(Closed) What matching gifts did you get your bridesmaids or received as one?

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2016 - Bell Tower on 34th

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kateefabb :  My gift to my girls was a silk robe each, a jewelry set for the wedding for them to keep, and a personalized tumbler :). It was perfect!

Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

Technically a bridesmaid gift should be given with the bridesmaid in mind, treat it as her birthday present. A techy Bridesmaid or Best Man may like a cool little drone, a girly Bridesmaid or Best Man might like a sephora gift card, etc. It should be personalized to the person. If they all like similar things then I can see why you’d want matching gifts. Otherwise, remember to make the gift about them, not the wedding.

Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper

Nothing says a thoughtful gift picked just for you like a bulk samsey gift.

The point of giving a gift is to pick out something that the receiver would like. I don’t see how you could do that with a matching gift. Imagine the outcry if all guests bought the couple matching gifts of which the usefulness after the wedding day is debatable (so 100 gifts of matching bride and groom t-shirts).

Post # 5
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Helper bee

I have gotten so many “matching” bridesmaid gifts and they have gone straight to the trash. I think PP poster said it well: treat it like a bday gift. I want my bridesmaids to match the morning of but I am going to buy them a chambray or flannel top that fits their style.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I collected things over time and compiled them–a nice tote/utility bag, a ring holder, a lotion, a candle, personalized note cards…nothing to wear or that needed to be used in any way for the wedding itself!

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

Why would a gift need to be matching? That makes it less of a gift and more of a party bag.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - Mississauga Convention Centre

We are getting our bridal party lounge wear so they can wear it when we go get hair and make up done

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Your new blog would be a lot more interesting and informative if you had a great article and photos on how to choose individualized special gifts for their bridesmaids . Something that shows the love and appreciation the bride has for each one of them.  It would be great if your blog did not support the idea that bridesmaids gifts are just may by match props for a brides photos.  

You could have true life stories of how brides showed their love for their treasured bridesmaids on their big day, sources for unusual and fantastic gifts that suit different personalities, local celebrity gift guides etc.  

Post # 11
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Busy bee

My sister and I got matching necklaces when we graduated high school, so not quite wedding related, but it would still make a nice bridesmaid’s gift I think– they’re from Tiffany’s and have a little circle pendant with our first initial engraved on it in a really beautiful font. I wear it nearly every day! The backs are engraved with the years we graduated high school; maybe for a wedding a bride can have it engraved with the year she met each bridesmaid? 

A bridesmaid gift I got that I still use is a nice silver mirrored compact– it’s always in my purse and I do find it handy!

Post # 12
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2016

I think matching gifts are fun! I went classic and got all my bridesmaids robes and tote bags filled with goodies (compact mirror, lip gloss, nail polish, etc.). I cucustomized a little with matching gifts – like I got nail polish in each girls favorite color, different bracelets (while all still rose gold colored), etc. When I’ve received matching gifts as a bridesmaid I have always loved it, it makes you feel like a team – like when you were little with friendship bracelets. One time the bride got everyone matching necklace chain things, and we all wore it a different way (as a necklace, double wrapped as a bracelet or anklet, etc.). Lots of fun!

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2017 - Hogarths, Solihull

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kateefabb :  I was planning on getting mine robes (2 of them have already asked me if they could have cute getting ready robes with me lol) and a handmade personalised bracelet from my Jeweller (she’s making our rings)

The bracelets will not be compulsory – my BMs don’t have to wear them on the day if they don’t want to, but they all love their jewellery so I know they’ll be a hit. They have the necklaces that I ‘proposed’ to them all with, which I think they were planning to wear on the day (even though I told them they didn’t have to if they didn’t want to!) 

Post # 14
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Bumble bee

I have family members as my bridesmaids and have got them matching gifts because I would hate for one to look at what the other has and think they were given less. Mine got matching bracelets and earrings and beautiful decorated wine glasses. I paid for their dresses, shoes, bags, hair and makeup so I couldnt afford much more. 

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper

As others have said, personally I don’t think the gifts should match; you wouldn’t buy matching gifts for their birthdays/Christmas, so why for your wedding? I think matching gifts are particularly bad when the bridesmaids have paid for their dresses; I’m prepared to give brides who are paying for the dresses slightly more of a pass.

That said, while we bought ours individual gifts we did also purchase matching robes; these were a ‘prop’ though, so we didn’t count them as part of our gift.

I think if you’re going the matching route, it’s nice to add at least some individuality to it, and to steer clear of things stamped with ‘bridesmaid’. Ideas might be:

A piece of jewellery with their initial/name on it; I actually love the Tiffany/Elsa Peretti initial necklaces;

A simple piece of jewellery such as stud earrings;

Nice quality robes (I’ve seen some lovely silk floral ones);

Good quality champagne flutes or wine glasses (just buy a pair for each of them as most people don’t like odd glasses);

Toiletries/cosmetics: to make it more personal you could choose the same brand, but maybe different products eg body scrub for one, hand cream for another, etc, or nail polish but in their favourite colours;

Swarovski nail file (I LOVE mine; it’s glass so doesn’t wear out, and it just feels nice; also does a much better job than cheapy ones, and looks nice in your handbag);

Clutch bag (most women I know use clutches; likewise, most I know favour large purses (wallets?) so that’s another option)

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