(Closed) What makes a wedding unique, and does it matter?

posted 6 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Rockcandy:  Good food, good music, time to relax and spend with family and friends, some entertainment. I mostly enjoy catching up with family and friends I don’t see often. Just a comfortable time. I think the lawn games sounds fun. As much as I like dancing, at some weddings you have to pull teeth to get people on the dance floor.

Is having a cigar bar very common in your area? I can’t imagine this at a wedding. 

Keep in mind that you will see lots of neat ideas on the internet but very few at real life weddings. Most people who are not engaged in wedding planning have not seen these ideas either (candy buffet, mismatched Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses, even STDs)

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Agreed, I like good food, good company, an enjoyable atmosphere. It’s also really fun, as I’ve been thinking about weddings a lot, to see the details that they came up with. Personally, I love pictures. I went to a wedding once where the groom hadset up a table of things that represented them, like his jar of bobby pins, because they reminded him of his wife, so he picked them up whenever he saw them around town. I LOVED that. 

Part of me wanted tons of diy details all about my husband and I, but another part of me was just too lazy. In the end we ended up doing some of both, some time consuming, special things, and some regular things, and that went really well for us.

Some of those things end up being very inexpensive. I tie dyed our table runners in our wedding colors (I love to tie dye, and Fiance aunt who helped us get together introduced me to tie dye, so that was special for us). I bought white curtains or something at a thrift store, cut them up and dyed them. My mom hemmed them for me and then made them the back of the quilt she made for my husband and I as a wedding present (we’re sitting on it on our bed now). Probably about $6 (but a lot of time). (sorry that picture is huge!). 

I also really wanted trivial pursuit cards about us (because we love to play trivial pursuit), but it didn’t work out so I had to give up on that one. 

The personal touches were really worth it to me, I just suggest picking your battles ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Do it! You may need to make a list of what’s important (tomato bar/lawn games etc) and what’s not so you can diy other things to make tour dreams happen, bit I think personalization makes the wedding about You and your new family. How wonderful!

Also, heirloom tomato bar? Ah-mazing. I wish I knew you because that’s awesome.

For some diy tips check out offbeatbride- they have featured several of the ideas you’ve mentioned.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Do it! You may need to make a list of what’s important (tomato bar/lawn games etc) and what’s not so you can diy other things to make tour dreams happen, bit I think personalization makes the wedding about You and your new family. How wonderful!

Also, heirloom tomato bar? Ah-mazing. I wish I knew you because that’s awesome.

For some diy tips check out offbeatbride- they have featured several of the ideas you’ve mentioned.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Your wedding is not going to be unique, no matter what you do.  With all the thousands of people who get married each year, any element that you can possibly think of has already been used in some other wedding.

At the same time, you’re not under any obligation to follow every wedding tradition you’ve ever heard of.  A wedding reception is basically a party.  Some people like elegant cocktail parties, some people like parties with lots of music and dancing, some people like convivial picnic-type parties, some people like jazz brunches…  The list goes on.  If you think about what you really want, a) the reception is likely to be more fun, and b) it is likely to cost less than if you think you need every single thing pushed by the wedding industrial complex.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@Rockcandy:  I totally feel the same way. I find myself rebelling against everything. I dont want to send out Save the Dates, I want to do a cocktail reception with small plates instead of a sit down dinner, I dont want a bridal party, I dont want any flowers, just lights! At some point though, it should still look like a wedding and not like some crazy, demented party I threw for myself ๐Ÿ™‚

I dont agree with @2dBride: that it won’t be unique no matter what you do because you, as a couple, are unique and you can pick and choose what to incorporate.

I dont know what venue you’re choosing but one thing I’m trying to avoid is picking a VERY popular wedding spot or a venue that does 2 weddings a day because then it’s especially hard to personalize.

One of the best weddings I will likely go to is one that was extremely personal and on a small budget and it came together beautifully because you could see that friends and family all pitched in. They didn’t send save the dates or print menus and programs or have an open bar or have welcome bags in the hotels or even have wedding favors but they did have lawn games, catering they loved and sky lanterns for the guests to send off at the end. It all comes down to priorities!!

Post # 9
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Bumble bee

We are doing a “two parter”.

I’m very much into classic styles with a bit of edge. SO is very much into edgy things with a bit of class. Sounds like it should work, but not as much as you think. 

So, we are going to have the ceremony at a local B&B/mansion, with my big fancy dancy princess dress (with black leather obi/sash and single large rhinestone brooch in front) and a carriage ride to the recption venue.

Reception at the local rockabilly bar. Wedding Cake flavored cakepops/cupcakes, our friends (all of our guy friends are in a single band) playing a gig and everyone dancing until our shoes fall off.

It’s gonna be great.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

The best weddings I’ve been to were relaxed. I love formal, beautiful events, but sometimes people are so out of their element they make everyone else anxious. 

If you can get your guests to relax and unwind (and not just with booze!) I think it would be awesome.

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