(Closed) What NOT to Ask a “Waiting Bee”….

posted 12 years ago in Waiting
Post # 18
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

ooh I know!! I hate this question! There is no way to answer it without sounding bitter, like youve had a fight recently about it, or that you dont care! The worst experience I had was when we went away for a holiday (we had only been dating 8 months) and the next week we went to a sporting event with a bunch of our friends and nearly every single one of them came up and checked for a ring! it was mortifying! I felt bad for the boy because he was getting so much pressure and I was upset because I spent the entire night answering questions about our relationship like “so when do you think it will happen?” and “when do you want it to happen?” well obviously people, I want it to happen very soon but I dont want you pressuring us!

But I also try and think about the reasons people are asking us this… (we first started getting asked 2 months into our relationship!) and it is because they truly believe we should get married. They think we are a great couple who will have a great future together and they want to see us settled down in the traditional sense!

Post # 19
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

WORST.QUESTION.EVER. Idk if people think it will make me feel better about myself or something, buuuut it usually just makes me feel worse..like im “behind” everyone else! But I agree HuneeBee, Ive heard from engaged friends that the questions will neverrrr end.

MY ADVICE? Next time someone asks you this dreaded question..just respond with “When are you going to go away?”Laughing

Post # 20
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656 posts
Busy bee

When SO and I have gone ring shopping and the people ask when is our wedding.. we used to say “tomorrow”.. Now when people ask me if im getting engaged I say “never”.. then they leave it alone.. So has started saying “Oh we eloped already”.. but then when someone who he said that to told his Aunt.. he stopped saying that and now says “when im good and ready”

Post # 21
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697 posts
Busy bee

@buffy, someone posted that question on BF’s FB page… I don’t think he ever answered. 🙁

Post # 22
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317 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

The “When are you getting engaged?” question used to annoy me SO much. Same for “When are you going to finally get married?”- when I wasn’t even engaged yet. I also had a friend get married before me who said something along the lines of “I thought for sure you’d get married before I did!” She meant well, but it was very frustrating. I wasn’t even engaged at the time, and had no date on the horizon. It isn’t a race by any stretch of the imagination, but how is that kind of statement supposed to make you feel?

Post # 23
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394 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Something I found that I thought would give you all a chuckle:

HOW TO STOP PEOPLE FROM BUGGING YOU ABOUT GETTING MARRIED
Old aunts used to come up to me at weddings, poking me in the ribs and cackling, telling me, “You’re next.” They stopped after I started doing the same thing to them at funerals.

Post # 25
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@fuschiasparkles and @HuneebeeY’all are a riot!  LOL!  Those are hilarious responses that I’ve not used yet, but I think I’ll start.

I’d have to say it happens to me ALL THE TIME.  I think a lot of the folks at work and in my family would like to vicariously live through me (and my future wedding planning).  For example, every birthday, every anniversary, and every single holiday, I come back in to work feeling refreshed from the festivities of each event, and I end up disappointing them every time when the realize “still no ring.” 

The worst I’ve received though is “Seriously.  What’s wrong with that boy?” 

Post # 26
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386 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

People ask me alllllllll the time.  I find it hard to respond, basically he needs to be able to afford the kind of ring we picked out and I am sure he will want to propose outdoors (not going to happen in March in Vermont!).

Although most people won’t ask when my boyfriend is around, but people are dropping hints.  My mom even called him a nice SIL to his face as a joke.  And his mom has been mailing us newspaper clippings of people we know from back home getting engaged *cough cough*.  

Post # 27
Bee
1022 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - New York Botanical Garden

haha @fuschiasparkles – I actually laughed out loud when I read your comment, that’s hilarious!

Post # 28
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I hated this question, especially since I got it after only dating my Fiance for 1 month!!! No one ever asked him, I was always asked. Great.

Post # 29
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

I get asked at least once a day…and I had to tell my co-workers to just drop it because I cant deal with it anymore!!!

Post # 30
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394 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I GOT ASKED AGAIN TONIGHT! UGH I just laughed b/c it was just so ironic..

Post # 31
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124 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

ladies i truly believe its more the answer we hate than the actual question.cause the answer is we just dont kn.i find myself having to rationalise alot to ppl that he’ll do it on his own time and we want to be ready(which is true) but while am explaining away ,am asking myself…are u for real?its just awkward!

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