(Closed) What metal for FI’s band?

posted 8 years ago in Rings
  • poll: What kind of ring should we get?
    Tungsten... if it needs to be replaced it isn't *that* big a deal : (15 votes)
    42 %
    White gold... harder than palladium and replating isn't that big a deal : (13 votes)
    36 %
    Palladium... won't need to be replated and you can get it polished when it scratches : (4 votes)
    11 %
    Other... and I'll explain! : (4 votes)
    11 %
  • Post # 3
    3526 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I have def seen both those rings in white gold, let me know if you want the site. Cheapest I found.
    I’m not so sure about tungsten staying shiny. Coworkers ring is tungsten I believe and it’s not shiny.

    The thing with the metal rings for us is we think it’s a “in” thing as of right now. we wanted something that was classic.

    Truth be told I let him make the decision on the ring. It’s his ring, he’ll be wearing, he should make the decision.

    I would show him your research and what you find about all the different metals, objectively.

    Post # 4
    5977 posts
    Bee Keeper

    My husband has a Tungsten ring and he absolutely loves it. He loves that it looks exactly the same now as it did when we got married. He’s also a “handy man” of sorts around our house. He keeps his ring on for pretty much everything. The only time he takes it off is when he sleeps, and he hasn’t shattered it yet. I think you have to hit it at a very particular angle for it to shatter, and it’s not all that common that it happens.

    I would absolutely recommend the Tungsten.

    Post # 5
    149 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    We are doing something similar… Fiance would never get the ring re-dipped so we don’t want to do white gold, and he tends to be pretty absent minded (lost multiple rings/watches becasue he takes them off at work, at the gym, etc) so we are thinking of upgrading to platinum in about 5 years when he gets use to wearing a ring every day.

    We are actually going with a wood titanium wedding band. Kind of like this, even though my ring is a platinum eternity ring…hehehe

    Post # 6
    542 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2011

    I personally think Tungsten is a great option. My husband looves his! He picked it out though, only fair since I picked out my e-ring ๐Ÿ™‚ He loves that it doesn’t scratch and the metal feels sooo smooth. Plus, I only paid about 65 for it at ringninja.com. So if he loses it (which is unfortunately a good possibility) or something bad happens to it, it will be far from a hardship to replace.

    Post # 8
    1498 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    A friend chose palladium and they are really happy.  It doesn’t yellow like white gold does, so there isn’t any maintainance with that metal.  My Fiance wants platinum, so that’s what he is getting.

    Post # 9
    5271 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2009

    I would go with the ring he really wants. With anything there could be “what if’s?”

    I will say though, that my husband’s ring looks really close to your second option (excpet his is white gold.) Don’t know if your open to ordering online, but he got his from Blue Nile.

    Post # 10
    342 posts
    Helper bee

    Palladium is actually STRONGER than platinum.  ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 12
    342 posts
    Helper bee

    I think I’m confused by you saying soft…in terms of strength it goes gold (weakest) at the bottom, then platinum, then palladium (strongest). 

    When we looked at tungsten it made me uncomfortable bc the reason it can’t re-sized is it’s too strong.  That also means it could never be cut off his finger in case of emergency, which happens in the ER, so we decided to go with Palladium because it’s the strongest of sizable metals.  Does that even make sense haha

    Post # 13
    433 posts
    Helper bee

    We got my husband a tungsten ring (for $40 at the mall) and we’re both really happy with it. It is very reflective and a nice dark color which is cool. It doesn’t have a single scratch while my white gold ring is already covered in marks.

    From what I’ve read you really shouldn’t worry about it not being a “forever” ring unless your husband gains or looses a lot of weight. Most companies have replacements policies if you need a new size. They will only shatter if you need to shatter them (ie: paramedics need to break the ring off in order to save a finger and have a special tool to do it)

    For us the symbol of the ring means more than the actual ring, so if we had to get a new (resized) ring I wouldn’t feel any less sentimental about it.



    Post # 15
    342 posts
    Helper bee

    AAAAh got it!   Thanks for clearing that up!  I was so confused!  And good to know about the shattering.

    Post # 16
    2004 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2008

    I’d get the tungsten ring. First, it’s what he wants. Second, the things you are afraid of (ring shattering, resizing) would really only happen in extremely unusual circumstances. If he’s in an accident and his ring shatters, you probably have bigger problems than the ring. Likewise, if he gains or loses several hundred pounds and needs a different size ring, you probably have larger issues at hand than the ring. Good luck!

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