(Closed) What not to say to a pregnant woman. . .and comebacks

posted 8 years ago in Babies
Post # 17
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

another one here sick and tired of hearing comments on how the bump is too small and that I’m not going to have a healthy child. Every time I see my Mother-In-Law, she doesn’t miss one.

Even though all my doctors appointments have been just fine and the baby grows as it’s supposed to, hearing this all the time got me all freaked out. So I asked my doctor about it and she explained to me why my bump is small, which gave me this great comeback: my abs are so strong my bump is small, but the baby is perfectly healthy and the right size.

(sadly, she also told me that this would not be the case for my second child…)

Post # 18
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

An absolute stranger exclaimed “You’re huge!”  I was, and I was well aware of it.  I didn’t need to hear it from someone who had never seen me before in their life and for all they know I could have been huge to begin with and had only gained a few pounds during my pregnancy.  I didn’t have a comeback.  I was shocked and hurt.  : ( 17 years later, I still don’t know what would have been a good comeback.  

If you’re small and have always been small, I doubt you will gain 60 lbs. like I did.  I know small folks who only gained 20 lbs.  

Post # 19
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Buzzing Beekeeper

@2ndtime: “My body is creating a human, what’s your excuse?”

I HATE people sometimes! Definitely not looking forward to the comments this time around.

Post # 20
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I’ve never been pregnant, but I have been able to cry on cue since I was 7. If anyone ever said something mean to me while I was pregnant, I’d burst into tears and make them feel so damn guilty and embarassed that they never say anything rude to any pregnant woman again.

Post # 21
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

@Roux: That’s a good skill to have! 🙂

Post # 22
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Newbee
  • Wedding: January 2011

@2ndtime: I think the come back is “You’re and asshole”

Post # 23
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I just dont see why people comment about a pregnant womans body at all. They either comment to say you are too big, or too small, Your eating too much or not enough. I want to get a pregnant Tshirt that says “Hands off my belly”  and one that says “weight related comments are not welcome”

Post # 24
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

For the most part, the people that have commented on my pregnancy have been really sweet, but there’s a few that stand out in my mind. 

I have a lady at work that has told me every time she sees me that she’s “thoroughly enjoying” seeing me get a “large” stomach.  My response:  Keep up the eating and you’ll have one, too!

And here’s a great conversation I had with a guy coworker of mine: 

  • Guy:  “Hey, Chunky!” 
  • Me:  “Are you married???”
  • Guy:  “Not anymore”
  • Me:  “I’m pretty sure I know why…”
  • Guy:  (slowly turns and walks away)

WIN for me!

Post # 25
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

A few weeks ago, I had a bunch of errands to run at lunch, so I just picked up Taco Bell on my way back to the office.  I went into the lunchroom to grab some napkins, and one of my co-workers saw my Taco Bell bag and commented, “There’s a lecture on women and heart attacks tonight at the hospital.  You might want to swing by there considering what you think is a healthy lunch.”  I mean, the guy is kinda crazy, so I normally just laugh off his comments, but that one really hurt my feelings! 

Post # 26
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

@Mrs. Spring: I would have flipped right out! I’m sure he’s never eaten a french fry in his life right?

Post # 27
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Buzzing Beekeeper

I worked full time my first pregnancy and there was one woman who commented on everything I ate at work. I had a big craving for cabbage and celery so I would eat chow mein a lot, or sometimes just munch on celery sticks. She’d say “Ugh, are you trying to lose weight? You know losing weight isn’t good for the baby right?” But then if I had a cookie she’d say “After that baby is born, you’re going to look in the mirror and CRY.”

Ummm, eff you!

Post # 28
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

@prettylizy: @KatyElle:  I don’t understand why it’s ok to comment on my food choices ever, but especially when I’m pregnant.  Nosey and rude!

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