Post # 1
We’re on the hunt for FI’s band, and we (or um, I) keep changing our minds about what we want. Our first thought was white gold, but in looking at rings in stores Fiance found that we saw basically the same three over and over again (flat, domed, and milligrain) and he was unimpressed. So then he decided to look into tungsten carbide and found a lot more interesting options there. But after looking at all his options, the two rings he was looking at were:
Which are actually pretty simple, and we could probably find in white gold if we looked hard enough. I think he is still leaning towards tungsten though because he likes that it is super shiny and is supposed to never scratch or need to be replated.
I worry about tungsten though because they can’t be sized (which means if he ever changed ring sizes he’d need a new ring) and I know they can shatter. I worry that it isn’t a “forever” kind of ring.
But if I push him towards white gold I’m worried he’ll be unhappy because it will dull and need to be replated, plus it will get scratched.
Then there is palladium, which would stay very white and not need to be replated, but is even softer than gold I believe.
Platinum is not an option because it is out of budget.
So for a couple that wants:
– shiny finish
– no maintenance
What do you girls think? Is there another option we don’t know about?
Post # 3
I have def seen both those rings in white gold, let me know if you want the site. Cheapest I found.
I’m not so sure about tungsten staying shiny. Coworkers ring is tungsten I believe and it’s not shiny.
The thing with the metal rings for us is we think it’s a “in” thing as of right now. we wanted something that was classic.
Truth be told I let him make the decision on the ring. It’s his ring, he’ll be wearing, he should make the decision.
I would show him your research and what you find about all the different metals, objectively.
Post # 4
My husband has a Tungsten ring and he absolutely loves it. He loves that it looks exactly the same now as it did when we got married. He’s also a “handy man” of sorts around our house. He keeps his ring on for pretty much everything. The only time he takes it off is when he sleeps, and he hasn’t shattered it yet. I think you have to hit it at a very particular angle for it to shatter, and it’s not all that common that it happens.
I would absolutely recommend the Tungsten.
Post # 5
We are doing something similar… Fiance would never get the ring re-dipped so we don’t want to do white gold, and he tends to be pretty absent minded (lost multiple rings/watches becasue he takes them off at work, at the gym, etc) so we are thinking of upgrading to platinum in about 5 years when he gets use to wearing a ring every day.
We are actually going with a wood titanium wedding band. Kind of like this, even though my ring is a platinum eternity ring…hehehe
Post # 6
I personally think Tungsten is a great option. My husband looves his! He picked it out though, only fair since I picked out my e-ring 🙂 He loves that it doesn’t scratch and the metal feels sooo smooth. Plus, I only paid about 65 for it at ringninja.com. So if he loses it (which is unfortunately a good possibility) or something bad happens to it, it will be far from a hardship to replace.
Post # 7
@Gerbera: I’d love links if you have them handy 🙂 Ultimately it will be his decision… but I guess I wanted to make sure I have all my facts and options straight before I present them to him. Honestly he is being kind of a “guy” about this and is kind of just like…. “whatever.” lol. I worry the low price of tungsten is swaying him, whereas I think its worth it to spend a little more on a wedding band because it is supposed to be forever.
Post # 8
A friend chose palladium and they are really happy. It doesn’t yellow like white gold does, so there isn’t any maintainance with that metal. My Fiance wants platinum, so that’s what he is getting.
Post # 9
I would go with the ring he really wants. With anything there could be “what if’s?”
I will say though, that my husband’s ring looks really close to your second option (excpet his is white gold.) Don’t know if your open to ordering online, but he got his from Blue Nile.
Post # 10
Palladium is actually STRONGER than platinum. 🙂
Post # 11
@AnnieAAA: we love blue nile! Both my rings are from there so I’ll definitely check it out 🙂
@MissDallasCowboy: Yea i know platinum is actually the softest, but if budget weren’t an issue we’d probably just get it to match my rings.
Post # 12
I think I’m confused by you saying soft…in terms of strength it goes gold (weakest) at the bottom, then platinum, then palladium (strongest).
When we looked at tungsten it made me uncomfortable bc the reason it can’t re-sized is it’s too strong. That also means it could never be cut off his finger in case of emergency, which happens in the ER, so we decided to go with Palladium because it’s the strongest of sizable metals. Does that even make sense haha
Post # 13
We got my husband a tungsten ring (for $40 at the mall) and we’re both really happy with it. It is very reflective and a nice dark color which is cool. It doesn’t have a single scratch while my white gold ring is already covered in marks.
From what I’ve read you really shouldn’t worry about it not being a “forever” ring unless your husband gains or looses a lot of weight. Most companies have replacements policies if you need a new size. They will only shatter if you need to shatter them (ie: paramedics need to break the ring off in order to save a finger and have a special tool to do it)
For us the symbol of the ring means more than the actual ring, so if we had to get a new (resized) ring I wouldn’t feel any less sentimental about it.
Post # 14
@MissDallasCowboy: It is confusing… but I guess there are two factors… softness and strength. Softness is how easily some scratches. Platinum is stronger than gold, but it is also softer. So it scratches easier. My engagement ring is platinum and it is already all scuffed up. As it happens, I like the patina look and plan to just rock it, but Fiance really likes the look of a crisp shiny band. Re: having to cut it off in ERs… I have read a few articles about how that is a myth. You cannot BEND tungsten, but you can absolutely shatter it. Pretty much all ERs and rescue squads carry tools that could easily break off the rings. So we’re really not worried about that 🙂
Post # 15
AAAAh got it! Thanks for clearing that up! I was so confused! And good to know about the shattering.
Post # 16
I’d get the tungsten ring. First, it’s what he wants. Second, the things you are afraid of (ring shattering, resizing) would really only happen in extremely unusual circumstances. If he’s in an accident and his ring shatters, you probably have bigger problems than the ring. Likewise, if he gains or loses several hundred pounds and needs a different size ring, you probably have larger issues at hand than the ring. Good luck!