Post # 1
So I just got married on Sunday and it was wonderful, but I am having trouble letting go of what went wrong, kind of like Mrs. Lab. I thought if I wrote what went wrong here, it would be cathartic and I could move on to the good parts! I thought we could each write one thing that went wrong here, to let it off our chest and help show others that not everything goes as planned.
My seating chart did not get followed for two tables. I had combined them into one table a couple days before the wedding but had changed the name of the table (they were named after trees, not numbered) on the chart but not on the placecards. There ended up being a table with 4 people (rather sparse), and then another with 6 that did not have a centerpiece because it was an extra table not on the chart. The guests at the table with the centerpiece taken from a cocktail table did mention something. I have no idea if the wedding coordinator scarmbled to get another table set up or what excatly happened but it looked odd.
So share one thing that went wrong!
Post # 3
Nothing major, but:
– During the ceremony, the officiant handed hubby’s ring to HIM to put on MY finger! Um, not so much!!
– Officiant never told guests they could sit down after they stood for my entrance! I JUST found this out because we watched the wedding video…I felt so bad about that.
– I forgot to add my BFF (who was also a BM) to the seating chart, d’oh! My sister (MOH) fixed it though.
Post # 4
I loved my wedding in the worst way. I planned it to the tee & had faith in my vendors (who all came through wonderfully). What I could not plan, however, was my FIL’s attitude & behavior. He is the one negative thing @ my wedding & I am not the only one who noticed. Several commented on the bad vibes/miserable attitude of Father-In-Law. One good friend even mentioned that Father-In-Law “creeped her date out”. Morning of, H asked him if he’d join him for coffee & a trim/shave @ barber shop. Father-In-Law lost it – yelled @ H about how his hair is fine & does not want to be told what to do by his son. (IMHO, mullets are NOT fine). He kept disappearing from the bridal suite (where we asked him to stay) and nearly ruined the processional by being MIA and then appearing @ the bottom of the stairs just as my first Bridesmaid or Best Man was about to walk up. I lost it & started yelling to stop the processional and get his sorry self up there in his seat immediately before he ruined my wedding. (Guests heard the commotion – ugh, how embarassing!). He sat moping the entire time he was @ the reception & then left somewhere in the middle without saying goodbye or congratulations to us. Next day, he came to our room w/H’s aunt & uncle to chat. He said maybe 10 words – asked me what i do for a living (only been w/H for 5 yrs & this is the first time he’s asked!) and if there was a football game on. WTF? Then, he had the nerve to talk smack about us when he got home. He visited w/family that couldn’t attend & told them about “mulletgate” said we demanded that he get a haircut and then went on to tell them that we snubbed him the whole time he was out here & did nothing to make him part of the wedding. WTF? Seriously! Want to smack him. (sorry this is long – been holding it in since last week & this thread just made me burst!).
think this photo sums it up… Father-In-Law on the right, looking miserable & mulleted as ever.
Post # 5
My DJ failed to show up. I found out an hour before the ceremony that not only was he not showing up, but that he told the company he worked for that he couldn’t make it and that company lied to me about it. Also company dodged our phone calls, and now we can’t get our money back from them. So we are refuting the charges on our credit card. Hopefully, this will work. We did find a replacement and everything else was wonderful.
Post # 6
@Meepsie: OMG, that is horrible! Looking at the picture made me laugh, though.
The one thing I’m having a *really* hard time letting go of: we had co-officiants, and I met with one to plan the ceremony script. The Book of Worship’s ring ceremony starts with the husband saying “I give you this ring as a sign of my love and faithfulness,” then the bride says “I receive this ring as a sign of your love and faithfulness,” then they switch. I thought that was too much, so I asked the officiant to strike the “I receive this ring…” and so she wrote in her notes “Only ‘I give you this ring…'” Then she wrote up the ceremony script and shared it with the other officiant.
At the ceremony, the other officiant presided over the ring ceremony, and so he prompted hubs to say “Worcesterbride, I give you this ring.” The first officiant had struck “as a sign of my love and faithfulness” also! At the time, I thought it would be awkward to whisper and correct it, but 5 months later I’m still really sad that we had the wrong words for our exchange of rings. I should’ve whispered the correct words to the officiant, awkward or not.
