(Closed) What makes you leave a bigger tip to a server?

posted 5 years ago in Career
Post # 3
4695 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I just want you to be nice and not act like I’m inconveniencing you by dining there! Easy to please.  🙂

Post # 5
1715 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Know about options for people with food intollerances. Ask the chef or whomever what are the gluten and casein/lactose free options and comunicate with the kitchen when people do tell you they have intollerances. I know not everyone this will help with but often people who are gluten free will often tip higher when good service is available and you will see them time and time again as there options are limited. Bring me a menu and drinks promptly or I get bitchy.

Post # 6
5774 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2011

Smaller tip – forgets to bring things i ask for (water, silverware, napkins), hovers over my table, disappears forever

Bigger tip – offers recommendations when I ask, friendly, “knows” what I need before I have to ask (water,silverware,napkins)

Post # 7
1021 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Friendliness. I appreciate good service, of course, but it’s usually their friendliness/personality that makes me want to leave a bigger tip. 

Post # 8
1438 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I like when they come every so often to the table, I hate when they are there every 3 mins asking if we are ok. My drink cant go empty & they are cool to talk to…i leave a bigger tip.

I used to wait tables for 3 years, so i think i personally judge them too hard. i dont know why, but i’m getting better.

Post # 9
5080 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

Just be nice.  Check on us once in a while.  Refill my Diet Coke.  Keep us updated if the food is taking too long.  Smile

Post # 10
194 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

When they act like they actually care about their job…friendly is def a must

Post # 11
14027 posts
Honey Beekeeper

I am a big tipper as long as you’re friendly and my basic needs are met. My husband is always thrilled when the server doesn’t allow his water glass to go empty. I know it sounds silly and kinda basic, but if you keep him hydrated, he will tip extra! 😉

Post # 12
1072 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

As a former server, i usually leave a big tip.  From my experience, being friendly with your tables is the best way to get a big tip.  Try to accomadate the needs of your guests even if they seem silly or ridiculous and remember the customer is always right! Good luck!

Post # 13
5222 posts
Bee Keeper

Since both DH and I worked our ways through college waiting tables we always tip well, but someone gets more when they SMILE. DH is a big jokester, so if the server can take a joke they’ll usually score a nicer tip with him.

Just relax and don’t let ” restaurant life” get to you. My worst days weren’t necessarily customer driven, but from other servers being a-holes and hostesses yelling at me. No matter what is going on in the kitchen, slap on a smile for your tables, people are less likely to get hostile over the wrong side item when you’re nice 🙂

Post # 15
33 posts

I’m a serial over tipper, haha but the only  thing that would ever leave a cruddy tip is when a server ignores me, or makes me feel guilty for asking for things. Biggest tips go to servers who are friendly and see. To almost anticipate what I need. Congrats on your new job!

Post # 16
3773 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I almost always give a good tip. If they’re doing thier job, I think they deserve 20%. More if they were super friendly. Now there are a few reasons I give crappy tips

1) bad attitude

2) lack of attention

3) letting me go the last half of my meal with my drink empty…


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