(Closed) What makes people think it's okay to comment about a person's pregnancy?

posted 3 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 31
Member
3902 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2017

View original reply
indiblue :  yup, agree!

Post # 32
Member
553 posts
Busy bee

Yeah, I got tired of comments when I was pregnant, it was like after a while EVERY SINGLE interaction was about the pregnancy, I mean I’d just say hi and EVERY SINGLE person would respond with something about how big I was (and I carried well).

Post # 33
Member
276 posts
Helper bee

I gained quite a bit of weight pretty quickly.  I also quit smoking literally as soon as I found out Im pregnant at 5 weeks.  So I think that played some part in my gain.  I was the same weight for 10 years but I’m really only gaining in my belly, I’m 26 weeks.  I’ve had some rude comments, including being asked how much weight I gained by someone I’ve met twice before becoming pregnant.  Didn’t like her before, definitely don’t like her now.  A guy at work feels the need to announce “there’s the pregnant chick!” everytime he sees me, which I set him straight after being tired of hearing that multiple times a day.  He thought it was funny, when it was just obnoxious and rude.  I don’t have tolerance for ignorance at this point.

Post # 34
Member
1444 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014 - Paradise Gardens

What I can’t stand is people gauking at me like I’m some object on display in an art museum. Every time I go to the gym, grocery store, mall people act like they’ve neer seen a pregnant lady before. At this point I try to avoid eye contact and carry on with my day without having to awkwardly smile or say hi to a stranger. 

I’m 34 weeks, but Ive concealed my bump and stayed away from unwated belly rubs for the most part. And as far as weight I told my midwives I don’t want to know unless it gets out of control, so frankly I don’t even know what I’ve gained thus far and I’m perfectly fien with that.

Post # 35
Member
9989 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

It’s become acceptable in society to comment on a person’s weight whether or not they are pregnant. People have decided they can make assumptions about your health based on one external, visible factor and that because it’s so demonized in our society to be fat or overweight or he’ll just to put on 5 pounds that it’s perfectly okay to comment on a person’s weight. 

And pregnancy can be viewed by some as a community event rather than a personal experience thus making people feel even more entitled to comment.

The topic ‘What makes people think it's okay to comment about a person's pregnancy?’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors