(Closed) What not to say to a pregnant woman. . .and comebacks

posted 8 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

Uhm, can you say RUDE MUCH?!!?????

I honestly can’t believe some people. It’s like you can’t win either way. I’m really curvy, with an ample chest. I’ve already had people talk about how big my chest is going to get when I’m pregnant. So wrong!

 

Post # 5
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828 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

I’m pretty small normally and am retaining so much fluid at 34 weeks, I’m HUGE, puffy everywhere. I pity the poor bastard that makes a comment these days because I’ve been anything but pleasant in response. 

A fellow I work with – the nicest guy, too – came upstairs to my office and said “woahh, you’re getting pretty big there!” I just snapped. I said in the most sarcastic-bitchy tone something along the lines of, “oh yes, I feel so great about myself. I wake up every day thinking, wow, I could not be any prettier” ooohh what a beast I’ve become. I felt so bad. But hormones? Yikes. 

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Someone actually just made a comment to me, but I’m still too angry to respond to them. I lost a ton of weight before I got pregnant and I have some serious body hang ups. One of my biggest issues happens to be my stomach. I had jokingly asked a friend if it would be bad form to kick out a bridesmaid for being prettier and they responded “But you’re the fairest of them all, hair as black as ebony, skin as white as snow, lips as red as blood, and boobs as big as hell.” I thought it was funny so I made it my status. Another friend jumped on and said not to forget that I still have a belly to match the boobs…which I have because I’m pregnant. I seriously can’t even think of a good enough comeback.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2011 - The Providence Biltmore

Any comments about my body other than the standard “you look great” peeve me. Even then, the beautiful and great comments are starting to become annoying too. I feel like they are lying. Last week my coworker complimented me up and down and then told me my face is getting “really soft” as she pointed to her jowls. Erm, that’s not a compliment.  I just walked away.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

My cousin’s wife is tall and skinny, some joke about how she easily dissappears from sight. One of my uncles once said she’ll look like a ‘tied rope’ when pregnant, I’m not sure if she heard but I tought it was really rude.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I’m really tiny and only gained about 15 lb when pregnant. I was all boobs and the little basketball bump. I heard rude comments constantly about starving my unborn child and how the baby would be underweight etc. My daughter was a perfectly healthy weight and my doctor was never the least bit concerned. Why should I gain in my thighs, ass etc because I’m having a baby? For women who are prone to weight gain this makes sense for their bodies. For me it didn’t. People refused to accept it and I heard rude comments daily. People seriously think they can say whatever they want when you’re expecting. I wore my jeans home from the hospital and also took a bikini pic the day I got home. My stomach looked exactly the same as pre baby. Can’t complain about that. I bet you’ll be tiny and adorable pregnant so prepare yourself for some more of those lovely comments 🙂

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

“Boy you sure are getting a big belly there”

“Yes I am but what’s your excuse?”

 

I haven’t gotten it yet but i’m waiting for the day…

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@7-9-11bride: I’m waiting for the nasty comments about an underweight baby because I was in the process of losing weight when I got pregnant, and I’m still losing weight everywhere but my belly and my boobs. I’ve already had a couple people ask if I’m eating enough. Idk, is popeye’s 5 times in a week enough?

Post # 12
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Buzzing Beekeeper

I would hate it when people said “WOW, your boobs are HUGE!!!”

I’d just glare and say “I don’t need a reminder- they’re attached.”

I don’t know why, but when you’re pregnant, people think your breasts and vagina are perfectly acceptable topics of conversation at all times.

Post # 13
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679 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

My Mother-In-Law tells me at least 10 times every time she sees me that my boobs are huge.  As if I already did not know it!  And why do people think you want to hear how big you’re getting?

Post # 14
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

Well I have never been pregnant and a guy came up to me at school and said, “Did you have your baby?”  I looked horrified.  “Uh… weren’t you pregnant at the beginning of the semester?”

!!!!!!!!

Post # 15
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618 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

I’m going to add…..what not to say to a woman who is TTC—-

Relative (who is an old man who thinks he can say whatever is on is mind): “Are you in a motherly way, yet?”

Me: No, not yet…(feeling teary because we are at the point if we find if we are or are not)

Relative: Well, I’m going to have fuss on you when I see you.

REally?!? Like, I don’t put the pressure of the world on my shoulders anyway.

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@Mrs. Bonnie Blue:It’s true though, I’m not quite even 2nd tri yet, and I’ve put on 3 cup sizes and was huge to start out. I hope it doesn’t happen to you.

People are rude. They like to discuss things that aren’t their business. Makes like more “interesting.”

 

@Vegas Pug:🙁  grrr

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