(Closed) What NOT to say to a first time homebuyer

posted 6 years ago in Home
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 1999

We went thgouh the same thing when we bought our house. Darling Husband granpa would call and tell him he had looked up houses in the area we were looking and tell us we were spending too much and to look in other towns. We were pregnant and engaged and they also told Darling Husband not to buy a house with me because I could loose the baby and then he would be stuck owning a house with me:/

It is kind of like parenting…everyone has an opinion and thinks they need to share it!

Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper

“Wow, you’re awfully close to your next door neighbours, eh?”

“Oh, it’s really near to *insert shitty area here*.  Hmm.”

“So, you’ll need to have the roof fixed up.”

Stuff like that!

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Haha we just went through this a few months ago! How about…

  • You know, it takes a lot of time and money to keep up a house! Mowing the lawn, broken air conditioners, blahblahblah! (as if we didn’t think about that before we decided to buy!!)
  • It doesn’t have a {fireplace/landscaped backyard/crown molding/double oven/etc.}?!?! I’d never buy a house without a {fireplace/landscaped backyard/crown molding/double oven/etc.}!! (well I would, and did!)
  • It’s in a gated neighborhood? I HATE visiting people in gated neighborhoods! (gee thanks, remind me to never invite you over)
  • 2600 square feet? What the heck are the two of you going to do with 2600 square feet? You better have some babies to fill it up!! (maybe we just wanted to buy a house we can grow into and would appreciate it if you stop making decisions about my uterus, thank you.)

Post # 7
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Busy bee

Oh god, #2 times a million. That one pisses me off to no end! I don’t even tell people what our interest rate was but they still love to tell me theirs, and I hate when it’s lower. 😛

I didn’t get anything too bad, but a LOT of people felt very strongly that I should rush out and buy a bunch of crappy cheap furniture just to fill the place, and then replace it with nice stuff later. Well EXCUSE ME, but I’d rather have an empty guestroom for 2 years, than spend my time at estate auctions and garage sales so that I can buy some shitty interim bed just to please other people.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

The only thing a few people said to us when we were building our home was “are you sure you can afford such a big house” or if they didn’t say that they made comments that we were so blessed by Darling Husband family generous donation. Umm, no. First we make good money and are smart with it. Second, Darling Husband parents didn’t give us a dime, we didn’t ask for help nor did we ask for the discount they gave us on the land WE bought off of them. I swear, you buy a house and suddenly people know all about you and your finances.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@bluebonnet: Whaaaat? Someone had a problem with it being a gated community? That’s so weird! I thought people would look at that as a good thing! I live in a gated apartment community and I haven’t heard anyone complain about the gate at all. Some people just need to get smacked in the back of the head.

Post # 10
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

“It’ll all work out.” I was so sick and tired of hearing that ohrase when we were house hunting. It made me want to punch things. Grrrrrrr

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

@CarolinaCola:I know! It’s not even the confusing kind with code #s and stuff… all you have to do is stop and tell the man at the guard house who you’re visiting…

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2011

We’re going through the same thing.  Currently buying our first house, (put an offer in today) and we’ve only let a few people know, including my parents.  My parents are super supportive about everything but also very honest and sometimes it just hurts.  

Yesterday my mom said “well the outside of the house is kind of ugly but I’m sure we can do something to pretty it up.”  yes thank you I know it’s kind of ugly.  that’s why we’re getting a great deal and it will require some work.  But do you have to be so blunt about it.

 

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@bluebonnet: Well that makes it even more convenient! That person just must just be lazy! Our gate has the box and you can either put in a code or find my name and the box will call me and I can buzz them in.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

The first time I went looking for a house (with my ex-husband), we found a house that we liked.  We went to the open house.  We were both 26, but looked younger.

After we toured the house, the realtor took me aside and said, “Why don’t you two quit wasting my your time and look at houses in your price range?”  

We had already been pre-approved for a mortgage and this house’s asking price was about $70,000 less than the amount we’d been pre-approved for.  Needless to say, even though we liked the house, we didn’t make an offer.  We also avoided even viewing any properties listed by that agent after that.  I almost felt bad we didn’t make an offer as we did like the house and it wasn’t the buyer’s fault, but I just couldn’t stand the thought of that agent making any commission from us.

 

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

@Neva:Wow, how rude! I would’ve avoided that agent too!

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