Post # 1
Darling Husband and I are beginning to think about what, exactly, to call the party we’re throwing in November. On one hand, it’s basically a second, belated reception that we’re hosting because 90% of his family and most of our friends were not with us in December for our actual wedding (weather, cost, time, and space were all issues that came into play when we made our very small guest list). Skipping it is not an option, as we’d like to celebrate with the rest of DH’s family and our friends–and let’s face it; you can celebrate your marriage until you go toes-up! 🙂
It is obviously not a wedding, so the wedding reception label is inappropriate. We’re not redoing our vows or any of that stuff, but it is a celebration of our marriage. About the only thing that’s even remotely wedding-y will be our first dance as a married couple (DH and I are not dancers, so it really will be the first one, believe it or not). Even then, it will likely go unannounced and be a private thing between Darling Husband and I.
So, what do we call this thing? It’s not a wedding reception and it’s not an anniversary bash (we do not trust the weather in the Midwest enough to hold it in December–that’s how we ended up missing about half our guests the first time!). It’s not a vow renewal, either. However, since it’s a celebration of our marriage, we feel that it deserves a label that goes beyond a simple party, since it has an actual purpose.
More importantly, how do we even go about wording invitations? A friend suggested putting “Better late than never!” at the top of the invitations to add a humorous touch, which I like. Short of that, I’m stuck. What do you think?
Post # 3
I think the trouble is that you’re looking for a noun, when all you need are verbs!
Instead of agonizing over what to call it, focus on wording like “Please help us celebrate our new marriage” or “We are having a party to celebrate our new marriage with all of our friends and family.” The noun is just plain party, but you’ve made it crystal clear what the occasion is.
I would actually skip “better late than never” because it almost implies that you did something wrong, even though it’s cute. People usually say it when they’ve screwed up, right? I know I do!
Post # 4
@Lapeaudesoie: Lol, very true on all counts. I like “Please help us celebrate our new marriage”–that would still be appropriate even though we’ll be like a month from our first anniversary, right?
Post # 5
i think you answered your question several times in your post! so you can say something like “please join us for a celebration of our marriage” to get the point across, i think you CAN call it a reception, just not a wedding reception. so even better you can say “please join us for a reception in celebration of our marriage”
that way you can use the word reception rather than party, because party makes it sounds less formal or serious.
Post # 6
@Mrs Grape: Can you imagine anyone in your life who would say, “This isn’t a new marriage! They’ve been married a year AND A MONTH!” If you can, don’t invite that creepy person!
Post # 7
Is your theme light and fun or more formal?
Post # 8
What if you just call it an 11 month celebration on 11.11.11?
Post # 9
@Miss Steinbeck: oh my gosh. I love that.
Post # 10
I suggest “Please join us for a celebration of our marriage”.
I would leave out the “new”. When I read it I didn’t think that your marriage was new or old. It made me think one of you had been married before .
Post # 11
@Miss Steinbeck: Ooh, I love that one! I am stashing that idea away. 🙂
@Lady_Love: It’s kind of a mixture, I think–we haven’t really nailed that one down yet.
@julies1949: At 22, it’d be hard to pull off a whole marriage before the one we’re in now! 😉 I see your point, though. Saying “new” isn’t really necessary.