unconditional non-rejection of any member under the age of 18 (even if they do not currently give love, respect, loyalty and validation back).
Yes, two people can be a family. Of course.
Many much larger “families” are only images of families, not real ones.
Post # 8
It’s the two of us a c our cat, and we’re totally a cute little family – I say it all the time!
Post # 9
In a world of ever changing diversity and development, family is defined in many different ways. Family is two or more persons, bound together over time, by ties of mutual consent, birth, or adoption, who together, assume responsibility for a variety of things – food, socialization, physical maintenance of group members, etc. (Vanier Institute of the Family).
Family is defined differently by gender, age, race, culture, sexual orientation, and more. Family is defined within that particular unit with all members agreeing. Personally, I believe, family does not have to be by blood, does not have to have children, and does not need a universal stamp to be considered a family. Child can be a wonderful component of family, but are definitely NOT necessary to call a group a family.
Respect, love, honour, a sense of duty to care for another in times of difficultly & sicknessness, a willingness to work together, to be bound together – that is family. Your friends can be family, your pets can be family, and undoubtely, your husband/wife with you, can make a family. The things you pledge to your spouse – those things that bind you together for life – make a you very strong family, because you have actively and willingly chosen to be together. A married couple is one of the most beautiful types of family.
Post # 10
- Wedding: June 2014 - Dunes House - Hilton Head Island, SC
+1 to everyone in this thread.
I’m sick of being asked “so when are you and A going to start your family?” Our family (the two of us and our four cats) ARE a family, and our family IS complete (unless another cat decides to wander in ).