(Closed) What NOT to give as a wedding gift

posted 5 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
9955 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Usually when there is NO Registry… it is a subtle way for the couple to say they are hoping for cash.

(Sad but true)

Would like to know more about the ODD ITEMS you found left on the Registry…

Could they be grouped together somehow into a “theme” gift ? (bunch of one off kitchen things in a pretty basket)

Or do they give “clues” to what else the Bride & Groom might like ???


Post # 4
1077 posts
Bumble bee

I wouldn’t give kitchen gadgets or glassware, because I know my SO and I already have more than we know what to do with! It also seems like a common wedding gift so I would avoid it so the couple doesn’t have to pick between duplicates.

Post # 7
7902 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

I’d rather get a small amount of cash than something I might never use.

Another nice option is something consumable you know the couple likes, like wine or craft beer. One really cute gift we got was money, not much, but packaged in separate small envelopes with date ideas inside.

Post # 8
9056 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

I agree that small registries/lack of registries are a hint that the couple wants cash.  I always give cash at weddings anyway, so that’s no big deal to me, but if you’re not comfortable with that I’d probably just grab one of the odds and ends.  They put it on there for a reason, so they’d probably be happy to receive it.

Post # 10
300 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

Cash, gift cards, something for their honeymoon?

Post # 11
2295 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

We got lots of gift cards to the places we were registered… which seems like a good idea, except that literally EVERYTHING we could think of to buy from that store was on our registry. And the registry got 90% bought out, so now we have no clue what to spend those gift cards on. Not trying to sound ungrateful, because it is a really nice gift. It’s just that having tons of gift cards hanging around to a store you don’t need anything at is kind of a waste and I’m always worried about losing them. Cash is definitely preferable over gift cards IMO.

We got a weird statue thing. Would recommend against that.

Some things we got that weren’t on our registry but were fantastic — the person looked at our registry and saw we had several camping things on there. They picked out some camping supplies they love, even though we didn’t register for it. Fantastic!

Some consumable items make a great gift – we got some rubs and mixes to cook with, that is a really nice gift that can be done on a budget and doesn’t take up space long-term in the house if they don’t like it.

Omaha Steaks Gift box – great gift (pricey though!)

If you can’t get something off the registry and don’t want to give cash, I’d stick to something based off their registry preferences (with a gift receipt included) OR something consumable.


Post # 12
9955 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

I don’t like giving CA$H necessarily either… really impersonal IMO… and one forgets cash quickly vs a nice gift (especially so if it is something heartfelt / thoughtful off the Registry).  But I suppose on occasion it does have its place

On the otherhand… if you find cash too impersonal (and revealing… no hiding the value of a cash gift)

Then maybe you could find an “experience” gift that fits the couple.

Something based on their interests…

Mr TTR and I got a couple of those at our recent Back Home Reception…

One for an upcoming Wine Tasting Event, and another for a Special Chef’s Dinner at one of our favourite Restaurants (Chef interacts one-on-one with the limited Guests invited to this event, and prepares a special meal that has wines paired to each course)

Now our interests are clearly Food & Wine (lol and travel) so anything in those categories were sure to be a hit with us.

(My Dad gave us a very generous Ship Board Credit for our Honeymoon Cruise)

For other folks, one would have to do some more asking around / research.  But such gifts are personal, memorable, and very nice.

Hope this helps,


Post # 13
1755 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I’d consider getting them a gift card for their favorite restaurant when they come home and are tapped out and could use an evening out.  Or, if you know where they’re going on their honeymoon, could you give them tickets to an attraction or a certificate to a restaurant or spa where they’re staying?

Post # 14
577 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

One thing I absolutely LOVE to get is restaurant gift cards. Might not fly with a real foodie, unless you know the good local restaurants, but I’m pretty much just as happy eating at a chain. We don’t have a lot of money so it’s always nice to have a guilt-free night out.

What I don’t need are various kitchen appliances not on the registry. If it’s not there, I already have it or I won’t use it. Curious to see if we get any crockpots, because we already have one regular full-size crockpot and a larger one with three mini-crocks.

Post # 15
1326 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I don’t ever give anything besides cash. 

Post # 16
408 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’ve given spice mixes from somewhere like Penzey’s. they have different themed packages at all sorts of price points. 

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