(Closed) What on earth is my FI thinking?!! A $9 invitation!!

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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687 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@LittleBruin: I’m a little confused..you wrote that you picked the invitation? Did you not check the prices before you printed them?

Post # 4
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600 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Thats abolutely rediculous!

I’d tell him NO WAY. You can find way prettier, and nicer designs for a lot less!

Post # 5
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1927 posts
Buzzing bee

I understand you’re frustrated with him.  And I agree that it was not OK for him to make a decision outside of your budget with out consulting him.  But I spent over that amount per invite and well over $1,000 on my invitation suite so please don’t just make a blanket statement that it’s “stupid” to do that.  The invitations are the first thing your guests will really see that represents your wedding style.  So they are important to a lot of people.  If it’s an amount you really aren’t comfortable with then you need to continue to talk to him.  In my opinion all important financial decisions should be made as a team.

Post # 7
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2116 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Wow, that is extremely expensive and I would be frustrated too, its not nice to call him stupid though 🙂

Post # 8
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687 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@LittleBruin: Ohhhhhhhhhhhhhhh, sorry I was confused! Yes, I would be more upset that he didn’t listen to me than about the price though. Not cool.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee

@LittleBruin:  Thank you.

If you just got the proof it sounds like they haven’t been printed yet so there should still be time for you to cancel the order and find another option that works in the budget.  Tell your Fiance that you are willing to spend the time to get a better deal.

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

@LittleBruin: I totally agree with you. The fact that you’re over budget on a couple other things is NOT a good argument for going over budget in another category–it should be an argument for trying to be under budget in those categories where you think you can cut back (i.e., invitations). His argument doesn’t really make sense. 

Post # 12
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566 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Yikes!  That is a lot of money….

Since you found someone who can create the bilingual invites, can’t you ask him to see other invites that are less expensive?  That way you’re not really wasting time “shopping around” since it’s the same person?

 

Post # 13
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2695 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

I think you need to just drop it and not argue with him over it.  If he’s okay with it and you both liked the design then be done with it.  Also, the invitation is a keepsake too. My grandparents have their’s framed from 60 years ago and it hangs in the hallway.

Post # 15
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305 posts
Helper bee

Yeah, it’s probably too late to cancel them if you ordered back in December.  I agree that just because you are over budget in one area doesn’t make overspending in another any better (but I don’t think arguing over it will get you anywhere now).

Maybe see if the printer will exchange for a different invite that costs less?  This way they are still printing your invites, but maybe you won’t have to pay as much.  Or if they have a different shape so that postage is cheaper (those look square and square envelopes usually cost more postage).

If it’s any consolation though, those are really pretty invites.  And it could always be worse.  When I told my Fiance that it looks like our DIY invites are going to be about $3/each with postage ($2 without) he started complaining that was too much money!

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

That’s a shame he made the decision without taking you into consideration. Hopefully he doesn’t mind paying for it.

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