(Closed) What men don't know about wedding planning….

posted 7 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 32
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2012

@Ms_Purple:  LOL to the Bride Wars quote!

 

I was most surprised about my Husband’s lack of understanding about the little things like programs, favors, cake topper, seating chart/place cards, chair decor, etc.  I did go a bit Etsy crazy when planning but still! He would be so confused.

 

I found it best to give him his own to-do list to let him feel included (I let him pick the honeymoon spot, his ring, and most of the songs on the playlist which he loved doing)!

Post # 33
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

My Fiance thinks he knows everything and know absolutely nothing. Here is the list:

1. Apple Butter Favors

FI-I don’t eat a lot of butter and that sounds nasty. I thought we were doing Jam…how did the butter happen???

2. The wedding dress

“How did you spend so much on a dress and leave it at the store? what happens if they lose it or the shop burns down?” I had to explain that the designer makes the dress 

3. Programs

“Why do we need a program? We aren’t putting on a Braodway show?”

4. Flowers

What flowers are we using? I like rose i want roses all around!’

Me-We have roses but also other flowers! Then I Named a few

 

FI- are you sure? Roses are fine by themselves. 

Post # 34
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Fiance is surprised by a lot of the costs involved.

Because I usually drag Fiance along shopping with me, he just assumed he’d be coming dress shopping with me. LOL. No. I told him he couldn’t see my dress, or me in my dress until our wedding day. He thinks this is so rude because I got to see his suit.

Before buying his suit, he thought him and his groomsmen suits would be the same colour as the bridesmaid dresses. He was very relieved when I told him that only the ties had to be the same colour. 🙂

Post # 35
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

These are hilarious.

Months after doing a tasting with the caterer and deciding on a preliminary menu we liked Fiance was surprised that we weren’t doing a champagne toast. Uh, did we taste champagne or talk about doing one before now? no! He assumed it was automatically part of the plan. I told him we could but since we hadn’t talked about it before, we’d have to talk about the cost that would add. He was shocked that they would charge for that, on top of the wine we’re having at the bar. Of course they charge for it! Especially if it’s passed out by waiters.

He also keeps mentioning all this stuff that would have to be done day of and implying that we could do it. No dear, we’re paying vendors to do everything. We only get 2 hours before the ceremony for setup. I’m not going to be putting candles on tables and hanging lanterns from a tent in my wedding dress as guests are arriving!

He also doesn’t understand the need to keep doing things. Like he should get to take a month off after booking a DJ. Sure, we got one thing done but there are a million more to do! 

Post # 37
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

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@Ms_Purple:  LMAO!!!

Post # 38
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@Ms_Purple:  LOL.  My Fiance didn’t realize that we actually had to send out invitations. He figured that we’d just call eveyone a month before our wedding.  We’re having a small wedding, but…  He also can’t understand why my dress needs minor alterations (“For that price it should already fit you.” were his exact words).

 

 

Post # 39
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

To be fair to him, mine knew a lot of stuff. But I think he thought some of it happened by magic! He didn’t seem aware of how much time and effort everything takes. A week out from the wedding, his “to do list” had three things in it! I did five things that morning! Never mind. He totally appreciated eerything when he saw it all 🙂

Post # 40
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

haha! DH wasn’t too bad, although he thought it was ridiculous how much I cared about the small details.  His ‘dumbest’ moment was when I wanted to start setting up our registries – he said nobody even knew what a registry was so nobody would use it! LOL.  So I asked one of his friends (some of them are kinda ghetto (literally, nobody get offended)) so they would be the least likely to know, and he was like obviously, it’s where the couple lists things they want so you can buy them a good wedding gift! So… DH had to give in on the registries haha

Post # 41
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

My fiance just thinks everything is way too expensive.  Our venue cost $16,500 which he was baffled by.  I have to keep reminding him that its for the space for both ceremony and reception, dj, 4 course meal, cocktail hour foods, late night foods and late night stations, open bar and all linens/chair covers for 140 people plus all gratuities.

 

Every wedding band I look at he thinks is too much, but the most expensive one is $529!  He hates the cost of photography and thinks we should just use the pics that our guests take to make our wedding album.  He didn’t realize that he had to make a speech too, thought it was just me (He hates public speaking so I agreed to do a joint speech where I would do most of it, he’d just have to say a few words).

 

My fiance also wasn’t aware that we have to buy gifts for our bridal party.  His face was actually adorable when I asked him what he was thinking about giving them.  He was like “what?  I’m getting married, I don’t get why I have to give them a gift?” 

 

There’s plenty more, I’m sure I could go on for hours lol.  Its nice knowing that other grooms are clueless too.

 

Post # 42
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

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@LilRhodyGem:  this is why I stopped telling him prices until final checks needed sent out! We had a fixed budget however I saved up an additional sum on my own so I kept us on track.  It would just unnecessarily freak DH out if I told him and like your Fiance , mine thought 500$ was too much for everything !

Post # 43
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

These have all made me giggle. Mine knew about the rings, but he thought i was joking about the cost of it, and he was massively confused by the prospect of a wedding breakfast. 
He thought it was actual breakfast that we were paying for everybody to have separately on the morning of.  

Post # 44
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

My FH’s biggest hang up has been the prices of things, and why we can’t have certain things due to money or logistics.  For example, he really wanted an Italian cookie bar as our favors.  However, the cookies we priced out at different bakeries started around $16.00/lb.  We would need at least 10-15 lbs. of cookies for our guests, plus the bags to put them in.  After I showed him the costs, plus explaining that we wouldn’t have room at the venue for this, he finally gave in and chose something else. 

FH was also shocked at the price of my wedding dress and alterations.  He almost cried when I told him that it costs $300 so far.

Post # 45
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Haha omg this killed me. My Fi also didn’t know either about the wedding band. He still claims it’s an evil trick us women and jeweler do. That we don’t mention a “2nd ring” so that they spend so much money on the  e-ring (1st ring). Then Bam we hit them with having to spend money again on a 2nd one. He claims if he would have known he would have spent less on the 1st lol. 

Oh I also love how much he realized the plate will cost a person, he still thinks we are better off going to a restaurant  with everyone and spending less. When I told him about our photographer, videographer he almost died.  

 

Post # 46
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@Ms_Purple:  What surprised me the most is how he felt about his tux. “I HAVE to have a bowtie! I don’t care about anything else, except that I AM GOING TO HAVE A BOWTIE!”

Hahahaha…no objections here! He looks sexy in a tux Kiss

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