Post # 1
So you know that your SO has purchased a ring or he told you to expect a proposal by a certain time. Maybe you realized that you are in a relationship that would lead to marriage. Which ever way you put it, YOU ARE WAITING!!!
Waiting can put you through a whole range of emotions but lets try on focus on something positive (in our eyes) in this thread.
Name one thing that makes you happy that you are still a waiting bee.
For me, I am happy I am not at the point of picking out a guest list. My mom and grandma would try to overpower me 🙁
I am also happy that I am not on the brink of tears because a bridesmaid let her hair down when it is supposed to be up!!! lol
I think the bees who are near their wedding days are crazier than us waiting bees. lol
Post # 3
@tiff-tiff-tiff: I am very happy I don’t have to think about budgets and guest lists yet. I mean, I have some vague plans that are all on the cheap side but I know there are going to be some major decisions because my family is huge but our budget will be small. Also, although I can’t imagine any actual “drama” from my family, I feel like it’s inevitable. My BFF who is totally chill even had a friendship end over her super casual wedding! Weddings bring out the crazies!!
Post # 4
What makes me happy so my sweet SO is ever more chessey then ever lol. When a guy is ready you can feel the change. The moment where it’s no longer an idea that this girl/woman is it but knowing that she’s his forever. Well atleast my guy is always saying how blessed he is to have me ..just more affectionate then before ..you feel even more loved and appreciated then before even if was was great at showing it before the waiting phase.
Post # 5
I’m happy I don’t have to plan yet because I know what I want will get overshadowed by what is expected by my family.(more guests than I want)
im also happy to be waiting because I have have the most amazing man in the world and I know he’s putting forth a lot of effort to buy my ring and plan the perfect proposal – it’s so exciting. I’m enjoying him preparing for his time to shine!
Post # 6
I’m happy that I’m not having to try on wedding dresses in front of other people! I started with 70lbs to lose, still have about 50 to go, and want to lose it all before I start trying on dresses. Otherwise it’ll be a stressful tear-fest.
Post # 7
oh yes… Based on the fact that I find a few wedding traditions a little unnecessary, I already know that I will be doing some things a little differently. I can only imagine how my mom would push for traditional.
I recently started exercising and thank God there is still time! I gained over 20 lbs after the birth of my last child and I would like to have that back under control. That was a good point you stated!!
Post # 8
@tiff-tiff-tiff: to me, i’m happy because I get to keep looking at engagement rings, wedding sites etc. hopefully, you only do it once, and then , it’s done…..no more seeking websites or wistfully thinking about it. thats sad!! but, true. i love the anticipation….
Post # 9
I enjoy the fact that I can day dream when I feel like it about any number of things or we can day dream together about hypothetical planning…and then we can forget about it 🙂
I have to say the thought of all the planning gives me a major headache. I look forward to enjoying the bliss of being engaged for a few months before we have to think about the many many details….oh the details!
Post # 10
I like daydreaming about all of it, so actually being engaged turns dreaming into planning and may take some of the fun out. And I really don’t want to pick bridesmaids. I do not want a huge wedding party, but I have 4 sisters, my SO has 2 sisters, and I was in my SO’s SIL’s wedding. I do not want them all as BMs, since with friends, that would be 9 people… So I am enjoying the calm before the storm.
Post # 11
I am so terrified of the cost of a wedding—what we will spend and whaty family members will have to spend to get out to the east coast. Tried starting an “elopement is wonderful” campaign, but a friend of ours recently eloped and he hated how it turned out. Le sigh.
Post # 12
I have a number of sisters (“adopted” as well) and good female friends who are all probably expecting to be bridesmaids but I found a solution that would be great for me. No bridesmaids!! I will have my sister who is closest in age to me as my Maid/Matron of Honor. That way, I will have no one competing for Bridesmaid or Best Man spots (lol) and no bridesmaid dress drama. Plus I personally hate being a bridesmaid.
Ladies you are all making valid points… officially planning a wedding sucks the fun out of dreamily planning a wedding.
Post # 13
I’ve considered it, and petitioned for it… but my SO has brothers and wants Groomsmen (we are both from families with 6 children). Also, I was the Maid/Matron of Honor for two of my sisters, and if I picked one as Maid/Matron of Honor and the other wasn’t a Bridesmaid or Best Man, (which is what I wouldl probably do), I think she would be hurt. Since I know someone is going to get hurt feelings no matter what, I am just going to enjoy the excitement and anticipation until then.
Post # 14
I’m glad I don’t have to pick the guest list yet, and related to that, pay for the wedding at this point. Both of our families are massive, and while she is close with all of her extended relatives, I only talk to mine once a year or less… and some of them don’t even know I’m gay, let alone living with my partner! We would probably want even numbers of people there to support each of us though, so that’ll be a headache.
I’m also glad that I can enjoy her company without the stress of budgeting and wedding related issues 🙂