(Closed) What makes a typical wedding… typical??

posted 7 years ago in Traditions
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Your wedding is everything you make it to be. 

I don’t know where you are from or what wedding traditions you hate but make a list of them! I would encourage you to sit down with your man and write out everything you hate first. 

http://www.offbeatbride.com is a wonderful place for any kind of wedding you’d like to dream up that is original. 

 

I think what makes a typical wedding typical is how you treat your guests? Are they veritable prisoners of the bride and groom for hours upon hours of the day? Do they have to wait to sit and stand and eat and drink… or wait for you and everyone else to finish dancing before they can? 

We did away with all the typical wedding traditions and just had a party that didn’t revolve around us. Our guests were very happy! 

Post # 5
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Newbee

My cousin got married a few months ago and he had a small personal wedding.  It started with a ceremony on the beach (just immediate family plus one aunt from both families).  This ceremony was very low key and did not involve the usual flower arches!  It followed with a party for about 50 people in total, who were mostly friends.  No big speeches, no formal sit down dinner, just a party for close family and friends.

The groom made the rings, the bride made her dress and the bridesmaids dresses (two bridesmaids with same colour dress but different styles).  The bride’s dress was a beautiful sapphire colour, instead of the traditional ivory/ white/etc.  The bride’s sister made the cake, which was madeira.  The flowers were picked from the happy couple’s allotment.   The bride made the invitations and I believe the groom’s friend was photographer.

I know people might not have the resources to make rings, dresses, cakes themselves but I’m sure if you ask around, someone knows someone who can help out!  It meant a lot to my cousin and his now wife that so much effort had been made by family and friends to contribute and make it very personal.  It is something memorable, when so many weddings are so similar and just blend into each other!

Post # 6
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Newbee

My cousin got married a few months ago and he had a small personal wedding.  It started with a ceremony on the beach (just immediate family plus one aunt from both families).  This ceremony was very low key and did not involve the usual flower arches!  It followed with a party for about 50 people in total, who were mostly friends.  No big speeches, no formal sit down dinner, just a party for close family and friends.

The groom made the rings, the bride made her dress and the bridesmaids dresses (two bridesmaids with same colour dress but different styles).  The bride’s dress was a beautiful sapphire colour, instead of the traditional ivory/ white/etc.  The bride’s sister made the cake, which was madeira.  The flowers were picked from the happy couple’s allotment.   The bride made the invitations and I believe the groom’s friend was photographer.

I know people might not have the resources to make rings, dresses, cakes themselves but I’m sure if you ask around, someone knows someone who can help out!  It meant a lot to my cousin and his now wife that so much effort had been made by family and friends to contribute and make it very personal.  It is something memorable, when so many weddings are so similar and just blend into each other!

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@Bear914:  Maybe do something really personal with the ceremony. Look up inspiration for writing your own vows instead of doing the typical ones.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

My definition to a typical wedding…..I think its the wedding where they take every ‘tradition’ and refuse to budge from them. The bridesmaids are in the bride’s favorite color (regardless of how bad it looks on them). The groomsmens’ ties and vests HAVE TO MATCH PERFECTLY to the bridesmaids dresses.  The ceremony lacks any of the couple in it. You know, when the priest has scripture from 1 Corinthians book marked, the unity candle is lit, the vows are 100% traditional. The bridal party rides in a limo. The invitations are exactly the same as every other invitation you’ve seen. Chocolate and wine fountains. I’m with you in the idea that I love making something original, however, I think brides lose sight sometimes on the concept. Originial doesn’t have to be over the top but something that when I see it I want to think ‘how clever’ or ‘this is just like bride and groom.’

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I say for a truly unique wedding you and your FH have a wedding centered around your favorite hobby, whether it’s skubadiving, hanging out at the beach, bowling, skiing or whatever.  Get married at that location and have a good time celebrating your union doing what you love with the people you love.  

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014 - Ontario, Canada ♥ EDD- April 2016

In my area a typical wedding involves the community church, balloon arrangements on the ceiling, lattice, tulle, etc. The weddings are all still beautiful but just not what my SO and I have pictured. To avoid having a ‘typical’ wedding in our small town we’ve decided to write our own ceremony with unique readings/vows/traditions and not have a night time reception in a legion hall with tulle, a cash bar, and plastic table cloths. There’s nothing wrong with any of those things, it’s just in a small town where all the weddings tend to look the same we wanted something that would feel a little more ‘us’ (: We’re doing a backyard ceremony with a champagne and luncheon reception at a local historical mansion.

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