Post # 7
Here is our list:
1. I couldn’t get the ring over my husband’s knuckle.
2. The officiant called my husband my ‘wife’.
3. The DJ played every single group dance song even though I only wanted 2 specific ones.
Post # 8
it rained right after we signed the papers (outdoor wedding) but it did clear up after a few minutes, my brother didn’t come, we or the DOC messed some seating up (i didn’t care, to be honest – everybody ate! haha), the spa and the hotel messed up billing and payments and people got charged incorrectly at some points, oh, and during the biggest part of the ceremony where you say I do, kiss the bride and all that, our neice burst into tears and ran in the middle of everybody on the altar. If it were anyone else’s kid, I would have been pretty mad (and to be honest, not invited them in the first place) but she’s cute, so we just “re-did” the parts that got drowned out by crying.
Post # 9
We wrote our own vows to go after the vows we were to repeat after the officiant and the officiant completely skipped over them!
Also, we had a small wedding and were promised use of the patio, and then we were told to move out of the way because they wanted to seat diners (from the hotel restaurant) outside on the patio. I was kind of miffed, but oh well.
Post # 10
Just for the record – I was at Melissabegin’s wedding and everything was GREAT!!
Okay, it did rain, but no one really cared 🙂
Post # 11
heehee – mz nightly, I didn’t say they ruined the day, they just were mishaps 😉 I actually thought E’s crying was kind of funny – I wanted her to get up there quickly and be with J so we could finish the ceremony with everybody that was supposed to be up there! It was also funny b/c JB and I are so non-infant people, but thought it was too cute that she wanted her mom.
Post # 12
One of my heirloom toasting glasses was broken. Most of our outside pictures were canceled due to rain. Several guests canceled at the last minute due to swine flu. I think that these were the main things that went wrong. There may have been others but I’m trying not to think about them since all in all it was a wonderful day.
Post # 13
Oh this is a good topic
The one that makes me laugh the hardest is that my manzantia tree caught on fire! I got by branches..and my hanging votives ….when they lit the votives I geuss that the branches totally caught fire. The ran out and got some LED ones and put them in instead. When I arrived I was so bummed as the fake ones didn’t look like really candles at all. I asked what was up and they told me that my tree caught fire. So word to the wise “The SAY votive holders but don’t use votives…use tea lights…they are MUCH shorter
The other things that I have a hard time getting over:
Some people who were important so me RSVP but then didn’t come…or a few came to the ceremony but then left and never came to my reception. I took it really hard and am still very dissapointed
My dress made me SO hot at my reception that I couldn’t really enjoy myself and dance like I wanted. I ended up feeling really tired and ready to go home…how sad is that?! 🙁
The pics are an after the fact thing. But we didn’t give ourselfves enough time for the pics. When I got them back I was so sad and how few pictures I had compared to what I wanted. I was trying to be on time and I sacraficed pictures for that
Post # 14
oh! i forgot one! the entire wedding’s power went out during dinner! hahaha. The DJ blew it and also broke his computer somehow, and the band’s manager I guess sent him packing and found a new one. That’s how I understood it anyway. So the lights were out for a few minutes during dinner, but the band just played instead of the DJ until they restored the power. They had tiki torches out, so it wasn’t completely dark. Clearly I wasn’t too concerned since I forgot about it, hehe.
Post # 15
Best wedding I ever went to:
Groom had pneumonia and looked so ill. He could barely speak. Bride brought the wrong version of her vows to the alter. They couldn’t do their fist dance because groom couldn’t stand up long enough. Both bride and groom forgot what they were supposed to recite after offiant said things.
But? they laughed off everything. In the middle of the ceremony the bride actually looked at the audience and said “ummm so i was in a hurry this morning and brought the wrong version of my vows! i guess i’ll wing it!”. It was just authentic and awesome. Everyone had a great time. No one cared about the mishaps.
(although… I was sad for the couple that the groom was so sick he couldn’t really enjoy the day, skipped the rehearsal, and they had to cancel their honeymoon)
Post # 16
We had a freak storm on our wedding day, so outdoor ceremony had to be moved into the reception room. It made the first part of the day a bit more hectic, but it worked and by then I was too happy to care. Nothing like thunder and lightening at 4am to help you let go on the day of!